Re: Listing earlier ceremony time on invites?

We are putting 30 mins earlier than the actual ceremony. Our RH provides an hour for the ceremony. They provide soda/champagne in the CH room before the ceremony starts, then they are led to the ceremony site

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I'm actually very surprised by how common putting an earlier start time seems to be. Guests should know to be prompt to a wedding ceremony, especially if they'd like a good seat. I put the actual start time of my ceremony on my invitations, and was unaware of anyone arriving late. If they were, well that is their loss. Personally, I think I would be a bit annoyed if I showed up my usual 10-15 minutes early only to find out that I'd actually be waiting 40-45 minutes for the wedding to start in order to accomodate late-comers. JMO.

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The RH suggested that I put down the time 30min earlier then the scheduled start time as people tend to run late and you dont want to have guests scrambling to get a seat during the ceremony.

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I wish I thought of this...only bc we r getting married at the RH and I don't want anybody crossing my path last minute and messing it all up

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Me too.. I'm putting 1/2 earlier..

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Personally, I wouldn't do that. If I were a guest in that situation, I would either be a) annoyed that it was starting 'late' or b) annoyed that I was lied to.

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Posted by sucrets4

Personally, I wouldn't do that. If I were a guest in that situation, I would either be a) annoyed that it was starting 'late' or b) annoyed that I was lied to.

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the reason iam doing it is bc y family is always late

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But what about people that aren't late? Do they deserve to have their time wasted?

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Posted by sucrets4

But what about people that aren't late? Do they deserve to have their time wasted?

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well my wedding is mostly family i went to a cousins wedding last year it started late but it was fine with everyone bc we got some had some time to use the bathroom and chat a little also they gave us drinks

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Okay, well I suppose you know your guests.

I know that I would be annoyed, although I might not say it or let it be known. I would definitely be polite, but I would walk away from the event feeling disrespected.

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Posted by sucrets4

Okay, well I suppose you know your guests.

I know that I would be annoyed, although I might not say it or let it be known. I would definitely be polite, but I would walk away from the event feeling disrespected.

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I understand how u fell

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I did a half hour earlier. I'm getting married on a Friday night of a holiday weekend on the South Shore (Long Beach). I figured a bunch of people would be late, esp knowing our friends.

Also, I know my brothers wedding (which was a day wedding) had the actual time on it and it seemed like they got married in front of 5 people. There was NO ONE there on time.

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Im not sure if Ive actually gone to a wedding that they did this or not, however I know that every one I have been to, I've had to wait at the very least 15 minutes, usually around 20-25 minutes. So I dont know if that just means that people were late and it was delayed or because they actually put an earlier time on the invite. Either way, I have come to expect this and a little wait doesnt bother me. If they actually did put the correct time on the invite and people were just coming late so thats what it didnt start yet, I still wouldnt care...I understand why the bride and groom would want most everyone to be there first. So, jmo, but I think it's okay and I'm gonna put 15 minutes earlier.

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I think it's OK to put an earlier start time, especially if it's just by 15 minutes because I don't think people generally expect to sit down and have things begin immediately at that moment.

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We are also putting 1/2 an hour earlier on our invites. A lot of people seem to do that- even the coordinators at the different locations I scouted all mentioned it.

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We are putting half an hour earlier, because The Royalton is doing a Bellini/sparkling water upon arrival, as well as cold canapes. I want people to be able to enjoy that, as well as the music we have selected to play.

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definitely 30 min early.

We just went to one this weekend and because of the weather, we were 20 minutes late to the church!!

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i think i am as well!!

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We are putting 1/2 hour early because we HAVE to stick to our timeline since there is a wedding after ours so I need to start on time!!!

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We put a half hour before the ceremony is going to start! We are late for everything I want to make sure all those other chronic late comers make it!