Well, my wedding has come and gone and DH & I are faced with the age old dilemma - 'Missing' gifts.
Now, etiquette would certainly dictate that we say/do nothing. But we noticed that we didn't receive gifts from almost an entire table. 5 out of the 6 couples at one table didn't give a gift. What are the chances? These were close close friends, all of whom are married. All of whose weddings I/we attended (as well as showers, bach parties, baby showers, etc...) & they all received gifts from me/us. I mean, that's 5 couples. I already asked the RH & they were no left over envelopes. One of the people at the table is someone I am very close with, who did a reading, is the only one who we received a gift from. Do I ask her confidentially if she noticed if they had envelopes? What if they got lost? I am too scared to say anything.
The other 'missing' gifts were from my sister (BM), his sister (BM), his brother (GM) and one of my BFF (BM) and HIS PARENTS!!!! Since my sister LEFT during cocktail hour & never came back (she's an a$$hole), I guess she won't be giving a gift.
I'm just really shocked. We haven't said anything to anyone. I am shocked that his parents didn't give anything. They didn't pay for ANYTHING. Not the RD, not their hotel rooms... NOTHING!!!
So in total, that's 5 couples, the parents of the groom, 3 BMs & I GM that didn't give gifts. We only had 100 people. That's like over 20% of the wedding that didn't even give a card.
People are so weird...
mycrayon1
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Posted by denadewolf
I would have to ask all of them. Embarrass them. How are they going to come to a wedding and not leave a check. Give me a break. Weddings are freakin expensive. This was not a free meal ticket. What do they think this is the red cross food pantry!!! Would piss me off.
OK I wouldn't go asking all of them maybe only one. What might have happened (and DH's friends are notorious for this) is one person was handed all the envelopes to hand in and they put them in their pocket and forgot. I would have DH ask someone who didn't give one from the group only because while yes weddings are really expensive I'm sure theres an explanation. HTH
ETA: nevermind
LuckyMe
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I know it's awkward but I would def. mention it especially to your family.
jenn122397
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a friend of ours had this problem (only with one couple though) and the approach they took was 'in case you need to cancel the check, i just wantedto let you know that we did not receive a card from you' at my e-party my FMIL did not even give us a card! and it was definitely intentional so i didnt say anything but for a whole table - thast strange and i would def. look into it
