Need honest opinions

I told my FH no Vegas!!! So instead, they are going to Atlantic City for 4 days and 3 nights. I am not thrilled with that, either, but at least he kept his promise and aren't going to Vegas. He already prepped me that there will be strippers. He knows I am the type to freak even more if I DON'T know what's going on. I don't want major details or anything, I just wanna know if they gambled the whole time or saw strippers or what. I am gonna be a wreck the whole weekend he's gone, so I know how you feel

What weekend is it? Maybe we should hang out LOL!

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Posted by Soon2BMrsD

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Posted by Bride 2 Be

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Posted by Soon2BMrsD

ok kristen im giving you honest!!!

i think it all depends on the situation.

if his friends are well off and have the money to splurge on him.. then by all means. go for it!!! if hes shelling out money and they plan on going out for strippers everynight then no im not ok with that.

Be greatful that your friends are doing an overight 2 day thing.. my friends could barely do a full day cuz people either didnt have the $$ or didnt want to shell it out either way i was lucky i got what i got. DHs batch party was much more elaborate but they had a lot more people and alot more $$

Try not to worry it really isnt a big deal. is 5 days excessive sure but they only get to do it once so let him enjoy it!

make plans with your mom/sister/family/friends to do lunch dinners movies shopping while hes away. you may enjoy the quite time soon you wont beable to get rid of him!!

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thanks meg! I appreciate your honesty! And im definately not complaining about my bparty!! in fact im thrilled with that! but its just 5 days seems alittle much and i feel like his bp is looking foward to that more than the wedding

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i understand the boy looked forward to dhs bparty more then the wedding also..their boys what do you expect. I think its rediculous to make these partys so big as it is. but hey would you rather him go now and get it out of his system or a few months after your married and then he tells you by the way imgoing to vegas with the boys.

but like i said if hes not paying for it.. let him enjoy it on someone elses dollar.

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thats so true!!!! and your absolutely right!!!

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Posted by RisiLeigh

I told my FH no Vegas!!! So instead, they are going to Atlantic City for 4 days and 3 nights. I am not thrilled with that, either, but at least he kept his promise and aren't going to Vegas. He already prepped me that there will be strippers. He knows I am the type to freak even more if I DON'T know what's going on. I don't want major details or anything, I just wanna know if they gambled the whole time or saw strippers or what. I am gonna be a wreck the whole weekend he's gone, so I know how you feel

What weekend is it? Maybe we should hang out LOL!

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Its from wed jul 30- aug 3 and thats a great idea!

Honestly the whole bachelor party thing bothers me but I want FH to enjoy it anyway. Im actually going to Vegas for 5 days while he is only going for 3 at completely different weeks. I would have thought he would be upset about it but he is completely fine with it so there is no way I could be mad at him if the roles were reversed.

If it really bothers you then talk to your FH and explain to him how you feel and see if he can shorten his trip or maybe go the same time your going.

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Posted by JB1122

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Posted by Bride 2 Be

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Posted by JB1122

Honestly, I would not be mad. I trust FH. Mine is going away for 3 days, and it is 3 days right before I'll be sitting for the bar exam. I don't care. Maybe I'm weird.

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I trust my fh also! but thats really not the issue..i just feel like 5 nights is really long..its like a friggen vacay for a bparty!

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See that wouldn't bother me at all. I wish mine could've been that long. I'd love if my FH had that long to enjoy himself. If it helps, I went to Miami for 5 days last year w/my girlfriends and he was also fine w/it.

Are you sure there isn't something else eating you about the trip? I saw the other person's post re: your dislike for the bestman...

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thanks for your honesty...I love the bm! in fact he is my friend too..but its another person in the bp i do not like at all..I just Don't feel like a 5 day vacay is necessary to celebrate your 'last night single' I think the wedding is far more important ..ya know..

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The wedding is definitely far more important, and maybe you're focusing in on the celebrating of the last single night. Is your FH portraying it that way? During my Bach party I never once thought this was my last single night. I know maybe that's the most traditional way to look at it, but I more thought of it as a great opportunity to get all my gal pals together for a GREAT time! I think FH thinks of his bach party the same way - his friends are coming from all over and it probably won't ever happen again. I don't think he's thinking 'my last night before I marry Jessie - gotta make it last!' Maybe you should tell your FH that's how you feel, I'm sure he'll reassure you it's not about this being his last time unmarried to you.

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my fh isn't at all! but his friends are..thats what worries me

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Posted by FtrMrsV

Honestly the whole bachelor party thing bothers me but I want FH to enjoy it anyway. Im actually going to Vegas for 5 days while he is only going for 3 at completely different weeks. I would have thought he would be upset about it but he is completely fine with it so there is no way I could be mad at him if the roles were reversed.

If it really bothers you then talk to your FH and explain to him how you feel and see if he can shorten his trip or maybe go the same time your going.

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thanks! he is going to talk to bm tonight about that actually

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Posted by Shelly9697

You can't help or change the way you feel. I think you should talk to FH about it and let him know how you feel. Maybe they can shorten the trip or at least do it the same time as yours so won't be sitting home worrying!! Good luck date twin!!

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I have ! thanks...

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Posted by LCnAC

honestly, i would just let him go have his fun...besides, the bachelor party is more of an excuse for his friends to go away anyways. I just went away for 5 days to Turks and Caicos with 7 of my girlfriends and he just got back from Key West for a week with the guys..it was just a vacation not a bachelor/bachelorette party. And he missed my college graduation but i didnt even mind. Sometimes you need the time away to really appreciate what you have waiting at home!!

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very true! thanks

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Posted by Bride 2 Be

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Posted by JB1122

Honestly, I would not be mad. I trust FH. Mine is going away for 3 days, and it is 3 days right before I'll be sitting for the bar exam. I don't care. Maybe I'm weird.

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I trust my fh also! but thats really not the issue..i just feel like 5 nights is really long..its like a friggen vacay for a bparty!

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I agree with you.. I think 5 nights away for your bachelor party is a lot. Going to Vegas for one night isn't worth it so i get the long weekend thing, but 5 nights seems a little long. JMO.

I am sorry you are going through this.
I think you are right, can't he compromise..
like 3 days 2 nights??

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Posted by wundmoretime

I think 5 days is long. My FH thinks it is a great idea to have ours on different weekends so we can take care of each other's hangovers! Also, he feels that if he heard me get sick, he would get sick too-vice versa. We can help each other out without being hungover. FH also thinks 5 days is too long. Maybe he can shorten the trip? I would be jealous, but not mad.

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thanks! he is talking to his best man tonight about it

my fh (dh) did 4 nights in Vegas. Honestly, when it comes to his BP I can guarantee they WERE more excited for Vegas than for the wedding. It didn't surprise or bother me. they talked about Vegas before we were even engaged. I didn't have issues with it - I know and like all his friends and even all my BILs went. AND I went to PR for 4 nights and it didn't bother him.

i looked at the bach parties as a vacation for me and a guys weekend for his friends and him. I don't really think the length of the trip matters; to me to make it worth it we both wanted to do 4 nights so it would be like a mini vacay. Sorry you are upset but when it comes to this stuff I tend to say just let it go. But if it's going to bother you that much then definitely talk to him seriously. i know my friend flipped on her DH and forbade him to go to a strip club for his bach party to me that's a little excessive, but it definitely happens.

i hope it works out the way you want it.

Oh Kristin! I'm sorry that you are feeling down about this. I know what you mean about the bach party. I do want my FH to have a great time and I know they're not getting strippers or anything. I'm sure it's more of the guy's influence on him that it has to be a long time because this is their big thing for the wedding. I know that you want him to have a great time but have you tried talking to him? I know it's not that you don't trust him but he would probably feel terrible to know how upset you are about it. You can also talk to the bm which I think you mentioned. Either way I'm sure it will work out.

Kristin, didn't he have this planned for a while now?

You're totally psyching yourself out and probably coming off as a crazy girlfriend to him. Seriously, stop thinking about it. And stop bugging him about it. He's had it planned for a while and your completely tripping. Stop.




Edited b/c I read your replies. And you're still coming off as psycho fiance to me. Are you being psycho? When did you find out it was 5 days? Just now?

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Posted by Bride 2 Be

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Posted by JB1122

Honestly, I would not be mad. I trust FH. Mine is going away for 3 days, and it is 3 days right before I'll be sitting for the bar exam. I don't care. Maybe I'm weird.

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I trust my fh also! but thats really not the issue..i just feel like 5 nights is really long..its like a friggen vacay for a bparty!

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It sounds like that's what they are making it into. I wouldn't think of it so much as a 5 day bparty, but a 5 day vacation.