(1) insisting that her friends be invited and giving my dad a REALLY hard time about it. Not to mention was extremely nasty to my dad's g-friend, who was planning the entire thing.
(2) Made a big stink over the fact that her family could not attend the date that my shower (april 9 -- i was forced to find out about this) was scheduled for. Granted, it was my father's fault for not clearing the day with her first but he was just way too excited to have one happy wedding event that she would not be involved in, and therefore cause no problems. But instead of telling my dad about the date issue, she complained to FH, saying 'if Ted cannot give me the respect of clearing the date with him then i will not give him the respect of alerting him that my family cannot attend.' To that end, FH tells me that 'this will only come back to kick my father, me and even him in the azz.
I'm so miserable. FH and I are thinking of calling off our big wedding and just going back to the place we met - Wellsely College - and having it there.
I'm so sad. Can anyone cheer me up? I need my LIW girls!
gNi1125
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so sorry you are going thru this. maybe you and FH and should sit down with both sets of parents and remind them that this wedding is about the 2 of you and does not revolve around them and what they want. chin up...
I agree! I'm so sorry you had to deal with this crap. Everyone needs to stop thinking about themselves for a minute or two
nygirl77
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If we have to, we'll throw you a shower!! FMIL should butt out - this isn't her wedding!
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Posted by BHW
If FMIL is the one causing the problems, then let your dad plan a shower with your side of the family. If FMIL really wants to be at your shower, then she'll come. If not, she can throw you another shower with her side of the family. If you want a shower, don't let her ruin it for you.
I agree with this idea. There's nothing wrong with having 2 showers if the circumstances call for it. I'm so sorry that you are going through this!
Happybride2005
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i do hope that they reschedule your shower
BrideChrissy
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Oh no! Don't worry... can't your shower be postponed to a different date? Do not cancel your wedding you may regret that.
ML110
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ya know... she is definitely just doig this to create drama and get attention- whethers its becasue shes upset that youre taking her son away or what... its all just for the attention. i would go ahead with the plans for the shower as they were- even invite her side... its just like a little kid: when they are whining and whining about something, if you don't give them attention for the whining, they get over it... i think the same psychology would apply to this.... if you don't let her have 'her way', she'll get over it, and if not oh well- shes the one thats missing out. don't let it ruin a happy time for you. and talk to your FH some more... he needs to be supportive and understand where you're coming from with all this
