NOT having an engagement party?

Are there any couples out there NOT having an engagement party?! I feel like I'm the only one not having one. At first I was ok with it, but now I'm feeling bad. FH doesn't think it's fair to expect people to give a gift for this, then a shower, then a wedding. I was fine with that, but now I'm disappointed. Am I the only one not having a party?

NOT having an engagement party?

I didn't have a party, i rathered putting more into the wedding then a party. It upset me a little in the beginning but time passes and you get closer and closer to your day and it goes away.

NOT having an engagement party?

We did not have an engagement party and that's what we both wanted. Our wedding is a little less than a year after we got engaged. We did have a BBQ with immediate family only. No gifts, just food and lots of laughs.

NOT having an engagement party?

We didn't have one. My mother is a firm believer in not having them because she doesn't believe that people should give gifts twice. We thought about having a small dinner party with immediate family and BP a year from our wedding, but it just didn't happen. Don't sweat it!

NOT having an engagement party?

We had an engagement party, but we had it at my husbands parents house. It was low key and it didn't cost us a lot since we invited immediate family only. Some gave us gifts others didn't, but it didn't really matter to us because we were just glad they came to celebrate our engagement. Maybe you can do something small, otherwise don't worry you'll have more things to look forward to.

NOT having an engagement party?

I did have one but didn't want on, my FI really pushed the issue. I felt badly that it was like double dipping for gifts but in the end I was happy we did it. Our wedding was over 2 years away at that point so I didn't feel terrible about it and if anyone asked I told them NOT to give us gifts, just that we wanted them to celebrate with us. Don't feel bad about not having a party, especially since you didn't want one. Also, you'll be having a a shower in the near future, so be excited about that!

NOT having an engagement party?

We didnt. We are only having a 14 month engagement and we felt like it was too much for people to give us gifts for the E-party, a shower, and a wedding. So we skipped it. We didnt have time to do this but if I could have, I would have had a bbq at my house or got together with people at a bar to celebrate. A lot of my friends did that.

NOT having an engagement party?

We will not have one for three reasons: 1) short engagement (13 months). 2) we would be scrambling to organize an engagement party before the holidays, and I didn't want to start of the engagement in a tizzy. 3) by the time we held the engagement party in January, we would be well under a year before the wedding and it didn't seem right to ask for gift after gift after gift.

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at first i wanted to have one.. but we ended up not having one for many of the reasons already listed.
we are only having a year long engagement, and felt it would be too much to ask for people to give us gifts for it in such a short amount of time.

however, even though we didnt have a party, we have still gotten a lot of engagement gifts from people.

NOT having an engagement party?

We didn't have one and I know a few others who haven't. I don't think you should feel bad about it. For us, we would've thrown it ourselves so we saved money to put toward the wedding anyway. And our closest friends/family still came over to congratulate us and some gave small gifts/cards, not that it was necessary but we were very appreciative.

NOT having an engagement party?

I definitely wouldn't feel bad - the only reason we're having one is because we're having almost a two year engagement. A lot of people don't have them, I think more than those that do.

NOT having an engagement party?

At first I felt sad for not having one, but I quickly got over it! If you are having a super LONG engagement (2+ yrs), and you have the means, then I think it's okay. If it's a shorter engagement, then I don't think it is necessary.

Also, as others have mentioned, you don't want people to feel obligated to have to give an engagement gift on top of a shower and wedding gift.

Trust me, a lot of people don't have engagement parties, so please don't feel bad!

NOT having an engagement party?

We did not/are not having one. Even though we are having a long engagement, it just didnt work out with having long distance relatives. Right after we got engaged we started graduate school and moved away, so when time started passing people started assuming there wouldnt be a party and bought us some gifts here and there anyway. Now its been over a year of engagement and I do wish we had one, but now my shower will extra special because its not like party party party.

NOT having an engagement party?

Didn't think of having one at first but FI's family was not giving us even a congratulations card unless we had a party. I think it's pointless to have to pay for a party in order to get a card from someone - I don't need your card and I'm not having a party to ask for gifts.

Finally after being engaged for 3 months we start to plan a party and I finally started getting into it. Then came Sandy - It was supposed to be next Saturday in Oceanside - venue like most of the south shore (including FFIL's house) has flooded so we're canceling.

NOT having an engagement party?

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NOT having an engagement party?

I didn't have one. FH's parents had a small one at their house when we came home from Newport (where we got engaged), and it was just our parents and siblings/significant others. I didn't want the money to be spent on one when it could go toward the wedding. You're definitely not alone :)

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Posted by mattandjess2013

We didn't have one. My mother is a firm believer in not having them because she doesn't believe that people should give gifts twice. We thought about having a small dinner party with immediate family and BP a year from our wedding, but it just didn't happen. Don't sweat it!

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This was actually our engagement party. Just our parents, grandparents, BP at a restaurant. It was fun for us to get everyone together and celebrate the engagement. It was a nice way of introducing everyone. I really enjoyed mine, but I don't think I would've missed it if I didn't have one.

If you are thinking you want one - why not just have a pizza party or get some trays of food for a get together. You can say 'no gifts please,' on the invitations. We had the most fun after the dinner when my BP and FILs came back to my parents house!

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i didnt have one i cant afford it! i dint feel bad cause i know that my wedding day will make up for all of it!

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We did not have one. I didn't want people to feel like they needed to bring a gift.

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I didn't have one. We didn't feel the need to have one. I didnt want to feel like i was fishing for gifts and we saved money by not throwing one. It's your preference. Its OK if you dont want one.