The WHOLE reason I'm going NUTS wording my reception card 'Adult Reception Only' and making my RSVP card say ___ of ___ will be attending, etc. is so that there will not be any kids at my wedding (except my ring bearer, who is my Godson, and Jr. Groomsman, my FH's nephew, who will both probably leave half way through the reception). My FH's OTHER two nephew's (the Jr. Groomsman's BROTHERS) aren't even coming to the wedding because there are no kids.
Well - some background - we didn't talk to my aunt and her whole family for SIX years after my brother's wedding because he didn't have kids at his wedding, and they took exception to that, so they alienated themselves from the entire family. Just recently, we made up with them and invited them to my bridal shower, and they came with the girls, which was fine because it was a shower. Great.
I really thought I was on the same page with my parents on this. JUST NOW my parents tell me that we're inviting just THEIR kids (my SECOND COUSINS) to save aggravation!!! NO! I do NOT want kids at my wedding! My parents say that since they're paying for the wedding, they are allowing it. This is the first time they've pulled that card on me, and I don't like it! How can I invite just those THREE kids, and not my own FH's nephews (granted - his family's not paying for anything, but still...) or my FH's second cousins!?!?! OMG! I'm gonna throw up. My dad's yelling at me telling me we're inviting me and my mom just hung up on me. And my FH isn't talking to me because he wants a F#$^@ING dog.
JPC1125
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And this was EXACTLY why my DH and I paid for our own wedding....that way we could do whatever the hell we wanted!!!
Best of luck to you!
PS- Chillax with CLMon's post...I read it and the original 'stomping and pouting' wasnt a comment directed at you but just a phrase which in your upset-ness you misconstrued.
bellaro782
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That really ***** because you can not invite those kids and leave the other ones out because your Fh's familty will get pissed also. You have to tell you parents that its all or nothing because his family is your family 2 and it has nothing to do with money. Respect. so girl keep you chin up and take a bath or run around the block a few times to burn off some steam.
I agree its all the kids or None.. It will LOOK Really bad if you invite a Selected few...
kittythestray
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Posted by JPC1125
And this was EXACTLY why my DH and I paid for our own wedding....that way we could do whatever the hell we wanted!!!
Best of luck to you!
PS- Chillax with CLMon's post...I read it and the original 'stomping and pouting' wasnt a comment directed at you but just a phrase which in your upset-ness you misconstrued.
Ditto on both for me!
LaurenluvsTJ
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Honestly, I don't think its worth arguing over. How many kids will it be? How old are they? You will be so wrapped up in getting married that day, you won't even notice what is going on. There were kids at my wedding, and I hardly noticed them except for how cute they were! And cute kids make for some great pictures.
If your parents have been understanding and willing to work with you on other things, then maybe you should give in to this. You won't even notice any 'antsy' noises during the ceremony. Is the ceremony at the hall?
I understand you have a 'vision' but sometimes you just have to give on on certain things. Don't set your expectations for perfection, because things are bound to go wrong.
