MOH Help

It has come to my attention that my sister, who is 1 of my MOH;s hasnt done really anything what so ever for my wedding. FH's sister, who is my other MOH has been doing so much!

I know FSIL has been trying to reach out to my sister...but my sister is realllllllllly not into this whole wedding stuff...she is not that type...She would rather wear sweatpants than a dress.
I love my sister to death, but its getting me really upset that she doesnt even call or email my FSIL back...at all.

What bothers me also is that she would do anything for her friends, but i feel like for me, she doesnt bother.

Now, i know my shower is soon....its very obvious to me...and i just know that my sis hasnt done anything....and my sis is a very sensitve person...and i am not sure how to talk to her about it...

any advice?

well you already have an advantage of her being your sister, so you know her best out of everybody.

I would just talk to her and ask her if she's okay. I don't know if saying 'it's been brought to my attention...' would be a good thing b/c then she'll know people have been saying negative things, and it might cause tension. Maybe you can say you've noticed she hasn't been too involved with the planning??

awww i am sorry

can your mom talk to her? but it would probably be best if you talk to her, not to confront her to say youve heard she hasn't done much. I especially wouldn't tell her this before your shower because then you might have drama at your shower if she gets mad that your FSIL said something to you. Ask her advice with your planning and ask her to participate such as 'want to come with me to get my wedding shoes'(dont know if you have them yet or not but something you dont have yet) see what she says and if she says no or doesnt seem interested then tell her in a heartfelt way that it would mean alot to you if she seemed excited for you and if you two could have more of a bond during all this

yea I do try to include her, but she is always working and at school...
I feel really bad for her because she is going through some rough financial times right now and I am always there for her...
I am going to try to talk to her or my mom....cause all of my bm;s are kinda getting upset...and my sister is 25 years old...its not like she is 18...ya know?

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Posted by Espo22

awww i am sorry

can your mom talk to her? but it would probably be best if you talk to her, not to confront her to say youve heard she hasn't done much. I especially wouldn't tell her this before your shower because then you might have drama at your shower if she gets mad that your FSIL said something to you. Ask her advice with your planning and ask her to participate such as 'want to come with me to get my wedding shoes'(dont know if you have them yet or not but something you dont have yet) see what she says and if she says no or doesnt seem interested then tell her in a heartfelt way that it would mean alot to you if she seemed excited for you and if you two could have more of a bond during all this

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I agree, maybe your mom could help you talk to her, or maybe at least find out what's going on?