My Dad!! What should I do??

My Dad!! What should I do??

I havent talked to him in 3 mnths since Christmas!! He didnt send a card for my daughters B-day in October and he never sent anything for both my daughters for Christmas not even a card and he wasnt going to call me I called him and now im getting really upset b/c it seems like he wants nothing to do with us and my feelings are really being hurt right now!! I was up all night crying b/c I dont understand how people do this!! My poor kids barely know him!! Anyway I dont know if I should just not call him or if I should? Please help

TIA
Valerie

Re: My Dad!! What should I do??

Maybe you could write him a letter (not an email)and tell him how you feel. A lot of times it helps to write everything down and get it out, but it doesn't set you up to be hurt like a phone call could. I'm sorry you're going through this

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Thats a good idea!! Thank you!!

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I think you should write a letter, make the first move. You will feel better and hopefully things will work out. I have been thru similar situation with my mom.

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Re: My Dad!! What should I do??

I would write him a handwritten note or card and tell him how you feel! I had to do this a couple of years ago to my parents (my parents are divorced and both have been in and out of my life for awhile) My biological mom told me to take a hike and my dad and I have been working our relationship since! FM if you need to chat!

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Yes, make the first move. If you don't, you'll always have that bitter unknown feeling. It stinks, but hopefully it will all work out.

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You should definitely make the first move. Sit down and write him a nice long letter. Let him know that he is missing out on important events in your life and the lives of your children. Let him know that you want him to be a part of your life and the lives of your children, you want them to know their grandfather. Maybe by you making the first move he will come around and make the effort to communicate with you on a more regular basis. Remember we are here for you if you need us. I really hope that things work out for you.

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Thank you guys so much this is so hard but I will write him a lettter and boy is it going to be long LOL!! I really appreciate all of your advice and hugs!!

Valerie

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This has happened with my mother and I on more than one occasion, but she always did for my son, she didn't involve him. I wrote a letter to her, like many of the girls suggested. It helped leaps and bounds. And indeed it was LOOOOOOOOOONG, but it seemed the best thing to do, because over the phone, neither of us listened, and it became a screaming match, with NOTHING solved. My hope for you, is that things work out with your father. Keep your chin up. We're here for you

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I'm sorry you're going through this. Good luck with the letter.

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Honestly.. Not to be negative here or upsetting..

I didnt talk to my Dad for a few months because he didnt like my FH and I didnt like his new wife.. My dad and I were very very very close.. My mother used to call us PB&J.. My father on April 5th went into the hospital with what we thought was just a common blood infection.. April 5th without my FH knowing he proposed to me..

5 months later my Father passed away in the hospital.. I went to visit him everyday, but he slipped into a diabetic coma the second day he was in the hospital and he never knew I had gotten engaged..

Do yourself a favor and PLEASE talk to your father as soon as you can.. Do not leave the pages of the story untouched..

Im still suffering the loss of my Father 1 year later..


Please speak with him, personally one on one.. Letters can be thrown out or ignored.. At least a face to face will settle all questions that you might have in the future..

Good Luck...

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Re: My Dad!! What should I do??

I would send him a letter or email like has been suggested. I don;t know if it is just me but I tend to express myself more rationally and heartfelt in a letter. Is there a reason he is doing this? Has he always been like this?

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Posted by SoontobeMrsM

Honestly.. Not to be negative here or upsetting..

I didnt talk to my Dad for a few months because he didnt like my FH and I didnt like his new wife.. My dad and I were very very very close.. My mother used to call us PB&J.. My father on April 5th went into the hospital with what we thought was just a common blood infection.. April 5th without my FH knowing he proposed to me..

5 months later my Father passed away in the hospital.. I went to visit him everyday, but he slipped into a diabetic coma the second day he was in the hospital and he never knew I had gotten engaged..

Do yourself a favor and PLEASE talk to your father as soon as you can.. Do not leave the pages of the story untouched..

Im still suffering the loss of my Father 1 year later..


Please speak with him, personally one on one.. Letters can be thrown out or ignored.. At least a face to face will settle all questions that you might have in the future..

Good Luck...

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The problem is he lives in North Carolina!! I do get scared that something will happen and I am so sorry you lost your father My father has flabitis and i am so scared I am going to lose him!! Thank you I really hope things work out between him and I!!

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Re: My Dad!! What should I do??

Yes I would either call him and take a weekend to see him if you can.. I truly never thought at 57 years old my father would pass.. It was unexpected to say the least and my father never knew I was even engaged at 35 years old.. Funny part was that my FH and I were going out for 13 years before we were engaged.. My father used to tell my FH 'She'll never marry you, shes a Daddy's girl and you arent anything like me' LOL!!

But he is buried close to my home so I go every weekend.. Just wish it didnt have to be this way for me to say I was 'Sorry' for the argument we had..


Good luck...

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I agree with the other ladies. I would write a letter! I am so sorry that you are going thru all of this!

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I agree, I would write him a letter. This way you dont get angry and frustrated and you are able to get all the things out and off your shoulders that is going on. It will make you feel better just to write it and maybe it will help him to break that gap

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Just like everyone else, a letter is the best thing. Just put it all out there and let him know what you are feeling and how you are hurt.