Ok, my MOH, my younger and only sister (she's 23) seems like she could not be LESS interested in helping me plan my wedding (in 11 mos). She came with me ONCE for shopping for my dress. When I told her she's going to have to plan stuff, like showers etc, pretty soon and her response is 'yeah ok when the time comes Ill start planning'. I am a little disappointed at her utter LACK of enthusiasm. She's called me Bridezilla bc I told her she has to plan a bachelorette party more than a week ahead.
Why isnt she getting excited???
Im not really going to demote her, I just want her to be happy and excited about doing stuff like this with me
ps-we have always been really close, which is why Im so suprised
brideinapril
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Because its not her getting married!!
J/K - has she ever done this before, been in anyone elses wedding? If not maybe she doesnt realize whats involved in planning a shower and just being genuinely excited for you. I have no advice really just wanted to send you a show of support!
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My MOH sister is 23 too, and has been extremely unenthusiastic this whole time....until the last couple of weeks. I'm pretty sure they are planning my shower right now, which is why I think I saw the change of heart with her.
Once she actually got to DO something herself instead of just doing what my mom or I told her, she started getting excited.
Maybe some time will help?
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Maybe she's just one of those people....who procrastinate and always feel that they can do it 'later'. Even get excited later when the wedding gets closer. I' m sure once everything starts to get closer...and the countdown is on, she'll come around. Just don't push it too hard that way things aren't said and feelings hurt.
PrincessRose
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<---- Is 23.
DARN 23 YEAR OLDS!!!
J/K
Anyway, maybe she'll come around if your Mom starts getting teary or something? I dont' really know your sister, so I don't know what it is. Maybe she's just not all that into weddings yet?
aimerliny
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Maybe you can have someone else talk to her that will get her motivated and excited.
Might she be jealous that it is you and not her?
kbeana24
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Thanks guys
Im hoping in time she will come around
bridzilla
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I think you and I have the same sister. She was MOH for her BF's wedding and did so much stuff with her. So far, all she has done for mine is buy her dress that she picked out. I went with her to 4 different places to look for her dress. When it came time to look for my dress, she didn't want to get out of bed. But it's fine, I'm a control freak and don't mind doing all of the work. But now I am planning my own shower. It's weird I know, but everyone keeps saying 'You have to have a shower.' But no one actually wants to plan it. I've bought the flowers, sent out invites, now I am looking into a caterer. I love family.
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I don' tknow - I didn't require my MOH (also my sister) to do anything with me. Perhaps you're putting too much pressure on her and taking the fun out of it for her. I know when people ask me to do things, I'm a lot less likely to do them on my own. Just make sure that your mother and other bridesmaids are willing to help her with shower and bachelorette party things...it's a lot of work for one person to do - especially if she's never done it before and never experienced planning a wedding before!
newbie
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Maybe she's overwhelmed but doesn't want to admit it. Planning is not easy and she's only 23. Or maybe she's just a procrastinator. (I'm only suggesting these because I know that I'm a procrastinator and I hate to plan parties. Needless to say, planning a wedding has not been an easy experience for me.)
SeptWed
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My guess is one of two things...
1) (Not true of every 23 year old)...but when iw as 23 i was very selfish, not in a way most people could see but I really was into going out, my friends and such and not really into the whole family thing (i am also the youngest and most of my family had kids and stuff). I was in my brothers wedding party and really didn't offer to do too much..
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2) she might be jealous/little sad that she is not the one getting married and might feel like she is losing you....a lot of people go through it...i have even seen it with people in my wedding party...they don't mean to but sometimes it happens....
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She is probably just your average 23 year old, who can't look 11 months ahead. I am sure she is very happy for you, but it doesn't seem 'real' for her. I am sure she doesn't know all that is involved and is wrapped up in her own life. When the time comes I am sure she will step up and plan your shower & bachelorette. But I wouldn't worry too much about it or stress & put pressure on her.
