So on my side of the family the youngest kids are my cousins who are all in high school, but on my future husband's side all of his cousins have kids- about 10 under the age of 5 and they are all poorly behaved, at his cousins wedding they ran up and down the aisle during the ceremony and the mom just let them! I've only met the kids once and my FH agreed to just say no kids since my family members aren't really kids and they're first cousins- by the way our venue charges full price for children- and then offering to hire a baby sitter for any parents who need it... but I still feel kind of bad about this, what's everyone's opinion, are we horrible people?
JaimeLin
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It's not bad, a lot of people leave kids out. I actually lucked out and the kids that act out the most aren't coming, guess their parents know they're too annoying.
ldequatro
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The only kids in my wedding are my flower girls, ring bearers and 2 10 year olds who have no choice but to come because their parents are coming and they live in illinois. Other than that, I have a no kid policy
ss451378
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Ok, thanks! FH's sister said their family did it back when they were younger (hired a babysitter), but I just felt bad like I was kind of singling out his family, but I have young second cousins too and I honestly didn't even think of inviting them and their parents said they're already looking forward to a night without kids! And we're only having a ring bearer and his mom already planned his grandma to pick him up right after cocktail hour so she can party! Lol
rcotter90
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I think it's absolutely fine to even make a cut-off. Maybe saying 'no kids under 12' and it's really generous of you to offer to pay for a babysitter! Just make sure it's someone who's used to dealing with a lot of children under five at a time in an unstructured environment. Maybe call around to local daycares and see if they can referr you to a teacher willing to babysit that many kids at once.
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We have a 16 year old cut off, and the only exceptions are the bridal party! We had a little push back from our parents, but they've come around to it. My cousin with 4 kids was excited to have an excuse to find a sitter and leave the kids at home.
katiephoto
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I think it’s completely reasonable not the invite the younger kids, especially if your venue charges full price for them.
Kimberley2015
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The only child at our wedding is the ring bearer. We are not allowing children under the age of 21. We contacted all of our guests with children way in advance that we were not allowing children giving them more than enough time to get a babysitter. Also we wanted the adults to have a night out as well.
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We're not having kids either. The later it gets the worse they behave and then the parents don't even get to have a good time because they're watching them. If it's what you want don't feel bad about it! People will understand, they should anyway.
summerbridejen2015
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believe it or not, most people would rather have it that way to find an excuse without feeling guilty of leaving the kids with a sitter! I love going to a non kid event as a parent to get away for a while :)
BOUSA312
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You are not horrible people at all. We are having absolutely no kids at all, we don't feel bad about it, and the parents are glad they are going to be able to enjoy themselves rather than watching their kids all night.
ChristineNicole
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Only little kids that will be at my wedding will be the flower girl and ring bearer. I will also be having my second cousins who will be 14 and 16 by the time I get married. I spend almost every single holiday with them and I can't imagine not having them be a part of my day. I don't think you are horrible at all or should feel bad about not wanting kids at your wedding. It's your day!
okellies
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FH and I flat out said no kids at our wedding. The youngest person at the wedding will be 16 and they're not kids at that point.
I have first and second cousins who are under 12. It's my day and I do not want to have to deal with kids yet. That's the next phase of my life, lol!
FutureMrsPonce
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It's your wedding don't feel bad. The only kids I'm inviting are in the bridal party.
Rorelai
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We don't have that many kids to invite in the first place, but the only one allowed is my FH's niece, who will be 3. I really didn't want kids but I love her and want her to be involved in some way, especially since I was adamant that I don't want a flower girl (much to my FMIL's silent disdain). I'm even telling my half-brother his 2 kids can't come but they are TERRORS.
ss451378
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Ok good, thank you all so much hearing other people feel the same way really does help me feel better about this decision! At my FH cousin's wedding these kids turned the reception into their play ground running around the dance floor having a dandy old time, no adults were even able to dance and I'm not sure if it's because it was Oklahoma, but the bride and groom left at 8 pm when the party was supossed to be over at 11 pm! I just can't help, for seeing this happening at my wedding!!
Lisa715
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From day 1, I said no kids. FH fought with me on inviting his nieces and nephews, I compromised and said those will be the only kids invited and will be leaving it up to their parents whether they come or not.
