Need advice regarding a BM(long)

OK, here it goes. I have been friends with this girl since third grade. Over the years we have drifted apart. I was in her wedding 4 years ago and after a lot of debate and going back and forth in my mind, I decided to ask her to be in my bridal party. Well she really has not taken any interest at all in anything about my wedding. In fact, I moved to Westchester four years ago and she has yet to come to visit me, I am always going to her.

This past weekend, on Sunday was my bridal shower and she was not there. She is pregnant and felt that it was too close to her due date to come to the shower. The shower was about 50 minutes away from where she lives and she is due in about 3 weeks.

Well today is Tuesday and I still have not heard from her. I am more hurt than I am mad. I think she should have called me and now I want to say something to her, but I have no idea what to say?

Please tell me what you think.

Re: Need advice regarding a BM(long)

I would call and say, 'HEY, I really missed you at my bridal shower. GEE, it would have been SO much more fun if you were there.'

Then see how she responds. Maybe after she hears that you genuinely missed her, she will open up a little bit more.

Good Luck to you!

Re: Need advice regarding a BM(long)

BUMP--Anyone???

Re: Need advice regarding a BM(long)

I wish I had some advice for you

I am going through a similar situation with a friend of mine (not in the bridal party), who has turned into someone that I call a 'taker' and not a 'giver', regarding our friendship. She never calls, the only way we communicate is because I call her or email her. It really hurts, but I feel the ball is in her court.

Your situation is much more 'sticky' than mine, because the girl is in your bridal party. I'd say be very honest with her and tell you how you feel in the most non-confrontational manner possible. Let her know that you want thiings to work out between you two, but in order to do so, you must clear the air.

Best of luck