My New..dilema..

So.. I got this favor bags for my e-party. The thing is I have the exact max. I can have for my hall. Here is the problem... I am having 'assigned seating'. I can use the bags with the guests' name and table numbers on them on one table when they walk in and then just label the tables. Or I can make up the seating sheets.. not individual cards.. and already have the favor bags waiting on the tables. My mom said oh people will fight over the bags.. because they are old. I can just put the names on the bags and have them on the tables so they don't fight. BUT THERE IS NO WAY I am going to stand there at the end of the night and pass them out. HELLLLPPPP Which choice??


- Bags with names and table numbers when they first walk in?
- Table number/seating on nice paper on the table when they walk in and favor bags on the tables with the names

orr.... without names? THIS IS SO HORRIBLE.. My mom is making it bigger than it has to be!

I would say without names and leave them on the table when they come in...and leave place cards.


i did that with my favors. i left them all on teh table and had them take them on their own.

No one 'fought' over them right?

You made seating cards and just used table numbers right?

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Posted by TheMrandMrsof2008

No one 'fought' over them right?

You made seating cards and just used table numbers right?

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i made seating cards and table numbers...and then placed the favors on it. it was easier for all of us..and no one fought over them. im sure.

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Posted by TheMrandMrsof2008

The thing is the gift bags are one per couple or one for you if you come alone...should I put names?

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i did the same thing with the wine, and they all figured it out...like i wrote above it was one per couple or 1 if you come alone...i posted a pic above to show you how the table was set up...Our guests were able to figure it out on their own...If you really want to then do it, if its gonna be alot more work added on then really don't bother...save yourself some stress trust me

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Posted by Collweenie21

I did the same at my eparty, and no one fought over them. We did one favor per couple too. Everyone figured it out.

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yeah ALOT of people do 1 favor per couple, and i am sure your guests have been to other functions before and will know...its a very common thing to do...They'll see how many favors are on the table and how many they are and will put 2 and 2 together, if one of them sees they have two and someone didnt get anything they will realize and give it to the person...honestly i think theyll get it right away...dont stress yourself over this.

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Posted by Collweenie21

I did the same at my eparty, and no one fought over them. We did one favor per couple too. Everyone figured it out.

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same here.

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by Collweenie21

I did the same at my eparty, and no one fought over them. We did one favor per couple too. Everyone figured it out.

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yeah ALOT of people do 1 favor per couple, and i am sure your guests have been to other functions before and will know...its a very common thing to do...They'll see how many favors are on the table and how many they are and will put 2 and 2 together, if one of them sees they have two and someone didnt get anything they will realize and give it to the person...honestly i think theyll get it right away...dont stress yourself over this.

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Thank you ESPO and EVERYONE.. so I should just put the right about of favors for that amount of people and just make seating charts when the people first walk in?

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Posted by TheMrandMrsof2008

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by Collweenie21

I did the same at my eparty, and no one fought over them. We did one favor per couple too. Everyone figured it out.

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yeah ALOT of people do 1 favor per couple, and i am sure your guests have been to other functions before and will know...its a very common thing to do...They'll see how many favors are on the table and how many they are and will put 2 and 2 together, if one of them sees they have two and someone didnt get anything they will realize and give it to the person...honestly i think theyll get it right away...dont stress yourself over this.

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Thank you ESPO and EVERYONE.. so I should just put the right about of favors for that amount of people and just make seating charts when the people first walk in?

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yeah that will be perfect...put one favor in between each couple, or however you want. Save yourself some work and stress...i drove myself crazy especially the last week and had too much to do, i was beyond exhausted and out of it, dont do that to yourself

ahhhh families!!

ETA!

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Posted by TheMrandMrsof2008

I think I keep doing it to myself. I am so excited after I do something that I run to show my mom..and she always finds something wrong with it. Fh get s so angry that I set my set up for this. Not that I shouldn't involve my mom, but when someone always has something to add..its so .. dissapointing. Granted she is paying for my e-party, I told her I would pick up the favors, thinking I was being nice. Now I was just..and I mean just.. upstairs talking to her..and she goes what about getting some white tissue paper to go along with the blue..THAT I BOUGHT AND HAVE ALREADY STARTED DOING...


My mom is my best friend.. but her always having something to add.. makes me so sad..

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you know what talk to her...alot of people were saying things to me, they were saying you're doing too much and making comments...Ok i understand but saying it the week of the party after i bought everything and did more than half of the things, i didn't see the point of bringing this up to me and aggrevating me, its like ok nothing i can do now, its done with it.

FH said you are stressing yourself too much and i dont like to see you going all crazy and you are beyond exhausted...Well after calming down lol, i explained it all to him, why i am doing everything and how i feel about it. Let her know that you have enough on your mind to worry about and it really doesn't help when you keep hearing negative comments and if she can just please help you a little by not making you worry more...Say you appreciate her input but you feel that everything you are doing is wrong and its hurting your feelings...Say you appreciate everything she is doing for you, but you also really need support right now from loved ones.

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Posted by TheMrandMrsof2008

I just might try this.. its just I want to try things I want to DIY somethings. I just need to learn to stop myself before I go running to show her. Or.. instead of asking 'What do you think?' Just say 'This is what I am doing..so you know.'

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yeah just be like OK im done, here it is if you want to see it...Just simply say to her please mom i need some support for the decisions i am making...This is the e-party and it will most likely be the same for the wedding, get this out of the way now so you dont deal with this for the wedding plans

meg...... u have the best mommy..i loveeee her.. and u know she will be happy with whatever you do.. but I know exactly how you feel.. I hate having this great idea..and having it shot down..which my mom keeps doing too..

she has the SAMEEEEE problem with the favors.. she's like oh you know people will take more than 1 and then someone will come at the end of the night and be like oh where's my favor.. and we won't have one for them.. she wants me to assign one of my bridesmaids to hand favors to everyone.. which is a pain in the ***.. b/c I'm doing coasters for adults/couples and teenagers and kids are getting candy bars..

Maybe people shouldn't be animals and hog all of the favors and then we wouldn't even have to stress!!!!