nevermind

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Posted by chichila15
No offense, but your mom seems like a major issue to me.

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Yeah, it seems like that would be, but you know what, I don't care. At first I was pissed, not because my mother wouldn't be there, but because I would ahve to explain to everyone that she wasn't coming and why. We have a very bad history so it really is no surprise that what happened happened. I guess it's hard to understand if you have a good relationship with your mom. I don't and never have so I guess that is why it's not an issue.

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Posted by fashionhag

and I just couldn't fathom having the problems some of you are having (with the gueslists, kids at reception, unruly BM's). I am grateful that I am not having any of those issues. I just wanted to wish you all good luck. I will pray that everything works out for you (as I am sure they will). I am just amazed at the behavior of some people.

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Me too! I think its because I am so old that everyone is just relieved I am getting married!

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Posted by ckgmwedding

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Posted by fashionhag

and I just couldn't fathom having the problems some of you are having (with the gueslists, kids at reception, unruly BM's). I am grateful that I am not having any of those issues. I just wanted to wish you all good luck. I will pray that everything works out for you (as I am sure they will). I am just amazed at the behavior of some people.

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Me too! I think its because I am so old that everyone is just relieved I am getting married!

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My family is so happy that I am getting married because it just proves to them that I am not gay. LOLOLOL!

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Posted by fashionhag

Unless ojne of my BM's go postal.

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I hope you don't have to deal with what I dealt with...two of my closest and longest friends who I never thought would give me a problem (two of my BM) have been NOTHING but TROUBLE......I hope that you never have to deal with that. Unfortunately we might not be friends anymore after the wedding.

People change as the wedding gets closer....

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Posted by Bride2B93

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Posted by fashionhag

Unless ojne of my BM's go postal.

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I hope you don't have to deal with what I dealt with...two of my closest and longest friends who I never thought would give me a problem (two of my BM) have been NOTHING but TROUBLE......I hope that you never have to deal with that. Unfortunately we might not be friends anymore after the wedding.

People change as the wedding gets closer....

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Yeah, that's probably what is bothering me most about other brides and their situations. I have 2 BM and 1 Jr BM, and if anything happened, then I wouldn't have any BM. I ave been reading everyones posts and trying to do things to avoid what they are going through. But there is no way to avoid certain things so if anything does happen, hopefully I will remember how the ladies here handled it and will be able to use their experiences to solve those problems. This whole message board is a fantastic learning experience.

My deal so far hasn't been that bad either.

I almost had my first major freakout this week b/c I thought my maps wouldn't be ready, but they should be here Friday.

We have somr family issues, but they don't really involve me & they are pretty much status quo, so I don't care.

My uncle & grandfather don't speak. so, they will be at different tablse. This may mean they end up with random table mates, but whatever. If they want to sit with the family, start acting like family.

FH's grandmother is senile & has outbursts, so that is a big topic in his family, whether or not to invite her, but I'm just stuffing the invite & giving it to FFIL. He can do as he pleases.

FASHIONHAG

you have a long way to go so sit back and enjoy the time off....just wait until 2-3 months before your wedding....it will all go haywire just like it did for the rest of us....

I just love how all the ladies on here are telling you about the problems you will DEFINITELY have right before your wedding. Way to be supportive, dudes.

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Posted by hearts

I just love how all the ladies on here are telling you about the problems you will DEFINITELY have right before your wedding. Way to be supportive, dudes.

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my biggest 'fight' with my mother to date has been over velum color

i can't control vendors, but my our families have been super cool and supportive throughout this whole process and we have only a few more weeks to go!

Not to jinx myself but I haven't had any problems yet either I am just waiting for something bad to happen

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Posted by hearts

I just love how all the ladies on here are telling you about the problems you will DEFINITELY have right before your wedding. Way to be supportive, dudes.

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I don't mean to sound like a Biatch but isn't it better to be aware. Plus she stated she was having NO PROBLEMS. YEAH!

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Posted by june262004
Plus she stated she was having NO PROBLEMS. YEAH!

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No I didn't. I state that I wasn't having the major problems that some other ladies were having. I've had a couple of minor issues. No one gets out completely problem free.

The point of this thread was just to wish luck to those ladies who are having major problems.

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Posted by hearts

I just love how all the ladies on here are telling you about the problems you will DEFINITELY have right before your wedding. Way to be supportive, dudes.

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You totally took it the wrong way, DUDE!

You will have minor problems that will be major to you. Its just life. I haven't had any major problems, but my mini issues seem very big at teh time. You have a long time to go... issues will come up- and you will resolve them.


Its great that you haven't had any major issues, but please be sensitive to the girls who have. You can talk about how happy you are things are going smoothly, and you will get a ton of support. But to compare yourself to the other brides here with whom things aren't going smoothly isn't very sensitive. JMO.

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Posted by shelly3950
Its great that you haven't had any major issues, but please be sensitive to the girls who have. You can talk about how happy you are things are going smoothly, and you will get a ton of support. But to compare yourself to the other brides here with whom things aren't going smoothly isn't very sensitive. JMO.

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I was wishing them luck, how is that insensitive. I wasn't looking for support for myself but for the other women here. I was trying to be nice, but if people are going to tear apart what a person says, then forget it. Why bother. Ugh!

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Posted by fashionhag
I was wishing them luck, how is that insensitive. I wasn't looking for support for myself but for the other women here. I was trying to be nice, but if people are going to tear apart what a person says, then forget it. Why bother. Ugh!

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I can see how some might think that you're comparing your experiences & yourself as better than anyone else. IMO, I don't think that you should compare yourself to another bride who is so much closer to her day - hence, as time gets closer, more problems arrive. Now if you were in the same time line as some brides, or are already married, then that's a different story.

However, bear in mind, emails, IMs, posts, can be easily miscontrued, because they are so impersonal. That being said, sometimes when you post something, you have to be extra careful because some might get offended easily.