Biggest fight....I am soo mad!! Please tell me if I am wrong. The other day I ordered the invitations. I put our WHOLE names (first, middle and last) and when I told FH he said he didn't want his middle name because people think its spanish when its italian. So I prayed that I was going to be able to change it in the morning. So thank god, I called in the AM and was able to change it. I took off BOTH our middle names. So I am thinking about it all day and its bothering me that I took off my middle name. (mind you, FH and I didn't talk all night until 12pm the next day because I was mad he was making me change it-but because it really meant alot to him to not have his name on there, then I would do it) So then this morning, the lady who originally helped me, called me and asked me if I made those changes (because I didn't talk to her) and the place that is making the invitations was just calling to make sure that everything was ok on the proof. So she called me and I asked if she could make one last change and keep my middle name on there and she did. So tonight FH and I are at dinner having beer and appetizers and having a nice time and I don't know why (maybe I had a buzz already) but I bring up how the lady called me and asked if I had any changes and it mustve been luck because I didn't think I would be able to make anymore changes, and now I am happy because I got to have my middle name on it. WELL, FH throws a fit at dinner telling me that there are 2 people in this relationship and that I shouldve asked him if he wanted his middle name and that he was teased as a kid and that's why he didn't want his middle name on it. So now, its MY fault that his middle name isn't on there and now it looks stupid cause mine is on there. I didn't call him to ask if it was ok if I had my middle name on there because its MY name. And I didn't ask him if he wanted his name on it because he already made a big stink about it the night before with a fight about how he didn't want his middle name on it and I didn't want to have another fight. So then he proceeds to ask for his keys so he can go home and then proceeds to take his beer and pour the whole thing in my BRAND NEW bag....all over my phone, wallet, mail....EVERYTHING. If you are like me, your life is in your bag.....I AM SOOOO MAD! How childish. Then he left me in the restaurant to pay the bill with WET money and he went home. So, AM I WRONG?? I don't know why he got mad and then completely contradicted himself and when I told him that, he still doesn't get it. UGH!!! Sorry for the long vent but I am soooooooooooo mad!! And I came home and my parents are like 'what are you doing home?' and I don't want to tell them what happened because then it just escalates and I don't need to hear them as well. So I am venting here. Thanks girls!
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u mean make up sex ?
Yeah I have learn not to let FH get to me. He makes me mad but we always make up after I curse his behind out. And we have fun making up
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I am laughing because I was so mad when I left the restaurant (by the way, he didn't leave me standing there to pay, we had gift cards from xmas and I used his money to pay the tip-his wallet was in my bag-and to the waitress...she is lucky cause she got one HEFTY tip!!! ) so yeah, when I left with the PUDDLE of beer in my bag (which was the HUGE pilsner of beer) I went to the apartment and emptied the whole thing out on his bed! And there were wet napkins in there too cause I was trying to soak up in the beer and I wrung those out on the bed too! And then I yelled (sorry neighbors) and told him he was immature and wrong and owed me a new bag. Then I left. And then I went back to pee(cause I wouldn't have made it home) and yelled for 1 minute more about my bag and then left again. And now I am mad about the bag AND the ruining of my night, buzz and weekend!!! UGH!!! Welcome to married life is right. I understand the underlying issue with the name and the childhood. BUT, I did what he wanted me to do and then I was wrong for putting my middle name back on there. If I would've called him to ask him if he was sure he didn't want his middle name on there, he would've yelled at me for doing that. So I thought I was stopping a fight by not even asking because I already knew the answer from the night before's fight about it being on there. YOU CAN NEVER WIN!! And now I think he is embarrassed cause he knows he was wrong and doesn't want to admit it.
mhermanns
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and there will be NOOO makeup sex for this.....until I get my new bag.
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Whoa..this is how I feel right now ..lost for words. But I would of def. kick his a$$...he would of gotten a nice slap on the face for that one..
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I would be pissed about the bag too, you know you did the right thing and most likely he doesnt want to admit that he is wrong boys
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I would be SOOOOO mad! He had no right to act the way he acted AND disrespect you that way. How embarrasing for you!!!! I'm sorry you had to go through that!
You two really need to talk about this. Maybe just cool off a bit.....sleep on it and talk in the morning? It obvioius there are underlying issues with your FI about his name......as he has mentioned already.
Keep the inviation the way you have it......you shouldn't have to give up part of your name. Be there for your FI and understand like you have been doing and then go from there and see what happens.
I hope you work it out with each other.......
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and there will be NOOO makeup sex for this.....until I get my new bag.
I think even if he brought you the bag you shouldnt give him any...I say no sex for a whole year period.
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Posted by mhermanns
and there will be NOOO makeup sex for this.....until I get my new bag.
I think even if he brought you the bag you shouldnt give him any...I say no sex for a whole year period.
Hmmmm, wonder how many bags she can get out of this deal?????
mhermanns
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a whole year??? Don't you think thats pushing it?? I mean, I want to punish HIM, but not myself!!
PegaLega
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Posted by mhermanns
and there will be NOOO makeup sex for this.....until I get my new bag.
I think even if he brought you the bag you shouldnt give him any...I say no sex for a whole year period.
Hmmmm, wonder how many bags she can get out of this deal?????
I bet she could get at least 3
Elise&Matt
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OMG!!! I would have killed him! no way to act over something so
mhermanns
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3 bags?!?!? Now you are talking my language! I might be able to hold out for 3....might
bettybcafe
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a whole year??? Don't you think thats pushing it?? I mean, I want to punish HIM, but not myself!!
Ok...my anger got to me lol...go as many months as you can..
mhermanns
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lol..i know how you feel...trust me.
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Sucha dumb fight- yet we all have them. Sometimes while we are having a dumb fight I start to laugh a little and it makes it worse- but I can't help it! Weddings are stressful and def cause fights. Guys have the weirdest things they care about when it comes to weddings. Sometimes I wish I took all this money and went to bora bora for a month...
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I guess that everyone has their bad days.......i hope that it has blown over by now but as an aside about the invitations- I don't have a middle name and FH does I never thought that our wedding invitations would look stupid....i hope not anyway.
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Ugh, men can be such jerks sometimes. Is it possible that he is upset over something else and overacting about the invitations just to vent some frustration. My FH does that... He'll be upset about one thing and instead of discussing it, he'll just blow his top on something trivial. And then we are left to figure out what the heck just happened!
metoometoometoometoometoometoometoometoometoo!
Mine does that all the time. He blew up on me the other day when he was blatantly wrong because he said,it's not that he didn't KNOW he was wrong, HE KNEW: he just didn't want to concede to my argument bc he's sick of me always being right.
how stupid is that?
I go through the same thing too. Mine also pulls the 'I didn't want that and I told you that' when he never said anything about it other than 'whatever you want honey.' They are so annoying!
I would have been so pissed off if my FH did that to me at the restaurant. I applaud your 'No make up sex' until you get a new bag rule. Hold your own girlfriend!
Men are such babies sometimes! Ugh! But that was disrespectful b.s. he pulled and I really hope he realizes how immature his behavior was. Good luck and get an even better bag!
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First sorry he is being such a d1ck. Second he is lucky he is with you and not me. I am a rather vengeful person and prob would have cut the crotches out of his fav pants or kept his wallet and bought a new purse with its contents. Third I didn't even ask fh if he wanted his middle name on the invites. I just put it on. He made a little fuss and I told him to grow up and get over it. But in a nice way. I agree he needs anger management.
stephanief
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no offense, but your FH sounds like an immature azzhole.......
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I can understand being upset about the invites, but then you discuss it... pouring a beer in a bag is borderline abusive if you ask me..no woman needs to take crap like that from a man!