its over

Original post by coley1027

May 06, 2008 09:57 PM

thats right ladies.. today fh called off the wedding. this came completely out of the blue, we hadnt been fighting, everything was going fine.. nothing was wrong.. we even just went to the florist and limo in the past week and he was so excited. he even was in the middle of making his groomsman shirts over the weekend

then today he sent me a message, yes thats right a text message, saying that he thinks hes going to be a s h i t t y husband, and that hes not mature enough to get married and was a moron for ever thinking he was ready. he said he cant provide for himself, and therefore wont be able to provide for another person.

i am completely devastated.. i dont even know what to do. he wont answer any of my messages now, and i just feel so lost.

i hope all of you girls have really amazing weddings, you all deserve it

Ann 52409 Posted: May 07, 2008 07:27 AM

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I'm really sorry to hear that Nicole, I think you guys really need to talk, dont assume anything yet until you hear what he is really feeling inside, you may be able to work things out.

Just Cindy Posted: May 07, 2008 07:42 AM

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I am sooo sorry to hear that. My heart goes out to you

crazeee18 Posted: May 07, 2008 07:54 AM

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i am sooo sorry..i hope everything works out for u ...

longislandlibrarian Posted: May 07, 2008 08:35 AM

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oooo my god coley! I am sooo sorry!!!!!!! maybe he is just in an EXTREME stress mode over finances or something.... (being that he said he feels like he can't provide for you)

I am hoping for you that this BLOWS OVER!!!! hugs!!

Mikeys Meeme Posted: May 07, 2008 09:01 AM

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So sorry this happened. It sounds like financial stress more than anything. Give him some time and I'm sure you guys will work it out.

ilonka020 Posted: May 07, 2008 09:14 AM

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i am sorry to hear this. I hope you can work this out, and he'll come around.

Future Mulligan Posted: May 07, 2008 09:23 AM

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im sorry to hear

are you guys young? does your FH still live at home with his parents? does he have a good job? like a career job? i dont know your situation but i can understand him feeling 'not ready/not mature enough' if he doesnt have a career, doesnt live on his own, etc. etc. it can be scary going out on your own - let alone getting married....so maybe that is where this is coming from? for that i can understand not being ready - but he also should have thought about those things before proposing.....maybe you guys can work it out - if not be glad that this is happening over a year before your wedding instead of years after - i wish you the best of luck - i hope it all works out for you

Jsquared279 Posted: May 07, 2008 09:30 AM

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Wow this is just terrible. I am so sorry to hear about this. I don't understand how someone could be so inconsiderate and cowardice to send a text message with such devastating news. I pray that this all works out for you and perhaps you can work things out. But if not I pray you will be alright and that you find comfort in all your friends and family! I am so sorry this happened. Please let me know if there is anything we can do!

MEMEJOR Posted: May 07, 2008 10:10 AM

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I am soo sorry... Maybe when he calms down you guys can sit and talk about this... I hope everything works out.

redvelvet Posted: May 07, 2008 10:16 AM

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i am so sorry to hear this news. im a little devastated for you too. . i hope that you two can discuss this thoroughly, as adults... asap. ill be praying that whatever the decision made, you'll live a happy and fulfilled life. wish you all the best. u can always come back on here and chat. im also hoping u guys can get past this and still get married soon

fabulousmady Posted: May 07, 2008 10:18 AM

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so sorry to hear that.

JJC Posted: May 07, 2008 10:44 AM

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I am sorry for you but....I think you can do better! what kind of man calls off a wedding through a text message!

Ednkim4eva Posted: May 07, 2008 10:45 AM

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I'm really sorry to hear this....I hope everything works out for you. Please let us know if you need anything.

Best Wishes!

bluekat16 Posted: May 07, 2008 10:51 AM

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I'm soo sorry you are going through this

Maybe it's for the best....and at some point you both can move on or work on your realtionship.

bkposh Posted: May 07, 2008 10:52 AM

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I am very sorry to hear about this.
I hope you get to talk to him and either work it out.
maybe he is just not ready for marriage but that dosnt have to mean that your relationship has to be over. Men tend to freak out about responsibility.

I hope you 2 sort it out and that everything works out for you in the end.

Good Luck!

PoppedInASnap Posted: May 07, 2008 10:52 AM

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NICOLE OMG I am sooo sorry! I didnt realize!!

And omg through text message?!?!

I really hope uare okay:(

MrsCtobe Posted: May 07, 2008 11:08 AM

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OMG that is horrible! Maybe he is just going through some things and he needs some time. I am so sorry for you...don't give up on him

frenchy702 Posted: May 07, 2008 11:17 AM

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I am so sorry to hear this. I definitely would give him some time and then you two need to talk it out face to face. I hope everything works out for the best. *HUGS***