Need honest opinions

I posted a thread a few weeks ago about being upset about fh's bachelor party..as you girls are aware..my fh is going to vegas for 5 nights...I just don't find it necessary...and to add to it..its a totally different weekend that mine is....I keep getting mad at fh and best man..because i feel like they are making such a big deal out of it! My question is how would you feel if your fh went on a bachelor party like this? would you be ok with it? I'm not sure if I am over reacting! A lot of friends told me that they would not be ok with this and feel like 5 days is a little much
P.S. My bacelorette is one night, 2 days

my fh went to vegas for his but it was for 3 nights 4 days...i wasnt the happiest about it but hes been talking about his vegas bachelor party since before we have even been engaged so i didnt fight him on it...but i compltely understand how u feel

my fh went to vegas for his but it was for 3 nights 4 days...i wasnt the happiest about it but hes been talking about his vegas bachelor party since before we have even been engaged so i didnt fight him on it...but i compltely understand how u feel

i dont think it is the amount of time that would bother me... i think you mentioned that you dont like his BM and that you dont trust the BM. I think that is the real issue so then yes i would be mad at him for going away that long with the BM

ETA i just want to say that in general i dont see the necessity to go away for a bach/bachlorette party.

I think you have every right to be annoyed...it is a long time away ....a lot of guys are doing these type of trips now.....Do you think FH would shorten the trip if that would make you feel better ?

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Posted by JB1122

Honestly, I would not be mad. I trust FH. Mine is going away for 3 days, and it is 3 days right before I'll be sitting for the bar exam. I don't care. Maybe I'm weird.

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I trust my fh also! but thats really not the issue..i just feel like 5 nights is really long..its like a friggen vacay for a bparty!

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Posted by jgl

i dont think it is the amount of time that would bother me... i think you mentioned that you dont like his BM and that you dont trust the BM. I think that is the real issue so then yes i would be mad at him for going away that long with the BM

ETA i just want to say that in general i dont see the necessity to go away for a bach/bachlorette party.

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I do trust his bm (thankgod). In fact he is my friend too..but there is another person in his bp that i don't care for

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Posted by lizzie217

I think you have every right to be annoyed...it is a long time away ....a lot of guys are doing these type of trips now.....Do you think FH would shorten the trip if that would make you feel better ?

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Yes he said he would talk to the bm

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Posted by Bride 2 Be

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Posted by jgl

i dont think it is the amount of time that would bother me... i think you mentioned that you dont like his BM and that you dont trust the BM. I think that is the real issue so then yes i would be mad at him for going away that long with the BM

ETA i just want to say that in general i dont see the necessity to go away for a bach/bachlorette party.

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I do trust his bm (thankgod) but there is another person in his bp that i don't care for

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oh sorry i knew you had mentioned someone

ok kristen im giving you honest!!!

i think it all depends on the situation.

if his friends are well off and have the money to splurge on him.. then by all means. go for it!!! if hes shelling out money and they plan on going out for strippers everynight then no im not ok with that.

Be greatful that your friends are doing an overight 2 day thing.. my friends could barely do a full day cuz people either didnt have the $$ or didnt want to shell it out either way i was lucky i got what i got. DHs batch party was much more elaborate but they had a lot more people and alot more $$

Try not to worry it really isnt a big deal. is 5 days excessive sure but they only get to do it once so let him enjoy it!

make plans with your mom/sister/family/friends to do lunch dinners movies shopping while hes away. you may enjoy the quite time soon you wont beable to get rid of him!!

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Posted by Bride 2 Be

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Posted by JB1122

Honestly, I would not be mad. I trust FH. Mine is going away for 3 days, and it is 3 days right before I'll be sitting for the bar exam. I don't care. Maybe I'm weird.

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I trust my fh also! but thats really not the issue..i just feel like 5 nights is really long..its like a friggen vacay for a bparty!

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See that wouldn't bother me at all. I wish mine could've been that long. I'd love if my FH had that long to enjoy himself. If it helps, I went to Miami for 5 days last year w/my girlfriends and he was also fine w/it.

Are you sure there isn't something else eating you about the trip? I saw the other person's post re: your dislike for the bestman...

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Posted by jgl

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Posted by Bride 2 Be

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Posted by jgl

i dont think it is the amount of time that would bother me... i think you mentioned that you dont like his BM and that you dont trust the BM. I think that is the real issue so then yes i would be mad at him for going away that long with the BM

ETA i just want to say that in general i dont see the necessity to go away for a bach/bachlorette party.

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I do trust his bm (thankgod) but there is another person in his bp that i don't care for

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oh sorry i knew you had mentioned someone

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yep! but thanks for remembering my post!

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Posted by Soon2BMrsD

ok kristen im giving you honest!!!

i think it all depends on the situation.

if his friends are well off and have the money to splurge on him.. then by all means. go for it!!! if hes shelling out money and they plan on going out for strippers everynight then no im not ok with that.

Be greatful that your friends are doing an overight 2 day thing.. my friends could barely do a full day cuz people either didnt have the $$ or didnt want to shell it out either way i was lucky i got what i got. DHs batch party was much more elaborate but they had a lot more people and alot more $$

Try not to worry it really isnt a big deal. is 5 days excessive sure but they only get to do it once so let him enjoy it!

make plans with your mom/sister/family/friends to do lunch dinners movies shopping while hes away. you may enjoy the quite time soon you wont beable to get rid of him!!

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thanks meg! I appreciate your honesty! And im definately not complaining about my bparty!! in fact im thrilled with that! but its just 5 days seems alittle much and i feel like his bp is looking foward to that more than the wedding

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Posted by JB1122

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Posted by Bride 2 Be

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Posted by JB1122

Honestly, I would not be mad. I trust FH. Mine is going away for 3 days, and it is 3 days right before I'll be sitting for the bar exam. I don't care. Maybe I'm weird.

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I trust my fh also! but thats really not the issue..i just feel like 5 nights is really long..its like a friggen vacay for a bparty!

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See that wouldn't bother me at all. I wish mine could've been that long. I'd love if my FH had that long to enjoy himself. If it helps, I went to Miami for 5 days last year w/my girlfriends and he was also fine w/it.

Are you sure there isn't something else eating you about the trip? I saw the other person's post re: your dislike for the bestman...

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thanks for your honesty...I love the bm! in fact he is my friend too..but its another person in the bp i do not like at all..I just Don't feel like a 5 day vacay is necessary to celebrate your 'last night single' I think the wedding is far more important ..ya know..

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Posted by Bride 2 Be

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Posted by Soon2BMrsD

ok kristen im giving you honest!!!

i think it all depends on the situation.

if his friends are well off and have the money to splurge on him.. then by all means. go for it!!! if hes shelling out money and they plan on going out for strippers everynight then no im not ok with that.

Be greatful that your friends are doing an overight 2 day thing.. my friends could barely do a full day cuz people either didnt have the $$ or didnt want to shell it out either way i was lucky i got what i got. DHs batch party was much more elaborate but they had a lot more people and alot more $$

Try not to worry it really isnt a big deal. is 5 days excessive sure but they only get to do it once so let him enjoy it!

make plans with your mom/sister/family/friends to do lunch dinners movies shopping while hes away. you may enjoy the quite time soon you wont beable to get rid of him!!

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thanks meg! I appreciate your honesty! And im definately not complaining about my bparty!! in fact im thrilled with that! but its just 5 days seems alittle much and i feel like his bp is looking foward to that more than the wedding

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i understand the boy looked forward to dhs bparty more then the wedding also..their boys what do you expect. I think its rediculous to make these partys so big as it is. but hey would you rather him go now and get it out of his system or a few months after your married and then he tells you by the way imgoing to vegas with the boys.

but like i said if hes not paying for it.. let him enjoy it on someone elses dollar.

Jealous but not mad. My FH is also going to Vegas (3 nights, 4 days) and I think 8 people are going -- flying in from all over the country.

My bach party was this weekend -- lots and lots of fun and I had an amazing time -- but it was 6 of us in AC for one night.

I posted this in your original thread, I believe, but 1) bach parties are a bigger deal for most guys, 2) guys dont have bridal showers (this is their one thing, and is one less expense for the friends), 3) a lot of guys have higher paying jobs.

My sis and I couldn't miss work, so we could only do one night. Money is tight for my friends and a lot backed out because of the cost ($200pp for the weekend including transportation, hotel, dinner, club, brunch, alcohol, snacks, etc). FH's bach party is costing $650pp and he's paying his own way -- not totally thrilled about that part of it but I dont want to take this experience away from him and he works full time and isn't a big spender.

I'm a little jealous bc I would have loved to be able to take a long trip like that with my friends, but I had such an amazing time this weekend that I'm just excitecd for him. Ours are different weekends because he was at a friend's bach party the weekend of mine, and it's really not that big of a deal to me.

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Posted by Bride 2 Be

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Posted by JB1122

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Posted by Bride 2 Be

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Posted by JB1122

Honestly, I would not be mad. I trust FH. Mine is going away for 3 days, and it is 3 days right before I'll be sitting for the bar exam. I don't care. Maybe I'm weird.

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I trust my fh also! but thats really not the issue..i just feel like 5 nights is really long..its like a friggen vacay for a bparty!

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See that wouldn't bother me at all. I wish mine could've been that long. I'd love if my FH had that long to enjoy himself. If it helps, I went to Miami for 5 days last year w/my girlfriends and he was also fine w/it.

Are you sure there isn't something else eating you about the trip? I saw the other person's post re: your dislike for the bestman...

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thanks for your honesty...I love the bm! in fact he is my friend too..but its another person in the bp i do not like at all..I just Don't feel like a 5 day vacay is necessary to celebrate your 'last night single' I think the wedding is far more important ..ya know..

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The wedding is definitely far more important, and maybe you're focusing in on the celebrating of the last single night. Is your FH portraying it that way? During my Bach party I never once thought this was my last single night. I know maybe that's the most traditional way to look at it, but I more thought of it as a great opportunity to get all my gal pals together for a GREAT time! I think FH thinks of his bach party the same way - his friends are coming from all over and it probably won't ever happen again. I don't think he's thinking 'my last night before I marry Jessie - gotta make it last!' Maybe you should tell your FH that's how you feel, I'm sure he'll reassure you it's not about this being his last time unmarried to you.

FH was originally going to do the same thing. I threw a fit; Not because I don't trust FH or the BM - I don't trust his other friends.

My bachelorette party was 2 days - One weekend at the tattoo shop another weekend at 80s Prom/Lips. I think that is more than enough.