Oh no - Should I change my invites?

Shorty McBride Posted: May 15, 2007 12:22 PM

Oh no - Should I change my invites?

We just got FH's cousin's invite this weekend - I am a little concerned because its sooooo similar to ours.

Some background - groom's Mom (FH's aunt) is terminally ill. The couple dated for a short time, got engaged a few months ago, and are getting married in July.

FH and I chose these invites in November! And I described them to the other bride at Thanksgiving. I don't know if she doesn't care that they're so similar, or just didn't remember....I don't feel right asking her.

This is the invite we chose: (its all pearlized with a pearly filigree border)

And this is the invite they used: (only the border is pearly - the background is flat white)

50% of our guests are the same...if you were in my shoes, would you look for a different invite?

On a side note: FMIL got her invite first (ours had the wrong zip) - she tells me, 'Wait til you see the invite - could they have picked something uglier!??! Sooo boringggg'

I felt like crying!!!!

MrsQ-in2007 Posted: May 15, 2007 12:25 PM

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That suc*ks!!!! They are different, but to be honest, they look similar. I'm afraid that if someone was looking for the invitation they could later pick up the wrong one by mistake and take it with them (directions or whatever).

I think in this case I would pick a different invite - I'm sure that's not what you want to hear so I'm sorry!

And that suc*s that your FMIL made that comment too! Maybe she was just trying to make it seem like theirs isn't so nice because yours will obviously be better (despite her not having seen yours yet).

EDITED to remove quote of original post.

TnOiOnL Posted: May 15, 2007 12:26 PM

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If u havent ordered em or anything yet- id get new ones... that definatly suxxx

acsm Posted: May 15, 2007 12:29 PM

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i'd prob leave it.. no one really remembers the invite except for those few people that do..

your wedding is in november and hers is in july so theres time between..

you liked this one so i'd just keep it.. do you really want to go thru that whole process again??

jmo

Kara and Todd Posted: May 15, 2007 12:31 PM

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I would go with the ones you like regardless of what the other bride picked.

So they're similar. That's really not a big deal and honestly, most people won't notice. By the time your wedding rolls around a few months later, few people will remember her invites.

Go with what you love, especially if you already ordered them. If you haven't ordered them, look one more time, but go with the invite you LOVE, even if it's the one above (which is gorgeous by the way!)

To be honest, unless she saw pictures, I doubt she could really fully visualize what you were describing to her when you described the invites. It's one of those things you have to see to really know what they look like. I'm sure she didn't choose her invites on purpose to upstage you.

Shorty McBride Posted: May 15, 2007 12:32 PM

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No, I haven't ordered yet....

My Mom thinks I should choose new ones too.

I like these too, but FH doesn't like them too much....

th24s Posted: May 15, 2007 12:33 PM

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Is your wedding in November and hers in July? If that is true and you love your invitation, I would keep it. I think there is enough time between both weddings that they won't notice. Besides, you will probably frame your invitation and you want it to be the 'one'. not one you chose because someone else had yours.

Me on the other hand, future cousin in law is getting married in June and I am in August that is way to close. The common family will have both on their desks.

Aug07OFCbride Posted: May 15, 2007 12:34 PM

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Posted by Shorty McBride

No, I haven't ordered yet....

My Mom thinks I should choose new ones too.

I like these 2, too, but FH doesn't like them too much....

or

I love that first one!! Def go for it. Theyre really pretty and elegant and you wont have to worry about ppl getting confused.

HamptonsBride Posted: May 15, 2007 12:35 PM

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i think the invites you chose are beautiful...not boring...if you love them than order them...who cares if someone else used a smilar one..or what FMIL thinks of them... if i let FMIL dictate style the wedding would have mirror & twinkle lite CP's...haha

Shorty McBride Posted: May 15, 2007 12:36 PM

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Posted by Aug07OFCbride

I love that first one!! Def go for it. Theyre really pretty and elegant and you wont have to worry about ppl getting confused.

thanks - the paper quality isn't the best though.
#1 and #2 are the same - its just that #2 is on a pink background for some reason.

j2911 Posted: May 15, 2007 12:37 PM

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I would look for another one... and the second one you just posted is beautiful..i even like it better than the first choice!

WilliesBride Posted: May 15, 2007 12:38 PM

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Although I really like the first one (of your new choices)......Don't go through the hassel if you love the one that you have already. They are close but not the same!!!!

Aug07OFCbride Posted: May 15, 2007 12:42 PM

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Posted by conjuredmuffin

I would look for another one... and the second one you just posted is beautiful..i even like it better than the first choice!

I agree.

(I just wasnt crazy about it having a pink background).

Also, I have never paid attention to the paper quality of any invitation Ive ever received. hehe I dont think anyone notices or cares but you. Mine feel kinda thin, but I dont give a hoot!

Unapearla Posted: May 15, 2007 12:43 PM

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Not a big deal. I wouldn't stress about it.

MrsQ-in2007 Posted: May 15, 2007 12:43 PM

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I reallllly like the new option(s)! I think they look so different but still elegant and beautiful. Maybe your FH would be ok with them even if he doesn't LOVE them?

TnOiOnL Posted: May 15, 2007 12:44 PM

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loooooove the new ones... but FH has to too

Tiggeruth Posted: May 15, 2007 12:46 PM

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I would order new ones since you haven't ordered something already. This could be one of those times in life when you'll find something better than what you were originally planning on and be thankful you were in the situation to change your mind.

Mrs.CM Posted: May 15, 2007 12:51 PM

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They are similar, but I think it is fine! Especially if it is what you love!! The invite is beautiful and you can definitely tell the difference between the two. Honestly I wouldn't worry. If you were to worry about everyone else, you would make yourself crazy! I know I would! I have just recently been to three weddings and I have 4 more before ours one being my first cousin three weeks before mine! If I was to worry about everyone else I would definitely lose my mind! Go with what you want and love!

SeptBride70 Posted: May 15, 2007 01:00 PM

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Posted by Shorty McBride

No, I haven't ordered yet....

My Mom thinks I should choose new ones too.

I like these too, but FH doesn't like them too much....

or

I love those.

I would get new...

Sorry about that-- that sux

THIS is why I have stopped telling people ANYTHING about my wedding-- Don't even get me started on the RING OF FIRE story

babylon bride Posted: May 15, 2007 01:12 PM

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If you love them and had your heart set on them, I would keep them. IF you were iffy then I would look for new ones. Sorry - that probably doesn't help much.