MASSIVE VENT....

Crashing

Sorry But... You are being totally SELFISH and Not a good friend...

I dont mean to be a b!tch or anything But that is HER LIFE, not urs! That is a decision SHE WILL MAKE WITH HER FH... why woudl you tell her 'I DONT WANT YOU PREGNANT'... That is so not nice...

If you were telling me that, i guess our friendshiop could be over by that moment...

My BM is trying to be pregnant and i am SO HAPPY FOR HER...

YOU SHOULD BE HAPPY FOR HER...
Not being mad bc she wants to get married & a FAMILY

What everyone is saying here is true. I think you are worried that now she will get more attention now that her wedding is first. If she was a bad friend she would choose to get married the same month as you. She has a right to her life and choose what she wants just as much as you do.

You can't tell your BP to not get pregnant. This really sounds like it is all about getting attention. I'm sure everyone can have selfish thoughts like yours, but that is something that should be kept to yourself otherwise people will think very poorly of you.

Don't be angry about the situation be happy that both of you are starting a new life and should be there for each other.

I get that you want to vent and get it out but sorry you are sounding pretty selfish. Take a step back and look at the big picture, you want your friend - someone who you obvi care a lot about since you want them in your wedding to put there life on hold for over a year for one day of your life.
How would you feel being told you cant have your family because I don't want anyone pregnant for my wedding, sorry its just rude and selfish.

You chose to have the long engagement you cant expect people not to get married and have babies during that time.

Im sorry you're upset but I also tend to agree with the other girls.

I understand how you can get so emotional, our weddings are all very emotional days for us. But you're comparing a day to your friends life.

All that matters is that she is going to be there for you on the best day of your life. Does it matter what size dress she has on?

CRASHING.....


selfish selfish selfish... when you calm down, reread what you wrote and how outrageous it is. She shouldnt have to put her life or family on hold for you. If you dont want pregnant BMs then remove her. She shouldnt have to change her life to accomodate you and your wedding.

I'm sorry you're upset but to be totally honest, you really have no reason to be. You shouldn't expect people to put their life plans on hold because you're getting married. If she's pregnant at your wedding, then she's pregnant - big deal. If she's really your friend, then you should be happy for her - it's an exciting time in her life. As for her getting married before you, again, what's the big deal? A few of my friends just got engaged and they're planning weddings for summer of next year. There's no rule stating that your wedding should come first since you were engaged first. Personally, you're getting upset and pissed off for all the wrong reasons. Things will come up that are far worse then this and when that does happen, focus your energy towards that.

Sorry if this response might be a little blunt but I tell it like it is.

I would NEVER let someone tell ME that I can't be pregnant!

Great friend you are

I'm really not understanding what her being pregnant has anything to do with your wedding? Theirs tons of maternity bridesmaid dresses. If your really that insecure that you think her pregnancy will take attention away from you on your wedding day you have bigger issues then a pregnant bridesmaid. The point of a wedding is not for people to fawn over how beautiful or special YOU are its to celebrate the love you and your new husband share and to celebrate the start of your new life together. ..not for you to be the pretty princess for the day. Get over yourself and be happy for your friend who is about to be a mom! thats a wonderful amazing moment in her life and a true friend would be overjoyed for her, not angry about how it might effect your day. sheesh

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Posted by jenclifwed



I'm really not understanding what her being pregnant has anything to do with your wedding? Theirs tons of maternity bridesmaid dresses. If your really that insecure that you think her pregnancy will take attention away from you on your wedding day you have bigger issues then a pregnant bridesmaid. The point of a wedding is not for people to fawn over how beautiful or special YOU are its to celebrate the love you and your new husband share and to celebrate the start of your new life together. ..not for you to be the pretty princess for the day. Get over yourself and be happy for your friend who is about to be a mom! thats a wonderful amazing moment in her life and a true friend would be overjoyed for her, not angry about how it might effect your day. sheesh

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Posted by jenclifwed



I'm really not understanding what her being pregnant has anything to do with your wedding? Theirs tons of maternity bridesmaid dresses. If your really that insecure that you think her pregnancy will take attention away from you on your wedding day you have bigger issues then a pregnant bridesmaid. The point of a wedding is not for people to fawn over how beautiful or special YOU are its to celebrate the love you and your new husband share and to celebrate the start of your new life together. ..not for you to be the pretty princess for the day. Get over yourself and be happy for your friend who is about to be a mom! thats a wonderful amazing moment in her life and a true friend would be overjoyed for her, not angry about how it might effect your day. sheesh

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Well said!

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Posted by jenclifwed



I'm really not understanding what her being pregnant has anything to do with your wedding? Theirs tons of maternity bridesmaid dresses. If your really that insecure that you think her pregnancy will take attention away from you on your wedding day you have bigger issues then a pregnant bridesmaid. The point of a wedding is not for people to fawn over how beautiful or special YOU are its to celebrate the love you and your new husband share and to celebrate the start of your new life together. ..not for you to be the pretty princess for the day. Get over yourself and be happy for your friend who is about to be a mom! thats a wonderful amazing moment in her life and a true friend would be overjoyed for her, not angry about how it might effect your day. sheesh

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Posted by BENETTA2012

I WANTED HONESTY AND I APPRECIATE EVERY ONE OF YOU LADIES FOR GIVING IT....ITS JUST UPSETTING THAT AFTER SHE AND I HAD A CONVERSATION ABOUT BOTH MY WEDDING AND HER OWN/BP'S/BABIES, ETC, SHE WENT AHEAD AND TOTALLY BLEW IT OFF AND DID A 360....THERE'S ALSO MORE TO THE STORY HERE, WHICH INVOLVES MY OWN PERSONAL DISLIKE FOR HER FH AND I QUESTION THE RATIONALE BEHIND ALL HER SUDDEN PLANNING/CHANGING GEARS WITH HER OWN WEDDING....ONE OF THE FIRST THINGS OUT OF HER MOUTH, FOLLOWING HER ENGAGEMENT, WAS 'FH (WHO SHALL REMAIN NAMELESS) WANTS TO START TRYING FOR KIDS BY THE END OF THE YEAR, BUT HOW ABOUT A WEDDING FIRST'...AND NOW NOT EVEN 2 MONTHS AFTER THAT, SHE DROPS ALL THIS CRAP ON ME IN A TEXT....AND WHEN I ASKED HER YESTERDAY, WHY THE SUDDEN CHANGE/RUSH, HER ANSWER WAS 'FH (WHO SHALL REMAIN NAMELESS) WANTS A BABY, HOW CAN I DENY HIM THAT?'....UGH....IT JUST DOESN'T MAKE SENSE IN MY HEAD...BETWEEN MY HEAD AND HEART I AM TORN...AS MUCH AS IT IS ABOUT ME AND MY WEDDING, THERE IS MUCH MORE TO THIS WHOLE SCENARIO....AND I REALIZE I MIGHT HAVE BEEN A LITTLE CRAZY THIS MORNING IN MY VENT, SO I'M TRYING TO THINK MORE REASONABLY NOW ABOUT THIS WHOLE SITUATION.....SIGH....

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Whatever the history, background and scenario is, I still believe it's selfish to be mad about a friend getting married before you/being pregnant at your wedding...and per the original post, that's what you said you were angry about.

If it goes deeper, then it probably makes sense to sit down with this friend and talk to her about the parts mentioned above, but I advise against telling her she can't be pregnant for your wedding, because its just not right/fair. I also suggest you wait to talk to her until you've calmed down since you seem pretty worked up.

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Posted by BENETTA2012

I WANTED HONESTY AND I APPRECIATE EVERY ONE OF YOU LADIES FOR GIVING IT....ITS JUST UPSETTING THAT AFTER SHE AND I HAD A CONVERSATION ABOUT BOTH MY WEDDING AND HER OWN/BP'S/BABIES, ETC, SHE WENT AHEAD AND TOTALLY BLEW IT OFF AND DID A 360....THERE'S ALSO MORE TO THE STORY HERE, WHICH INVOLVES MY OWN PERSONAL DISLIKE FOR HER FH AND I QUESTION THE RATIONALE BEHIND ALL HER SUDDEN PLANNING/CHANGING GEARS WITH HER OWN WEDDING....ONE OF THE FIRST THINGS OUT OF HER MOUTH, FOLLOWING HER ENGAGEMENT, WAS 'FH (WHO SHALL REMAIN NAMELESS) WANTS TO START TRYING FOR KIDS BY THE END OF THE YEAR, BUT HOW ABOUT A WEDDING FIRST'...AND NOW NOT EVEN 2 MONTHS AFTER THAT, SHE DROPS ALL THIS CRAP ON ME IN A TEXT....AND WHEN I ASKED HER YESTERDAY, WHY THE SUDDEN CHANGE/RUSH, HER ANSWER WAS 'FH (WHO SHALL REMAIN NAMELESS) WANTS A BABY, HOW CAN I DENY HIM THAT?'....UGH....IT JUST DOESN'T MAKE SENSE IN MY HEAD...BETWEEN MY HEAD AND HEART I AM TORN...AS MUCH AS IT IS ABOUT ME AND MY WEDDING, THERE IS MUCH MORE TO THIS WHOLE SCENARIO....AND I REALIZE I MIGHT HAVE BEEN A LITTLE CRAZY THIS MORNING IN MY VENT, SO I'M TRYING TO THINK MORE REASONABLY NOW ABOUT THIS WHOLE SITUATION.....SIGH....

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Crashing Again....


I am sorry for being a b!tch again, but that is NONE of UR BUSINESS...
Ur not her Mother or her Father to get mad at the 'life paths' she is using.
She is an adult and should know what she does...

If she decided to get married & pregannt is her decision....

I still think ur NOT ebing reassonably in this one either...

Maybe she didnt want to tell u the truth since the beginning because (no offense) but look how are U acting?!!!

a CHILD is a BLESSING...
and U are mad bc they want to have a baby?!!!

Im sorry but just like You , I am a Bride, but But I dont think u need to be so mean & selfish with this, Even if She is pregnant with a BIG or SMALL belly for ur wedding, U will get attention IF that is what ur worry...

If u were truly HER friend, then THIS woudl NOT matter! You would be happy for her!

Ok... I am sure I am going to get **** for this but I do not care....


Although I do not agree with BENETTA'S post everyone said what they think. There is no reason to continue to bash her.

I love that the 2012 girls are all friendly with each other and I want to keep it that way.

I want everyone to feel like they are able to post something for our opinion and whether we agree or not that you will be treated with respect.

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Posted by mara1017

Ok... I am sure I am going to get **** for this but I do not care....


Although I do not agree with BENETTA'S post everyone said what they think. There is no reason to continue to bash her.

I love that the 2012 girls are all friendly with each other and I want to keep it that way.

I want everyone to feel like they are able to post something for our opinion and whether we agree or not that you will be treated with respect.

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ITA

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Posted by AlexandMike2012

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Posted by mara1017

Ok... I am sure I am going to get **** for this but I do not care....


Although I do not agree with BENETTA'S post everyone said what they think. There is no reason to continue to bash her.

I love that the 2012 girls are all friendly with each other and I want to keep it that way.

I want everyone to feel like they are able to post something for our opinion and whether we agree or not that you will be treated with respect.

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ITA

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Posted by mara1017

Ok... I am sure I am going to get **** for this but I do not care....


Although I do not agree with BENETTA'S post everyone said what they think. There is no reason to continue to bash her.

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i agree .... God knows I've had my bridezilla moments too ... that's what LIW is great for - bringing you back to reality.


@BENETTA, as hard as it is, you can't get mad at your friend regarding who she chooses to marry or have a baby with. It's her decision. All you can do is support her and be happy for her.

ps: what's with the all-caps?