My FMIL just informed me about her list for the wedding. She is planning on inviting some of her close friends, understandable, then she said she wants to invite her whole office! She told FH that she would pay for her guests but I don't want these complete strangers at my wedding! Not to mention FH isn't even inviting everyone he works with. Am I wrong? Anyone else go thru this?
all i can say is that its crazy - my FMIL is inviting 81 people. Our guest list is outrageous!
whoever is paying has a say. is she paying?
Offices are hard...I think it depends on how many people are in her office. If it is a lot, I would just explain to her that it isn't about the money, but about the number of people attending the wedding.
if she is paying for them---i don't see a problem--more gifts for you!!HAHA! that's bad i know--just kidding!
Her whole office? I wouldn't want my WHOLE office there.
If you don't feel comfortable with them there, by all means, say you don't feel comfortable and you'd rather not have them.
is she JUST paying for her guests, or is she contributing to the wedding too?
I know it stinks not to know everyone at your wedding, but if she is paying for them, then at least it's not a financial burden on you or your family. Try to see and maybe if she can just invite a few of her office friends and not everyone- my mom had to do that for my sister's wedding.
Posted by JandJ1224
My FMIL just informed me about her list for the wedding. She is planning on inviting some of her close friends, understandable, then she said she wants to invite her whole office! She told FH that she would pay for her guests but I don't want these complete strangers at my wedding! Not to mention FH isn't even inviting everyone he works with. Am I wrong? Anyone else go thru this?
I think that's ridiculous. But your best bet is to give her a number of people she can invite. Then she can make that number up with whomever she wants.
My dad was the only person who contributed $$ to our wedding, and when it came to his guest list I was willing to let him invite anyone (even one of his childhood friends who I just can't stand). BUT when it came to office people I told him that since DH and I weren't inviting anyone from our offices, I didn't think he should either. Since this is your FMIL maybe your FH should tell her?
I WOULD NOT want them there either... there is no reason! Just more people for you and FH to needlessly have to talk to!... that is my view... We are cutting FMIL list down she is inviting everyone she ever met! UM NOOO, it's my wedding and I want to enjoy it! I dont want people there I dont know and will never see again! all for what, to show off?
I understand your point but if she is paying for it then I guess she has the right to invite who she wants. Can your hall accomdate the amount of people you are planning on having or do you have to cut out some people to make room for hers?
I don't think it's that big of a deal since she's paying for them. My dad is a partner in his office and invited everyone from there. I know most of those people b/c they've worked for my dad since I was a kid. I didn't know a bunch of people at my wedding, especially those on DH's side. As long as your friends and family are there to celebrate with you, I don't think it really matters who else attends.
