OMG SUCKS NOT TO HAVE FRIENDS! BP Problems AGAIN!!!
Original post by VCanizalez
OMG OMG OMG I hate this!!!!! When I was a little girl I imagine a Big elegant wedding.... When i was a teenager, I Imagne my BP to be BIG becuase I thought I had so many friends... When i was in College, I started to wonder if I woudl get myy BP as big as I though but i figure with 3 woud be good... NOW, THAT I AM ENGAGED I AM EXTREMELY MAD SAD STRESS HURT THAT NOTHING OF MY BP WILL BE LIKE I EXPECTED/THOUGHT!!!!!!!!!!
We DONT HAVE FRIENDS!!!!!!!!!!!!! WHO THE FKC WILL BE IN OUR BRIDAL PARTY???
Since 2 of my XBFF are gone... i figure I only have my MOH and will get a BM later on.... My FH has a BM since his GM left him waitin on the party n never show up.... Now, NOT EVEN HIM CAN DO THE JOB OF BM!!!!!!
THIS SUCKS!!!
NOW I ONLY HAVE ONE MOH... AND FH HAS NO ONE...
I know Most of you would say 1) Well Tell him just to get another friend to do that... Well, he doesnt has friends!!!! Since he came to the USA he has been working n working a lot!!! Never had 'time' to have a Social Life... Now he is LEFT with NO ONE!!!! and I feel so bad and mad!!!! 2) Well you can just have One MOH & One BM... and I DONT WANT THAT!!! I dont want to be the ONE couple ONLY... I wanted TWO at lest and I DONT WANT TO SETTLE FOR ONE...
SUCKS TO COME TO THE USA WHEN UR A FKIN TEENAGER AND NOT GET FRIENDS>... ONLY GET COWORKERS & STUDY BYDDIES!!!!
SUCKS!!!!!
SUCKKKS!!!!!
Ray8183
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It will still be a beautiful wedding. He still have time gor s friendship to form. You can never tell what the future holds.
HOW? How do we get friends??!!!!
We just WORK the WHOLE TIME... WE dont goo to school!!! We dont go to bars... WHERE???
I know you are upset but you can still make friends. It can be the most unlikely places. Yes, friendships can form at work. You have to think postive. You are stonger than that. You are letting the small things drive you crazy and we have not discuss the RSVPS of stupid people. I still think you are going to have two couples there. Hey have gtg with the FH so they can meet each other, you never know. We are on your side so try to stay postive. You can always find me and call me out.
VCanizalez
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It will still be a beautiful wedding. He still have time gor s friendship to form. You can never tell what the future holds.
HOW? How do we get friends??!!!!
We just WORK the WHOLE TIME... WE dont goo to school!!! We dont go to bars... WHERE???
I know you are upset but you can still make friends. It can be the most unlikely places. Yes, friendships can form at work. You have to think postive. You are stonger than that. You are letting the small things drive you crazy and we have not discuss the RSVPS of stupid people. I still think you are going to have two couples there. Hey have gtg with the FH so they can meet each other, you never know. We are on your side so try to stay postive. You can always find me and call me out.
I met my MOH in my job.... His coworkers are MEAN to hiim....
=(
I do want two couples PLUS Us...... If i get a G2G wth FH all of u girls will think its DUMB and I am just trying to find someone for the wedding...
Thanks chica...
Oct2010Bride2Be
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if you want to make new friends, try
1) meetup.com
2) taking evening Continuing Ed classes at places like Hofstra or your local high school. Our local high school has classes like for 'Wine Tasting for Newbies', 'Belly Dancing', 'Cooking 101', etc. Most of then are just recreational classes that meet only 1x or twice a week after 6 pm or on Saturday mornings.
3) joining community groups (local library bulletin board postings)...
Theres plenty of time to make new friends!
angelscri
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Posted by Oct2010Bride2Be
if you want to make new friends, try
1) meetup.com
2) taking evening Continuing Ed classes at places like Hofstra or your local high school. Our local high school has classes like for 'Wine Tasting for Newbies', 'Belly Dancing', 'Cooking 101', etc. Most of then are just recreational classes that meet only 1x or twice a week after 6 pm or on Saturday mornings.
3) joining community groups (local library bulletin board postings)...
Theres plenty of time to make new friends!
ita
VCanizalez
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Posted by Oct2010Bride2Be
if you want to make new friends, try
1) meetup.com
2) taking evening Continuing Ed classes at places like Hofstra or your local high school. Our local high school has classes like for 'Wine Tasting for Newbies', 'Belly Dancing', 'Cooking 101', etc. Most of then are just recreational classes that meet only 1x or twice a week after 6 pm or on Saturday mornings.
3) joining community groups (local library bulletin board postings)...
Theres plenty of time to make new friends!
Thanks chica... With our schedues... i dont think that is possible... Weekdays we work around 9am-9m... he works 10am-1030pm... He has one day off doesnt knwo When til the schedule comes...
Weekends he usually works...
=(
Ray8183
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Posted by Ray8183
It will still be a beautiful wedding. He still have time gor s friendship to form. You can never tell what the future holds.
HOW? How do we get friends??!!!!
We just WORK the WHOLE TIME... WE dont goo to school!!! We dont go to bars... WHERE???
I know you are upset but you can still make friends. It can be the most unlikely places. Yes, friendships can form at work. You have to think postive. You are stonger than that. You are letting the small things drive you crazy and we have not discuss the RSVPS of stupid people. I still think you are going to have two couples there. Hey have gtg with the FH so they can meet each other, you never know. We are on your side so try to stay postive. You can always find me and call me out.
I met my MOH in my job.... His coworkers are MEAN to hiim....
=(
I do want two couples PLUS Us...... If i get a G2G wth FH all of u girls will think its DUMB and I am just trying to find someone for the wedding...
Thanks chica...
I don't believe that. 2010 Brides had many gtg where the FHs came and they form friendships where they hung together as couples they went to each other weddings. They are still friends. Brides 08 had gtg where they were in each other weddings. So it can be done. I know you are hurting but I am going to stay postive for you.
VCanizalez
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Posted by Ray8183 I don't believe that. 2010 Brides had many gtg where the FHs came and they form friendships where they hung together as couples they went to each other weddings. They are still friends. Brides 08 had gtg where they were in each other weddings. So it can be done. I know you are hurting but I am going to stay postive for you.
Thhank you... I appreciate it.... Pls stay Positive for me... Because it is so hrd for me now.... =( just sucks u know...
Ray8183
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Posted by Ray8183 I don't believe that. 2010 Brides had many gtg where the FHs came and they form friendships where they hung together as couples they went to each other weddings. They are still friends. Brides 08 had gtg where they were in each other weddings. So it can be done. I know you are hurting but I am going to stay postive for you.
Thhank you... I appreciate it.... Pls stay Positive for me... Because it is so hrd for me now.... =( just sucks u know...
MrsRtoBe11
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you will still have plenty of people surrounding you for pics, dont stress about a bp, i agree with the girls who said they can usually end up causing drama. no matter who is standing next to you, you and FH will stand out and it will def not look like two couples are getting married. no one can top a bride on her day.
VCanizalez
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Posted by MrsReyes2011
you will still have plenty of people surrounding you for pics, dont stress about a bp, i agree with the girls who said they can usually end up causing drama. no matter who is standing next to you, you and FH will stand out and it will def not look like two couples are getting married. no one can top a bride on her day.
I know... thanks.......
THis is stupid its so stress ful that FH and I are even fightin now..... for the BP...
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i understand you had a 'vision' and want a big bridal party... but for now FOCUS on the most important thing!!! you are marrying your very best friend and are becoming one!!!!!! Love you girl keep your head up!!!!!!!
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Posted by Oct2010Bride2Be
if you want to make new friends, try
1) meetup.com
2) taking evening Continuing Ed classes at places like Hofstra or your local high school. Our local high school has classes like for 'Wine Tasting for Newbies', 'Belly Dancing', 'Cooking 101', etc. Most of then are just recreational classes that meet only 1x or twice a week after 6 pm or on Saturday mornings.
3) joining community groups (local library bulletin board postings)...
Theres plenty of time to make new friends!
ITA. Also, didnt you say you go dancing too though? At that Salsa place? If you have the time dancing is a great place to make friends! We've been involved in the local swing dancing scene (upstate) for years and its such a social atmosphere. A bunch of them will be invited to our wedding. I know its tough with your schedules, but if its really important to you maybe you can squeeze in a couple of hours one night a week, and while youre there do your best to meet the other couples.
I do agree with everyone who said not to worry about it too and that its about you two, but if this is really important to you thats my 2 cents on what could work. Youve still got plenty of time. Try not to let this bring you down
I've gone through feeling like we didnt have any friends either, especially after everyone got so spread out after high school and college. You have each other though and if its important to you to make more friends then you will!
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awwwwwwww dont worry veronica You still have time to make friends and its ok if you only have 2 couples in your picutres you will save a ton of money .. the people that were lying in your face and acting like your friend are not really your friends anyway and thats not the type of people that you would want to stand behind you at the alter.. sometimes friends are over rated and do more damage than anything else...In these times you have to be very careful of who you let into your life so although its a little lonely its sometimes better to have less 'friends'. keep it simple and know that the ones that are standing there for you are really truely your friends and will be there for you no matter what. you dont want peope that are going to stress you out because planning the wedding is enough stress in itself...... and who knows maybe you will make a new bff here lol
ETA ;; HUGGY LOL
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awww V! I'm sorry about this! I really think it's okay to just have 2 couples. It's not about how many ppl there are in your BP (and I understand you have a vision). The important thing is that you guys are getting married and people are there to celebrate with you. You have plenty of time to meet new people! I hope everything works out. Again, those people that were part of your BP that aren't anymore, you're def better off without them - cuz who knows what would've happened later on. Better to know now that later. Im sorry keep your head up! It'll all work out!
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Posted by Ray8183
It will still be a beautiful wedding. He still have time gor s friendship to form. You can never tell what the future holds.
I agree. Friends come and go but Im sure your love with FH is stronger than that.
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Awww Veronica. Im sorry Do you have any close family members that you would want to be in your BP?
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I'm sorry Veronica. I wish I could help.
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Posted by VCanizalez
Posted by Oct2010Bride2Be
if you want to make new friends, try
1) meetup.com
2) taking evening Continuing Ed classes at places like Hofstra or your local high school. Our local high school has classes like for 'Wine Tasting for Newbies', 'Belly Dancing', 'Cooking 101', etc. Most of then are just recreational classes that meet only 1x or twice a week after 6 pm or on Saturday mornings.
3) joining community groups (local library bulletin board postings)...
Theres plenty of time to make new friends!
Thanks chica... With our schedues... i dont think that is possible... Weekdays we work around 9am-9m... he works 10am-1030pm... He has one day off doesnt knwo When til the schedule comes...
Weekends he usually works...
=(
I don't know if you saw it but rent 'I LOVE YOU MAN'... it's very funny, all about this guy who never had any friends, always put all his time & effort into his girlfriends and work. It's definitely not impossible to make friends!!! You say you work, and that you have coworkers. I would suggest start hanging out with them.... outside of work. I know time is limited (I've been doing fulltime work, fulltime school, often working overtime), but you need to create a live/work balance, and that includes developing relationships outside of the soon to be marriage. Try going out for lunch instead of eating in the office, grabbing a bite to eat after work, then through that you will find interests you have in common - music, certain movies, etc. And then you can start doing those! I know it's tough, and I know (trust me, I know) you don't want to put yourself out there 'just to be burned again' but you wont make friends if you don't put yourself out there!
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Veronica, dont worry about the BP it is not what make your day.. and that is one of the last concerns... Dont let it stress you out... I have 250 coming to my wedding and so many close friends and i chose to NOT have a bridal party...
I know its been your dreams, so its easier said than done, but dont stress over something you can't control... You have to enjoy your wedding and the planning... liek some else previously said, its better that those fake friend left... imagine you haveing to look at your pictures for the rest of your life seeing your bridal party and knowing they are NOT your friends.
