my cousin wants to propose to his gf at my e-party TONIGHT! (Updated again on page 3)

I just wrote a long post and it deleted itself. Here we go again:

My e-party is tonight and I just found out from my sister that our cousin is planning to propose to his gf tonight at my party. It's a big surprise, but he's very close with my sister. She told him she didnt think it was the best idea, but he is adament about it and said he's been planning this for a long time since a lot of our family will be there. I'm upset because he always manages to be the center of attention and I want tonight to be abot me and my fiance, not my cousin and his.

I'm not supposed to know about any of this because my cousin made my sister promise not to tell anyone so he can keep it a surprise. Can I ask him not to do it? Can I ask him not to come? My sister does NOT want me to mention anything to him because then he will know she blabbed. How do I keep this from ruining my night? I'm having severe anxiety about this and I'm going to be thinking about it constantly.

Am I being crazy here? Please help me

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Posted by MikeandJess

you are not being crazy that is just plain rude. I would tell him to please find a different time to propose to his girlfriend

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My sister made me swear not to say anything to him because then he'll know she told me, when she had to promise not to tell anyone. I told my sister I wanted to say something to him but she wont let me. She said she'll talk to him btu she already did and t didnt work.

That is really rude. Tonight is supposed to be about you and your fiance. I can't believe he has the nerve to even consider proposing at your e-party!

And I don't buy the excuse that it's because most of your family will be there. When they get engaged, they can have an e-party too and have all your family there then.

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Posted by megzzie

That is really rude. Tonight is supposed to be about you and your fiance. I can't believe he has the nerve to even consider proposing at your e-party!

And I don't buy the excuse that it's because most of your family will be there. When they get engaged, they can have an e-party too and have all your family there then.

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I just feel like I want to throw up. I didn't mention any of this to my fiance because i dont want to upset him. It's almost 6pm and my party stats at 8:30. I have to get dressed and ready but I'm just so upsrt. I dont post here ery often but I dont know what to do

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Posted by xXxNovember08xXx

tell ur sister to talk to him ASAP and tell him NOT to .. and he will not be forgiven.

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my sister is going to call him right now. i will let you know what he says

Thats pretty rude, since its something that you really don't want..and after all this party is suppose to be about you and your FH!

How would you feel if he were to do it say in the last 15minutes of your party? That way your whole party is about you and he just gets a little spotlight at the end? It seems he's pretty determined to do it tonite, so maybe if you had that agreement you won't have to worry about him ruining your whole nite?

If I were your sister I would just call him herself and say that she felt obligated to tell you since its YOUR party and a pretty important party at that! And that you were really hurt by it and spent a lot of time planning this day to be about your and FH and that he will ruin it for you if he takes your spotlight. Maybe she can talk him into leaving it until the end or not doing it at all.

Good luck!

I don't care if your sister made you promise not to say anything. If this is making you that upset then she needs to understand that you need to say something to him.
I would just tell him you put a lot of thought into planning the party to celebrate your engagement and although you'd be honored, you feel it isn't the right time. Maybe offer to help him come up with some other ideas. Or ask an older relative, who is closer to him (like your aunt or uncle) to ask him to not do it.

THAT IS SO RUDE! If he wanted to do that, he needed to ASK YOU!!!! How dare he think its ok just to do that. Its not about being slefish - this is your day to shine and celebrate a wonderful new beginning to your life!

If anything I hope he does it at the very END of your party

bc if YOU cant telk to him and u are fraked out now.. you wont ba able to enjoy YOUR party....

your fh might sense that, and he may be worried... then hwo can u both have fun...

thats selfish of ur cousin.. adn he needs to do it maybe AFTER the party whern things are wrapping up if he HS to do it today bc the family is there.


NOT during.. at the end AFTER cake when u are gettign ur gifts ready to go HOME!

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Posted by xXxNovember08xXx

tell ur sister to talk to him ASAP and tell him NOT to .. and he will not be forgiven.

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I agree- that's just wrong it's your night

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Posted by Dr Meg

I don't care if your sister made you promise not to say anything. If this is making you that upset then she needs to understand that you need to say something to him.
I would just tell him you put a lot of thought into planning the party to celebrate your engagement and although you'd be honored, you feel it isn't the right time. Maybe offer to help him come up with some other ideas. Or ask an older relative, who is closer to him (like your aunt or uncle) to ask him to not do it.

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my sister just texted me. apparently he is set on doing it tonight, and he said he can either do it before the party (which is in 2.5 hours!) and ANNOUNCE it at our party (!!!!!!!!!!) or do it at our party.

I dont want himt o do either. I think im going to call him and tell him not to come

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Posted by jasminemichelle

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Posted by Dr Meg

I don't care if your sister made you promise not to say anything. If this is making you that upset then she needs to understand that you need to say something to him.
I would just tell him you put a lot of thought into planning the party to celebrate your engagement and although you'd be honored, you feel it isn't the right time. Maybe offer to help him come up with some other ideas. Or ask an older relative, who is closer to him (like your aunt or uncle) to ask him to not do it.

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my sister just texted me. apparently he is set on doing it tonight, and he said he can either do it before the party (which is in 2.5 hours!) and ANNOUNCE it at our party (!!!!!!!!!!) or do it at our party.

I dont want himt o do either. I think im going to call him and tell him not to come

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you NEED to talk to him.. tell him that hes not invited and will be excoted out if he comes and ruins your celebration

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Posted by xXxNovember08xXx

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Posted by jasminemichelle

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Posted by Dr Meg

I don't care if your sister made you promise not to say anything. If this is making you that upset then she needs to understand that you need to say something to him.
I would just tell him you put a lot of thought into planning the party to celebrate your engagement and although you'd be honored, you feel it isn't the right time. Maybe offer to help him come up with some other ideas. Or ask an older relative, who is closer to him (like your aunt or uncle) to ask him to not do it.

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my sister just texted me. apparently he is set on doing it tonight, and he said he can either do it before the party (which is in 2.5 hours!) and ANNOUNCE it at our party (!!!!!!!!!!) or do it at our party.

I dont want himt o do either. I think im going to call him and tell him not to come

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you NEED to talk to him.. tell him that hes not invited and will be excoted out if he comes and ruins your celebration

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I would definitely un-invite him. And your sister needs to realize that it isn't important if he know she told you or not. Your happiness is much more important. This night is for the two of you!

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Posted by jasminemichelle

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Posted by Dr Meg

I don't care if your sister made you promise not to say anything. If this is making you that upset then she needs to understand that you need to say something to him.
I would just tell him you put a lot of thought into planning the party to celebrate your engagement and although you'd be honored, you feel it isn't the right time. Maybe offer to help him come up with some other ideas. Or ask an older relative, who is closer to him (like your aunt or uncle) to ask him to not do it.

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my sister just texted me. apparently he is set on doing it tonight, and he said he can either do it before the party (which is in 2.5 hours!) and ANNOUNCE it at our party (!!!!!!!!!!) or do it at our party.

I dont want himt o do either. I think im going to call him and tell him not to come

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i think you should call him!!!! tell him that you dont want him there if he is going to do it. He is being selfish - everything cant be about him!

OK, things changed now. Was getting ready to call him and tell him to go F himself and not to come t omy e-party, when I pick up the phone and my mom is on it -- talking to my cousin!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! CONGRATULATING HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He just proposed to his Fing girlfriend.

I still dont want him to come. I told my mom that but she thinks this is 'so exciting' and that I don't own this day and he didnt propose at my party and I can't keep him from coming because he's FAMILY.

My sis said she'll try to keep him from making a big annoucement but he's been calling close family so they are all obviously going to know.

I should have known he'd find some way to do this. What an $%#%$#$@$. I still feel like this night is going to be all about him....

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Posted by jasminemichelle

OK, things changed now. Was getting ready to call him and tell him to go F himself and not to come t omy e-party, when I pick up the phone and my mom is on it -- talking to my cousin!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! CONGRATULATING HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He just proposed to his Fing girlfriend.

I still dont want him to come. I told my mom that but she thinks this is 'so exciting' and that I don't own this day and he didnt propose at my party and I can't keep him from coming because he's FAMILY.

My sis said she'll try to keep him from making a big annoucement but he's been calling close family so they are all obviously going to know.

I should have known he'd find some way to do this. What an $%#%$#$@$. I still feel like this night is going to be all about him....

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WHAT AN a-hole!!!

I would go up to him after the party and tell him how much of an a-hole he is!!! Make sure at his e-party you annouce something big like your preggo or something!!!! what goes around comes around!