thats right ladies.. today fh called off the wedding. this came completely out of the blue, we hadnt been fighting, everything was going fine.. nothing was wrong.. we even just went to the florist and limo in the past week and he was so excited. he even was in the middle of making his groomsman shirts over the weekend
then today he sent me a message, yes thats right a text message, saying that he thinks hes going to be a s h i t t y husband, and that hes not mature enough to get married and was a moron for ever thinking he was ready. he said he cant provide for himself, and therefore wont be able to provide for another person.
i am completely devastated.. i dont even know what to do. he wont answer any of my messages now, and i just feel so lost.
i hope all of you girls have really amazing weddings, you all deserve it
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Nicole, I am so sorry I do hope for the best for you and hope you can talk to him soon and at least try and work it out or get an explanation- you at least deserve that.
keep your head up and FM if you need to talk, vent, etc.
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What?? How long has it been since he sent you the text message?
Maybe hes having a meltdown and feeling pressure. Just let it gel...see what happens. It might be a mere infraction along the way.
Hope you're ok....
lizzzie35
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I'm so sorry! That is just so terrible! And what a cowardly way to do it! You deserve so much better!
pumpkin744
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I think it is a good sign he isn't answering your calls now. He is probably having some things he needs to work through and doesn't know how to deal right now so he can't answer your calls. Give him some time to think and I'm sure he will cool down. I think sometimes we all get cold feet because this is a major commitment that many people can't keep. It's healthy to have doubts and you can work through it, so keep positive that maybe it isn't over, just a rough patch for him to surpass. Best of luck. We are all here for you.
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Take it from me who's been through that before, it sounds like a very similar situation.... It was prob eating it him for a while... Thats why its sooo sooooo important to do a 'check-in' every so often to see how each others been feeling and how you both think the rel is going! Your situation seems like something that if you give it some time, it will blow over... Talk to him about his fears when hes ready to do so... He'll be back around again hun!
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It sounds to me like he may have had a very bad/stressful day and is being down on himself.
Give it a day or two and try and talk to him. I would not go calling anything off until you guys talk it out.
I know this is hard to do but we are here if you near an ear.
I am so sorry you are going through this!
cedesnyc
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OMG....i don't know what to say other than I'm sorry. I can't imagine what you're feeling right now. Stay strong...we're here for you
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thank you everyone for the messages. i have stopped trying to get in contact with him.. i havent heard from him since 5pm
id like to say it will blow over, but i dont see that happening. he sent my mom a message saying hes sorry but hes just not ready to get married
michesq
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Posted by coley1027
thank you everyone for the messages. i have stopped trying to get in contact with him.. i havent heard from him since 5pm
id like to say it will blow over, but i dont see that happening. he sent my mom a message saying hes sorry but hes just not ready to get married
flairforfashion
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Oh my- this is terrible news. I am so sorry. I don't know what to say! I wish I could give you a real life hug!
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OH GSH! IM SO SORRY! Im sure it just really cold feet. I mean maybe he is over thinking things & when he realizes he is going to lose you that may turn things around. But you definitely need to talk to him. I HOPE IT WORKS OUT!
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I'm so sorry to hear this.
Hopefully it will all work out....and I know its probably not the best thing to hear now but at least he told you this now and not AFTER the wedding---if he really isn't ready to get married now you can't really fault him at least he is being honest with you now instead of stringing you along.
I'm sooo sorry
gbrwneyez1581
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omg I am so sorry that this is happening to you. I hope everything blows over and everything works out for the both of you. What are u going to do w/all of your booked vendors and venue?
Im a Pepper
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OMG nicole, i'm so sorry! we're here if you need us
chicky724
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What?? That is so horrible... especially to do it over a text message.
Do you think maybe he was just saying that so you would reassure him and tell him that he'll be fine?
I'm so sorry... good luck.
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Im sorry to hear this but, give him a few days to cool off. He might just be taking in too much right now and his head needs to clear.
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I;m so sorry hun 's for you!
I hope things work out and good luck to you
Kris2782
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I'm soo sorry hun!
I hope everything works out for you.... maybe he just had a bad day or something.... text messaging that is horrible... im so sorry
Best of luck to you
ELluvsMB
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I'm so sorry. Hang in there!! My sister went through the same thing up until a few days before the wedding even. They're married 3 years now. Best of luck!
