Oh My God...

Hi. I am a regular user but could not use my regular screen name for this post. I am getting married SOON and I just found out I am pregnant. I am happy but scared to death to tell my family. Do you think I should wait to tell them until AFTER the wedding? It's in a few weeks. HELP! Thanks.

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If it scares you to tell them, then perhaps you should wait till after the wedding. You don't need any added stress...just make sure you won't regret not telling them. If it were me, I would wait. The best of luck!!

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My FI's friend's wife was in the same situation. They announced the pregnancy 2 months after wedding. I am not sure when exactly she knew for sure that she was pregnant, though. And it depends whether you would like people to know or not.

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I would tell my closest friends/family right away.

For everyone else, its customary to wait until youre in your 2nd trimester anyway to make an annoucement.

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Wait till after - why invite gossip. Let them all be talking about how radiant you look, not how the bride is pregnant. If you are having trouble with morning sickness, just chalk it up to nerves. And if you're not too far along, you could let everyone believe it's a honeymoon baby that was delivered early if you choose.

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Karen H. that's what my SIL did. She had the only 9 pound preemie in the world

She really thought people would gossip... but everyone was really too busy being happy for her!

Don't worry Oh My God... just do whatever feels right to you and your FH. No one else matters in a case like this.

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When are you getting married?
This happened to my friend and she told everyone the morning after the wedding...unfortunately quite a few people thought she should have waited until after the honeymoon. IMO I would wait until a couple weeks after the honeymoon, this way you and your FI don't have to worry about what anyone might have to say. (I am not saying you should have to worry about what anyone has to say but between being pregnant & getting married, you could be on edge) Enjoy your wedding and your honeymoon, let everyone else enjoy it and talk about that and be excited about how great the wedding was. And then when you are back from the HM tell the family/friends and let them be excited about the baby at that time.
With all the planning you put into the wedding you deserve to have everyone concentrate on that and appreciate it. Look at it like this, being pregnant is a special secret you and your FI will have at this amazing time. You 2 should enjoy it privately. Just think as you walk down the aisle only you have to know you are walking to you husband and also your baby's father.
Good Luck with everything and if you need people to talk to or be excited for you....turn to us.

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This is a decision you and your FH should talk about...a lot of people don't tell anyone (even parents) until at least 4-6 weeks, b/c of the possibility of miscarriages...

but I do think if you telll the majority of your guests SHOULD NOT know...so if your mother, etc. is a gossip...I would wait...

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!

My dad was a 10lb.!!! premie!! lol...he still lies to us about the month my grandparents got married, but when my grandmother died - I saw their marriage certificate!! lol

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i WOULD just tell my FI and my parents and his of course lol
but if you prefer to wait just tell him
of course how far you are along they might see :)
Congrats!!!

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This happened to some friends of mine. They got married in September and the baby was born in March. They told everyone after they got home from their honeymoon that they were pregnant - even their parents.
So I would wait it out. Whether you tell them now or later won't really make that much of a difference, and it won't get anyone;s hopes up just in case something does happen.

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First off congratulations!!
I would do whatever feels right for you and FH. It may be fun to keep it just between the two of you for a little while

Good luck with your last few weeks of planning!

Jen

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Boy do we have something in common…. I have the same situation.. I have been engaged for a year and a half. Have been planning this wedding for the past year and 3 months before the wedding I find out that I am pregnant. I am now 12 weeks and the wedding is next week. Nobody knows but my FH. We have decided to wait until after the wedding to tell everyone but that is a decision we made together. I don’t remember if you stated when your wedding is but just to let you know, I am not showing at 12 weeks. So if it’s soon, nobody will be able to tell.

Good luck to you and remember this is a blessing!

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Thank you all for your support and understanding. FYI: I will be 6 weeks preggo at the wedding, so no one will be able to tell. I think we are going to wait until a few weeks after the honeymoon to tell our parents. We will tell the rest of the family on Thanksgiving! I am so very nervous but excited too. :) Anitsiva, when are you due? Congrats! I think I am due mid-April. Thanks again all.

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Congratulations! Sounds like you made your decision. May I just suggest that you make a doctor's appt. as soon as possible so you can get on some prenatal vitamins. With all the running around of the last week's before your wedding, you will now be in a somewhat fragile state so try to rest when you can amidst all your errands and delegate what you can. I wish you no morning sickness :o) and a healthy pregnancy.

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I just wanted to say CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!

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How exciting for you! ***BIG HUGS*** Boy would I have trouble keeping something that wonderful secret! I wish you all the best, and no stress -- only happiness!

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I feel honored to share in such joyous news! What an amazing secret. I would HAVE to tell my Mom and best friend. Keep your secret and then tell the parents. Also, request that the hall put sparkling cider into your toasting glass. NO ONE will notice but if you do not drink people will talk.

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Congratulations! What a wonderful secret for you and FH to share!

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Congratulations

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Now I have two preggo buddies on the wedding sites!!! Congratulations. Don't feel bad - at least you are going to make it to your wedding. I got pg a month after we got engaged. We had to have a small quickie wedding (immediate family only) to make it official and we are renewing our vows and having a big reception after the baby comes. I am almost seven months pg and can't wait for it to be over!!! If you have any questions, let me know - I'll be more than happy to help.