My friend is getting married a month before me and keeps stealing my ideas - help!

Hey everyone!

So the story starts like this..... my friend has been engaged for 10 years. She finally set a date right before i got engaged - knowing i was getting engaged so its a little fishy from the start. Everything was fine - i am in her wedding party and she is in mine, and her finace is in ours and my fiance is in theirs - a couples thing i guess. You would think this would be a fun time - so did i, until she started stealing all our ideas.

First it started with they were going to have a DJ - then they found out we were having a band with a horns section. The following week - they booked a band with a horns section. Whatever, not a big deal.

Then the church. They were getting married at their reception hall, they found out this beautiful church we were looking at - the next week, they booked that church. That got under my skin a little more.

Next - brides maids colors. i told her we were having a deep red, she picked a rusty red. But we have since changed our colors so thats good.

Then what really got me heated was she found out the bridal shop i got my dress - went there and ASKED TO SEE MY DRESS! I wasnt even there!!! Thank god the bridal shop said no, they had a strict policy on that.

I ****** it up and just started to deal with it and my finace and i stopped telling them details. But then yesterday, i emailed the moms and all my bridesmaids just to give a quick introduction of who everyone is. Of course she was included in the email because shes a bridesmaid. That evening, i get a email from her donig the same thing for her bridesmaids - and get this, she used the SAME copy i put in my email!!! I told my girls thank you so much and it means the world to me they are all going to be a part of my wedding and we are going to have a fun year. She used the same words - same everything - even same subject line!!

Needless to say i lost it. I can not deal with her anymore and i do not want to spend my wedding year planning and getting ready with her stealing my every move. My finace and i should be having fun - not getting stressed out because we have to watch what we are saying around her.

HELP! What do i do? Do i tell her its just not going to work out and we shouldnt be in eachothers weddings? Im so confused and want to get this solved fast so we can move on and continue planning.

Thank you for taking the time to read my long post - venting can take a while ;)