...and I wasn't planning on doing that. How do I tell her?
The thing is, we've got several mutual friends who will be invited with guests, but those people are in serious relationships vs. her, who is not. My rationale was that she'd have other people to hang with but on the other hand, everyone else will have somebody with them.
What would you do?
BHW
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The people we invited with guests were invited wih specific people. The only ONE person we did not invite with a specific guest was invited with a guest because he knew absolutely NOBODY else. Our single guests didn't stay home because they weren't invited with a date. This is why they are friends. It wasn't about them, it was about us and they wanted to share in our happiness. They asked no questions and made no comments.
This is exactly what we did. I honestly don't think people need to be invited with a guest, but I know a lot of people disagree. If I were single and knew a group of people going to the wedding, I'd never be offended that I was invited without a guests. I also wouldn't be offended if the bride and groom wanted to keep costs down and only invited people with guests if they were living together, engaged, or married.
Weddings are $$$ and I'd rather be able to have friends and family there than start making cuts or drive the budget way up just so everyone has a guest. I think you can explain to your friend that unfortunately you cannot accommodate her request.
bride2b24
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well i think once she gets the invitation she will realize that she is not!lol ......but i would give it some time
evnme
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we had to invite a few singles w/ out guests b/c we simply cannot affort to invite them since fh and i are paying for the whole thing.
you can say something like 'we would love to invite u w/ a guest, but we (dont have enough spaces, we cant afford to pay for extra people... etc)'
good luck! i know this is a sticky situation!
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imo, I think you should give her the choice to being someone or not, FH wants to do the samething with people we know that are single but i feel its wrong that we should ask so and so and guest. But thats how i feel cause i been there where family had weddings and they didnt ask me to bring a guest and i felt it was wrong. If i was younger then id understand.. Good Luck
LBride
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There's nothing worse than sitting by yourself in my opinion, no matter how many people you know there! Just picture your friend having a great time on the dance floor and then a slow song comes on and she has to go sit down unless someone convinces their date to dance with her... awkward! My brother invited everyone with a guest and a handful of people said they'd rather come alone, but that was their choice ... personally I think it's because they want to re-live some wedding crashers scenes.. haha
