It looks like it might be over*UPDATE*

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Posted by bemyyoko

EDIT:
FH and I have not broken up. We live together and niether of us has left the apartment.
I am not wearing my ring right now because I want him to know i mean business and i'm not just throwing a hissy fit.

We had a loooong talk about his mother. He also had a long talk with his grandfather about her.

I am 99% sure that things will be okay. It's not going to be easy. And it won't be a quick fix.

But i love this man, and i do not want to lose him. I lost him for a year a while back...and it was the worst year of my life.

I honestly believe he is my soulmate. We are going to try our damndest to make it through the next few days. We are not going to call off the wedding or anything like that. No hot headed decisions. We're going to talk openly about our feelings. We're gonna see where we can go from here.

Hopefully the answer will be down the aisle.

Thank you so much for all of your support and advice. I have saved quite a few of the comments and the FM's to a file on my desktop to read when i'm feeling down or when i need a hug..

i would have been lost tonight if it werent for you. Thank you sooo much.

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Posted by ILOVEBRIAN2008

omg kerri i cant belive you have to go through all of this!!! ok heres what i got out of the whole thing: u love fh, and fh loves u and hes trying to stick up for u so he obviously is on your side with this...i know u dont want him to choose sides bc its his family and the only one he knows but once u are married u are the most important person in his life...his mom will be second to u and thats what she is so jealous of...fh needs to have a serious conversation with her (if she hangs up the phone have him write a letter, send an email, anthing to get her to really listen) and explain that she is ruining both yours and his happiness bc of what shes doing...that he loves her and wants to be there for her as well but she is causing your relationship to crumble, and if she does that he will be very unhappy for a long time and will not be able to speak to her bc of what she has done...his mom needs to realize and recognize what shes doing...and even if she doesnt like u..if he makes her realize how unhappy her own son will be bc of her its gotta make her understand what shes doing is not right

i dont think u should end things with fh but things def need to be resolved before u get married...his mom needs to understand what shes doing and that is soo wrong

im glad that fhs grandfather is on your side, cause that might really help..maybe he'll get her to understand if anything and at least u can stay where u are...however, i think the 2 of u need to get out asap...if fh owns part of the house (im not sure what that means exactly) but can he sell it? that way he can make enough to maybe move out...my mom is nuts and anytime she helped me/did something for me i never heard the end of it...we do not get along unless she doesnt have something to hold over my head...when his mom realizes that u dont need her anymore it should improve...so as soon as u can in anyway please move out, and sell the car...cause then she has nothing to use against u...i hope everyhting works out for the best and if u need anyone to talk im here for u!!!

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