OMG, girls- I need help! I am so upset- just got home after spending like half the day tearing up. Here is the story: I have been engaged for almost a year, the wedding is in September. In December of 2002, MIL jumped quickly to get her dress. Before I even got my stuff together, she told me she had selected a mint green gown to wear to the wedding. I thought Mint green, okay, not my first choice- but I'm too wimpy to say anything to her. All I could stammer out was 'as long as you look good in it, it doesn't clash with the bm dresses, and it isn't white, anything will be fine'. Well, I start asking her for a swatch for months after she orders it and today, she pulls it out and the d a m n dress is white!!!!! F- in White!!!! Whiter than my dress!!!! with a little mint green in it- so faint. I couldn't even speak or say anything about the dress. We get in the car to go home from their house and as soon as we pull out of the driveway, I start hysterically crying to my fi- how could she, how could the store sell a mint white dress to the MOG without suggesting I be consulted first. Girls, It is awful. Even my FI started tearing up in the car.... I could see him wiping his eyes. He said he wished she had went a little darker and this, is from her son who always jumps to her defense. He's a little mama's boy. She is normally so nice to me, is there a therapist out there who could decode her behavior? How could she do this? Am I over reacting or what?
jlm2004
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DO NOT LET THIS RUIN YOUR DAY!
If I went to a wedding where the MOG was wearing white - I would feel bad for the bride and not think very highly of the MOG.
Is she really this clueless? I can't imagine anyone not realizing that she is breaking the one rule for MOB/MOG attire?
Good luck. Please don't let this become too big of a deal though. Guests will know better than your FI mom and sympathize with you.
pschica
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so sorry to hear all this hon - don't let it ruin oyur day - i agree with the grisl - let your fh talk to her and maybe she will see the light!
good luck!
What-Now
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First of all, I am so sorry u have to go through this! Like the bride doesn't have enought to worry about!
If it was me in your shoes, I would definatelly say something right away! Than again, sometimes you are speechless because you are in shock! And I imagine you were!
You should def confront her! This is your day! How can somebody be so F...g clueless! If you don't feel comfortable doing it yourself may be your Fi should do it! She should be told plain and simple, that this dress is unacceptable! 2 months is a lot of time! She should get another dress!
karen32
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after i read your post, my gut instinct was to tell your FI to tell her to get a new dress!! however, after reading the other girls' posts about letting her wear it and have her look stupid - i kinda have to agree!!!!! it will in no way take away from you, and will only make your FMIL look petty and jealous!! i was at a wedding once where the MOB wore white!!!! worse yet - the MOB was a size 2 and the bride herself was a larger size. all night people commented how tacky the MOB looked!! no one said that it took anything away from the bride!!
big to you! if you decide to make her buy a new dress, i wish you the best of luck. definitely get your FI to do the talking.
AtticaQT
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I am so sorry you have to deal with this. It is bad enough if a guest wears white..but the MOG? That is really shocking. Dont let this upset you now though. As everyone has already mentioned, take sometime to breathe and then have your FH talk to his mom. I am sure once she realizes that it is horrible etiquette and will reflect very negatively on her, she will find another dress. I am hoping she will be understanding
BriBri529
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I guess having her wear it would be a way of making her pay for her clueless decision
Have you mentioned to her that it is not propper for her to wear white and that she might feel uncomfortable. How about suggesting that she get the dress died to MINT GREEN like she said the dress was? Good Luck and keep us posted!
