Posted by hlc200
have you found any makeup artists who specialized in Asian?
Did you feel stressed to deal with your bridesmaids? Well, there are alot of different cultures. In Chinese wedding, brides are supposed to cover all their expenses vs. American wedding, they should pay for their own dresses. How do you do it?
Hi all
(sorry I don't post more often... didn't find this board until late in my planning...I'm more of a lurker... but I just got married! I have lots of tips for the ABC bride trying to incorporate both worlds!)
Responding to hlc200, I think in the end, you have to do what makes you feel comfortable. Don't be pressured into paying for everything, or else you will see your budget *skyrocket*. Of my BMs, only one had a stable job, 2 were unemployed, and one was a student. In the midst of the bridal planning, I dount out that one was in debt, and the 2 unemployed just started new jobs (which was great), but also meant they had very tought times taking time off work for my wedding planning. I felt really bad, but part of me also wanted to pay for them b/c I didn't want them dressed in rags
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I was able to find some ways to cut costs, and still allow them to look classy. So here's what I did, hopefully this will help you:
I paid for my BM dresses, and they each got 2 dress. I actually had gotten a good deal online from
House of Brides Online . They have dresses for all budgets, plus BM dresses
Ship FREE. Only problem was the delivery date was a bit late for my comfort level, but I couldn't cancel the order, b/c there were no refunds. Coincidentally, I got an email a week later for the Vera Wang Sample Sale in the Hotel Penn around June. Headed over there and (get this) got 5 dresses for $100. I had 4 BMs and it worked out so that I got the gratuitous 'red dress' to make my mom happy.
Random other info if you care to read
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-DH also paid for the groomsmen and dad's tux rentals, and we considered them to be gifts for each side (of course the girl's get to keep their dress). Then again, guys don't really have much to take care of... they just show up
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-only one of my BM's was Chinese, and she doesn't know any customs.
-I originally intended on the BMs paying for their own dresses, and I would cover the costs of everything else. Once DH and I discussed it, we realized it would be much easier paying for their dresses, and then let them be responsible for any other costs thereafter (tayloring, makeup, hair, shoes), which they gladly did.
- Keep in mind that bridal party members will likely be giving you a gift, so you can think of it as pre-payment is you wish
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HTH! (and as soon as I get pix I'll post more wedding tidbits!)
