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oh no , i read it correctly
Posted by mRm2008
Posted by Snowflake08
but you hit the nail on the head
NO ONE CORRECTED THEIR BEHAVIOR
that is ALL where the problems lie
Read again, I stated it wasn't corrected b/c to their family it wasn't inappropriate behavior. I am sure not going to correct them - not my kids.
Posted by mRm2008
Posted by Snowflake08
but you hit the nail on the head
NO ONE CORRECTED THEIR BEHAVIOR
that is ALL where the problems lie
Read again, I stated it wasn't corrected b/c to their family it wasn't inappropriate behavior. I am sure not going to correct them - not my kids.
Posted by Snowflake08
it depends on their ages Denise
My sister is extremely 'scheduled' when it comes to my nephews and they are IN BED by 730
well, that is when my ceremony started; but they wre 5 and 7; not 3 years old
that is also why it is a special occassion
lots of parents keep their kids up on new years even or christmas eve - which happens every year
a wedding is not a yearly event
again - JMO and as i stated yesterday; if you didnt grow up as a kid being a part of these types of family affairs, then i guess you are more inclined to not include them yourself
and waking them up while they are sleeping - i mean its not a regularly occurring thing
special circumstances
Posted by Espo22
Posted by Snowflake08
it depends on their ages Denise
My sister is extremely 'scheduled' when it comes to my nephews and they are IN BED by 730
well, that is when my ceremony started; but they wre 5 and 7; not 3 years old
that is also why it is a special occassion
lots of parents keep their kids up on new years even or christmas eve - which happens every year
a wedding is not a yearly event
again - JMO and as i stated yesterday; if you didnt grow up as a kid being a part of these types of family affairs, then i guess you are more inclined to not include them yourself
and waking them up while they are sleeping - i mean its not a regularly occurring thing
special circumstances
its funny bc i grew up the opposite way...my parents took me to ALL events, and alot of events that ended very late. My mom always talks about how she took me to everything. I was extremely well behaved, but ill also say that i have tons of pics of me sleeping on chairs. I ask my mom now how come she took me to all these late things. So its funny bc i grew up going to all these events but feel differently about doing the same with my own kids. Not saying i wouldnt take them to anything, some events are ok.
I mean even at my house, growing up my parents always threw big parties, holidays were at our house and not just family but lots of friends. So my house growing up there were lots of parties that ended VERY late and i was around it.
I don't know why i feel differently about it, but looking back now i think that maybe i shouldn't have been up late at some of those parties. Infact growing up in my house i grew up with more parties than most kids did, my parents would even have tons of ppl over almost every weekend. For parties at home they would even have belly dancers come perform and many things similar to this. My parents owned a multi family home and we had this big section in one of the apartments with poker tables, black jack tables, i even had arcades in the home with poker and pac man.
Posted by Gigi08Ha, belly dancers!
Posted by Espo22its funny bc i grew up the opposite way...my parents took me to ALL events, and alot of events that ended very late. My mom always talks about how she took me to everything. I was extremely well behaved, but ill also say that i have tons of pics of me sleeping on chairs. I ask my mom now how come she took me to all these late things. So its funny bc i grew up going to all these events but feel differently about doing the same with my own kids. Not saying i wouldnt take them to anything, some events are ok. I mean even at my house, growing up my parents always threw big parties, holidays were at our house and not just family but lots of friends. So my house growing up there were lots of parties that ended VERY late and i was around it. I don't know why i feel differently about it, but looking back now i think that maybe i shouldn't have been up late at some of those parties. Infact growing up in my house i grew up with more parties than most kids did, my parents would even have tons of ppl over almost every weekend. For parties at home they would even have belly dancers come perform and many things similar to this. My parents owned a multi family home and we had this big section in one of the apartments with poker tables, black jack tables, i even had arcades in the home with poker and pac man.
Posted by Snowflake08it depends on their ages DeniseMy sister is extremely 'scheduled' when it comes to my nephews and they are IN BED by 730well, that is when my ceremony started; but they wre 5 and 7; not 3 years oldthat is also why it is a special occassionlots of parents keep their kids up on new years even or christmas eve - which happens every yeara wedding is not a yearly eventagain - JMO and as i stated yesterday; if you didnt grow up as a kid being a part of these types of family affairs, then i guess you are more inclined to not include them yourselfand waking them up while they are sleeping - i mean its not a regularly occurring thingspecial circumstances![]()
Maybe since you were around so much of this is part of the reason you feel the way you do. Maybe it left an impression on you. Sometimes instead of being drawn to what you have been exposed to, you have the opposite response to it (is that coming out right...ha?).
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We didn't have children at our wedding except for my 2 nephews who were the ring bearers.. Everyone was totally cool with that. It was an adult party
Posted by Espo22
Posted by Gigi08Ha, belly dancers!
Posted by Espo22its funny bc i grew up the opposite way...my parents took me to ALL events, and alot of events that ended very late. My mom always talks about how she took me to everything. I was extremely well behaved, but ill also say that i have tons of pics of me sleeping on chairs. I ask my mom now how come she took me to all these late things. So its funny bc i grew up going to all these events but feel differently about doing the same with my own kids. Not saying i wouldnt take them to anything, some events are ok. I mean even at my house, growing up my parents always threw big parties, holidays were at our house and not just family but lots of friends. So my house growing up there were lots of parties that ended VERY late and i was around it. I don't know why i feel differently about it, but looking back now i think that maybe i shouldn't have been up late at some of those parties. Infact growing up in my house i grew up with more parties than most kids did, my parents would even have tons of ppl over almost every weekend. For parties at home they would even have belly dancers come perform and many things similar to this. My parents owned a multi family home and we had this big section in one of the apartments with poker tables, black jack tables, i even had arcades in the home with poker and pac man.
Posted by Snowflake08it depends on their ages DeniseMy sister is extremely 'scheduled' when it comes to my nephews and they are IN BED by 730well, that is when my ceremony started; but they wre 5 and 7; not 3 years oldthat is also why it is a special occassionlots of parents keep their kids up on new years even or christmas eve - which happens every yeara wedding is not a yearly eventagain - JMO and as i stated yesterday; if you didnt grow up as a kid being a part of these types of family affairs, then i guess you are more inclined to not include them yourselfand waking them up while they are sleeping - i mean its not a regularly occurring thingspecial circumstances![]()
Maybe since you were around so much of this is part of the reason you feel the way you do. Maybe it left an impression on you. Sometimes instead of being drawn to what you have been exposed to, you have the opposite response to it (is that coming out right...ha?).
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its true it might be because of that. Not putting down my parents bc for them it was me being part of everything so i understand that but maybe some things i really shouldn't have been a part of. Like i said maybe my situation is a bit more extreme than others, most families dont have parties with 100 ppl in the home and belly dancers and professional gambling tables lol.
I dont mind kids when im at parties, infact whenever we go to a party even things such as bbq's, i dont sit with the adults, i end up playing with the kids the whole time. Even recently at a bbq a ton of kids came over our friends house we were at and the whole time i spent with the kids, playing wiffleball with them, coloring and other things. Maybe my problem is that if i know kids are around, i wont interract with adults i will only spend time with the kids. I enjoy being around kids, especially a big group of them.
I also have to point out that sometimes some ppl do no kids at a wedding bc of finances which should be respected. Honestly, for us to have kids it would've cost a couple thousand extra, one thing is DH was set on having no kids and one request he really made. Some ppl might think about this and realize they dont have enough money to invite all these kids...some are lucky and dont have many kids in their families or friends dont have many kids...but some come from HUGE families, such as Dh and were looking at 40 kids or more, im sure theres others on here with same situation. But some might even want kids but dont have it in their budget. Not all Rh's are free for kids and some are quite pricey infact.
