Re: losing and gaining friends during wedding planning?

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Posted by DonnaPWhite1124

yup and you know what? At the end of the day, your true friend is your FH. Thats how I've been seeing things lately.

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I agree 100%, friends come and go. The two gf's that I've known since elementary school are the ones that have diappointed me so far ever since I got engaged. It is weird how people get. In the past, I was always happy for anyone that was engaged. I think with SOME people it makes them feel bad for whatever the reasons may be, and so they pull away.

Re: losing and gaining friends during wedding planning?

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Posted by Deeglasser

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Posted by MLAngelo

I have to say I disagree with a lot of you.

I am no longer friends with someone who I was very close to because of her wedding process. Many of you girls have said you know who your true friends are, and if they are not your friends at the end of the process they weren't your friends to begin with, well... Trust me, she and I were true blue friends since 4th grade. But she pushed me to far during the planning of her wedding and it all spun out of control. The fact that we are no longer friends does not mean that she wasn't super important to me and I think the situation ultimately *****, especially since we share a lot of friends (most of which I don't see anymore, and one of which is my BM), but I lost the ability to trust her in the process and I know she felt the same way about me. I think that sometimes it is as much the brides fault as the BMs because lets face it, when we are planning our weddings we feel like our wedding is number 1 priority, but to most people its just a few days and otherwise life goes on. Because of my experience I am super careful about keeping that in check. Yes, I am upset that my BM is getting married a week before my shower (even though my shower was planned first) and won't be there, but no I am not going to make a big deal or kick her out. Yes I am sad that my MOH is so busy with work she barely e-mails me back and couldn't come out for dress shopping,but I would never throw her out or demote her. Yes I wish my MOH could be at my bachelorette party but I understand she lives in Paris and can't make multiple trips to the US. I don't know I think my experience has grounded me a lot. This is JMO of course from my past experience and from being on the other end.

In the words of Miranda... 'you get a day, not a week, a day.'

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exactly- you put it perfectly... i am also no longer friends with someone because of her behavior as a bride... and we grew up together as well and to be boldly honest, i miss her dearly- i almost feel like my friend died. it's easier to cope with it thinking about it that way because she completely changed during the process. the person i knew and loved no longer exists. she was out of control and a complete b!tch... everything became about her and the wedding, no longer asking about anyone else's life. long story short it was a nightmare... it exploded so badly that she kicked me out of the BP and I was the MOH. i've said this 100 times on every post- i am not having a BP for this and other reasons, i am not jeopardizing friendships and being the cause of resentment and ill feelings. Just my opinion too ladies, i respect all of your opinions as well!

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I understand what you are saying and agree with you also. Some brides are all about the wedding, the wedding, the wedding, the wedding, lol. My one friend, that's all she talked about during her engagement, on the phone, when we hung out, when we went out to dinner. lol. ALL THE TIME, it was like she couldn't talk about anything else bc the wedding was the only thing on her mind -ever! lol. It as ok with me, sometimes when it got annoying me and my other friends would laugh about it WITH her. lol I promised myself, I would never be that way when it was my turn. lol.

Re: losing and gaining friends during wedding planning?

I can relate to this.

My good friend since college has been completely flakey since I got engaged. You know she never even asked to look at my ring and congratulate me?????? How F'd up is that????? But at the same time, I have a friend that I gained because she is getting married too so we kind of understand eachother.

Re: losing and gaining friends during wedding planning?

Ive been so lucky! My friends have been excited as well as supportive through this whole process!

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Posted by missjones2007

me and my cousin isnt friends anymore because she is such a BIOTCH ....she said our wedding not gon last....and im fat and think im all that...i told her if you feel that way then leave the the FUCC alone!

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thats horrible! im sorry you had to deal with that!

Re: losing and gaining friends during wedding planning?

I def agree. I lost one of my very close friends/bridesmaids. She caused a lot of drama and tried to make things about her and ended up backing out of the wedding party. She's dating the best man which has now caused tension between FH and his best friend from childhood. It kills me that someone can F things up so bad and not think twice about it.
On the other hand I've gotten a lot closer with the other members of the BP. They're my best friends and family members and we were of course close to begin with but sharing this experience with them is a great feeling for me

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I kept most of my friends lost a BM and think I am losing one more soon........

I definitely think peoples true colors come through!

Re: losing and gaining friends during wedding planning?

I am no longer friends with my best friend she was acting real funny and being really bitter towards me for no reason. so i would say you do actually find out who your real friends are.

Re: losing and gaining friends during wedding planning?

I agree and it's happening to me too. I decided not to argue with anyone about their issues. The good friends that do care will still make sure I have all my events leading up to the wedding and I'll still have my amazing wedding, whether these people are happy for me or not. Once it's their turn to get married, they should just remember karma is a biatch!

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Completely true. I learned so much about the people around me and how much people will go out of their way to be there for you or to help b/c they want to. I've also seen the other side and I wasn't quite expecting that from people I thought I was really close with. It's definitely been a learning experience.

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I have too. Someone who I was friends with since JR high and now that everything is in the mist of being planned, she couldnt be bothered. But Fh and I became friends wioth another couple that is getting married a month before us.