I have a really big prob w/strip clubs. We are starting to organize our bachelor/bachelerette parties and FH tells me he doesn't want to go to one (hes never been). But he says that doesn't mean that his brother/my brother won't take him to one.
It's not that I don't trust him, or I think he will do anything...But the THOUGHT of another girl grinding up and down on his C*ck grosses me out and just pisses me off.
They are going to go to AC-I told him no lap dances and no bottomless...
What are YOUR thoughts on strip clubs? I know this has been asked a million times, but I want to post this here....
Girls who DONT have a prob w/it....please try to make me feel better LOL
SomethingBlu
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I don't have a prob with it because...
Strippers just want their money...
Guys in BP get too drunk and annoying and in turn get ignored by the strippers...
You can't TOUCH the strippers...
It's one time and not worth arguing over...no one in their right mind would jeopardize their true love for a stripper's t*t*!
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Jeanine...I totally have a problem with it too! I know many girls don't but I have a huge problem with it...especially for a bachelor party...if a guy is getting married...why does he need to be grinding on some ho! I told my FI that I didn't want to go to any kind of strip club or have a stripper but he wasn't going to anyway.....
Again this is just my opinion...everyone does what they want
Hamptonsbride06
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Im totally with you, if a chick even checks him out I freak out....but, I have come to terms with it, I trust him, its gross, and I prefer not think of it, but boys will be boys, hes marrying you, if he wanted to be with a stripper he wouldnt have proposed, chin up
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Girls...it's a rite of passage...guys are stupid.
But if you have a real problem, then discuss it with him and have him address it.
A stripper, for the most part, does not want your man. They just want his money.
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Posted by SomethingBlu
Girls...it's a rite of passage...guys are stupid.
But if you have a real problem, then discuss it with him and have him address it.
A stripper, for the most part, does not want your man. They just want his money.
LOL< thanks Sash(for both responses here and LIF )
I told him I dont want him going, but if he does-no lap dances. We'll see waht happens
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I do not have a problem with it. As Sasha said, these strippers see our men as money, they do not want to steal them away from us. I have been to clubs with my DH and they are pretty fun. Also, I think men are like little kids with things like this , the more you tell them 'don't go', the more they are gonna want to go. I just don't want to be 'that wife' you know what I mean. Good luck and don't get too stressed over this. It is one night, he is marrying you , not the scanks at the club
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i already told FH that his hands are to be kept to himself and at no point should any part of her body be touching anywhere below his waist. he agreed...and my cousins are going too so that's another reason i don't worry. not only that, but my FH is very 'frugal' (to put it lightly) so i can't imagine him spending money on a stripper when he can get all that free of charge when he gets home!
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I understand how you feel about stripper's rubbing against your FH.... but, it doesn't really bother me....Just know he loves you and it's not something he is going to do all the time...
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My FI is in Vegas right now on his b-party. So if you want to speak to someone about your concerns, check with me
We had a long convo about it, and it is definitely against the rules for the club for any touching, they totally just want the cash, and my FI is also such a 'hygiene' person, I couldn't imagine him letting one of those girls touch him!!
Goldi1021
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I find them funny. If you trust your FH then you should have no problem. The girls dont want the men, they want the money.
klingklang77
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i dont have a problem with them, but my FH isnt into them, so maybe that is why. his BP was go-carting and a big BBQ at his house with his whole family, extended and all. his mom was there, too. i was questioning him on that one, but his whole family was there. I dunno my FH is a different one. he doesnt drink and has never gotten drunk in his life, so maybe that tells you something about him. he isnt boring, just his activities arent like typical guys. we met on a language study abroad program for a year so that is the interests we share. he has been really surprised when i tell him things i have done in my past. as far as he is concerned i am the 'wild' one in the relationship.
i do have a problem with it being a thing to do for BPs. i find the idea of celebrating getting married by going to a strip club a little silly. but that is my opinion.
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I really have a problem with strippers too. # 1--I've made it very clear to FH that I would not be happy if he had astripper at his bach. party. He told me that he hates them (which I know is true), but if his bridal party wants to get him one then he feels he can't say no. The idea of another woman rubbing herself all over my FH makes me sick to my stomach. I think it is SO disrespectful towards me if he were to have one because he knows my feelings on them.
I know that some places are 'no touch' or whatever, but I know that FH has been to strip clubs (on Long Island) where there were 'private rooms'..and if you paid enough money, you could get ANYTHING (including sex). This TOTALLY pi$$ed me off when he told me. I know he didnt do anything, but I just think the idea is so nasty.
In the end, you just have to get through it somehow. The guys in the BP are the ones who usually get totally wasted and end up buying the stuff for themselves...and the bachelor, sometimes, ends up untouched. I guess, in most cases, there isn't much we can do about it.
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Look strippers want cash and thats it. They don't want your boyfriend. Different strip clubs have different rules regarding lap dances. Bottomlesses lap dances are illegal. Most respectable places don't allow it. Even the full nude places, the girls are behind a window. No grinding up agaist anyone, no putting money on them, no touching, etc.. In the lapdances the girls panties have to stay on and the guy is not allowed to touch.
Trust your FH. He isn't going to want any girl but you. Try to relax. Remember your wearing his ring. You are that important to him. If that girl who dances with him is lucky enough she'll get a few bucks and thats it. Your the one who has the gem. Trust your FH, espeically since he has never been to one. He might be freaked out and want to leave. Please try relax. He is yours. All yours!
sami
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Relax ... Like EmberLynn said he is yours..... Have the times you hear that the groom has NO PATIENCE for this nonsense dont make yourself crazy over this.!
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I don't haved a problem with them. I think they're cheesy actually. I would rather my Fh go to a strip club than to a club in the hamptons where a girl would actually try to talk to him. You have nothing to worry about. The girls in the strip clubs get paid to do this. It's their job..I understand that you don't want anyone touching him but nothing will happen..don't you worry.
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Jeanine, I agree with you fully. I fully realize what everyone said and KNOW the strippers don't want my man and ARE doing it just for the money, but that doesn't change the fact that they are STILL grinding up & down on MY man and flirting and rubbing breasts in his face (regardless if he can touch or not0, its just the fact of that happening.
Like Kathleen said, I especially don't get it for the bp, b/c at this point he is fully committed to you, why does this have to go down a few weeks b4 your wedding (I know, I know, I get it, but....)
Thankfully my man went upstate hunting/fishing/BBQing/drinking for the weekend, 75 miles from any civilization & the strip clubs just aren't his thing, so I didn't have to face this
(although in his past job he took clients and has obvioulsy been for friends bachelor parties, etc.)
I feel for ya Hubert.....it'll be okay....
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I have a problem with lap dances also. it's not that I think the girls want my guy or that my guy would want to have a relationship with them. I just don't want them grinding on his lap! It's disgusting! I don't care if he looks at naked women, just no touching of body parts, even if they're clothed. FH was saying he didn't want to go to a strip club either, but now the GM are trying to persuade him
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p.s. I reminded him that this time going to a strip club would be diffferent b/c all of the guys would be egging him on to drink and have a lap dance. I mean, he's not a slave to peer pressure by any means, but it's just setting the stage for things to go in the wrong direction!
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I just showed my FH this post and he says that all the strippers want is the money. Plus they can't touch the strippers and if they do, they will kick out of the club.
Do what I did. Plan both the bachorlette party and the bacholer party on the same night. This way you are not sitting at home thinking and worrying about what he is doing. You will be at your own party having a great time.
