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Need to Vent *Sorry so long*

Original post by bemyyoko

Let me start by saying that I just got stood up by my own parents.
We were supposed to go to the beach to get their parking permit and then my mom and I were going to go look at wedding gowns. I still have to get to the Macy's in Smithhaven because I have to get my money back. But my mom wants me to try the gown on in front of her so she can see how it looks before i make a final decision.

Fine... even though i know i hate that dress and the more i think about it the more upset i get. I'm paying for the gown myself, and if I don't get there by next Saturday I'm out the deposit I made on it, so I'll end up keeping a gown I hate because I cant afford to lose the money even if it is only $100

So, yea they stood me up so we're not going. I figured that's fine because my ex-SIL is supposed to call me today to go with her daughters to start looking at dresses for them since they are my JBM's. She hasnt called, so i call her and she's not home.

My MOH is busy. She's always busy. and my other BM lives in queens and is impossible to meet up with.

I feel like this wedding doesnt matter to anyone other than me. I don't expect people to drop what they are doing and come when I snap my fingers. However, I've been trying to get everyone on the same page for months now.
I am 9 months out... with no idea what kind of gown to get. This eliminates certain designers who I was told i would have to pay rush fees to get after 10months.
I can't pick the BM dresses untill I pick a style of wedding gown for myself. I'd rather not get their dresses at all untill i have mine finalized but that doesnt seem possible.

I'm so close to just canceling the whole thing and going to town hall next week. I found an adorable white sundress that i could wear, and FH has a suit that will work just fine.

Isnt getting a gown supposed to be the best part aside from the actual getting married part?
The gowns are making me cry... but not in the way they are supposed to.

Sorry ladies... i know this was rather bratty.
I'm just sorta sick of feeling invisible.
Toucan311 Posted:

Re: Need to Vent *Sorry so long*

Well then what in the hel! am I going to do with all of these mcmuffins?

bemyyoko Posted:

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Posted by Mimacat

Well then what in the hel! am I going to do with all of these mcmuffins?

we can use that idea on my ex-SIL
she is making me
Toucan311 Posted:

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I'm in!

bemyyoko Posted:

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Posted by Mimacat

I'm in!

Mrs. V 2008 Posted:

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i'm so sorry your going through that..hugs..sounds like you need them!
ILOVEBRIAN2008 Posted:

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people s u c k sometimes! if u want a shopping buddy let me know!!! after wednesday im done with school woohoo (until grad classes start on july 9th)
Mrs. V 2008 Posted:

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Posted by ILOVEBRIAN2008

people s u c k sometimes! if u want a shopping buddy let me know!!! after wednesday im done with school woohoo (until grad classes start on july 9th)

omg that just made me think of a cool idea..what a cool gtg! i would totally go shopping toO!
ChristineAaron08 Posted:

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Posted by Bride 2 Be

Posted by ILOVEBRIAN2008

people s u c k sometimes! if u want a shopping buddy let me know!!! after wednesday im done with school woohoo (until grad classes start on july 9th)

omg that just made me think of a cool idea..what a cool gtg! i would totally go shopping toO!


haha- we would probably be the first group to have a gtg to go wedding dress shopping- haha
how funny would that be- i would totally go
Kimbalina Posted:

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Posted by ChristineAaron08

Posted by Bride 2 Be

Posted by ILOVEBRIAN2008

people s u c k sometimes! if u want a shopping buddy let me know!!! after wednesday im done with school woohoo (until grad classes start on july 9th)

omg that just made me think of a cool idea..what a cool gtg! i would totally go shopping toO!


haha- we would probably be the first group to have a gtg to go wedding dress shopping- haha
how funny would that be- i would totally go

That would be sooooo fun!!!
LuckyMe Posted:

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Not Bratty at all.
bemyyoko Posted:

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Posted by Kimbalina

Posted by ChristineAaron08

Posted by Bride 2 Be

Posted by ILOVEBRIAN2008

people s u c k sometimes! if u want a shopping buddy let me know!!! after wednesday im done with school woohoo (until grad classes start on july 9th)

omg that just made me think of a cool idea..what a cool gtg! i would totally go shopping toO!


haha- we would probably be the first group to have a gtg to go wedding dress shopping- haha
how funny would that be- i would totally go

That would be sooooo fun!!!


If you guys are up for it... let's do it. I need some serious help with this gown thing. Plus it'd be a really cute story to tell on here and to my future children lol
ILOVEBRIAN2008 Posted:

Re: Need to Vent *Sorry so long*

Posted by bemyyoko

Posted by Kimbalina

Posted by ChristineAaron08

Posted by Bride 2 Be

Posted by ILOVEBRIAN2008

people s u c k sometimes! if u want a shopping buddy let me know!!! after wednesday im done with school woohoo (until grad classes start on july 9th)

omg that just made me think of a cool idea..what a cool gtg! i would totally go shopping toO!


haha- we would probably be the first group to have a gtg to go wedding dress shopping- haha
how funny would that be- i would totally go

That would be sooooo fun!!!


If you guys are up for it... let's do it. I need some serious help with this gown thing. Plus it'd be a really cute story to tell on here and to my future children lol


haha yeah def!
angl2001 Posted:

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where do u live?? ill go with u if i can get there!!!

I am so sorry u r going thru this. I know it can be hard to get everyone in the same page as you ( trust me) but it will work out!
bemyyoko Posted:

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Posted by angl2001

where do u live?? ill go with u if i can get there!!!

I am so sorry u r going thru this. I know it can be hard to get everyone in the same page as you ( trust me) but it will work out!



Carle Place/Westbury

I can't drive so it's making the whole thing so much more difficult.
I can walk to Bridal Reflections from here... but they are a bit out of my price range i think
Toucan311 Posted:

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I'm totally in! Any reason to shop is fine w/me :)

angl2001 Posted:

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hmmm..if i can take the bus there i am in!! lol bus goes down old country rd to roosevelt field lol!

bemyyoko Posted:

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Posted by angl2001

hmmm..if i can take the bus there i am in!! lol bus goes down old country rd to roosevelt field lol!


yea, there are bus stops right in front of my apartment.
the N22 i think stops here.
i'm also right up the block from the trainstation. i can see it from here.
jsta76 Posted:

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Wanted to give you some as well.

I certainly know where you are coming from. I have to go to everyone no one bothers to come out where I live to help. Sometimes I just get really frustrated with them as well.

Just remember we all love you!!! A group trip would certainly be fun. Just think of it as an enormous bridal party.
bemyyoko Posted:

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Posted by Mimacat

I'm totally in! Any reason to shop is fine w/me :)


sweet and while we're out we can TP my ex SIL's car!!
SugaBeans Posted:

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you are not being bratty at all! I agree with you, $100 is $100 and ever penny counts right now. I'll go with you to see this dress! I feel bad that your family isnt giving you the time of day. Thats not cool at all. SOmetimes you just have to do what you want and not worry about what other people think. i know you said you want to go to get your money back and since you are paying for it, i dont think you should have to wait for anyone. they should be accomodating to you. you need a lot of help right now and for you fam to be there for you. have you explained to them how you feel?

Good luck and remember I will go with you if you want! I love looking at dresses!

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