Only me!!

Only me!!

I have a bridesmaid who doesn't want to get her hair or makeup done for my wedding by any one. She says she'll do it herself which is NOT good!
Why does this one BM give me nothing but grief about everything???? She still has not gone for her dress yet either!
Does anyone else get gried like this from their BM(s)????????!!!!

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Jen, what you will learn is that sometimes you will have to let things like this roll off of your back. All my BP members did their own makeup. I don't think she will want to look bad on your day so don't sweat it. They are in so few pix anyway, so why fret. Its her face. You have bigger fish to fry, don't let the BP members stress you. Remember what I told you.

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If she does not get her dress its one less gift you have to buy. It will be her loss. She is a grown person and I am sure you have told her already when, where and she knows the why. If it makes you feel better, tell her if she does not order her dress by say Dec 27th she is out. Why have her there causing you grief, obiously she is not contributing to making you a stress free bride. So if she is serious she will get her dress and shape up, or she will be shipped out. Lata babes, you are too blessed to be stressed by a BM

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Jenn-YES, one of my BM's caused me a lot of grief regarding bm dresses but she ended up backing out of my bridal party (long story). The weight off my shoulders is such a relief now.

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2 of my girls started out with that thought but when they saw how good JN did everyone else they jumped in line!

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I agre with Shamma..don't sweat it. Give her a deadline. Or talk to her about it. Does she really want to be in the BP? Maybe she is dropping hints. And if that is her attitude, you don't need her anyway. Getting married is stressful enough, you don't need more, especially from your BP. They are the ones who are supposed to make you not stress out! Good Luck!

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The same thing happened to me and a friend of mine, I agree with Testar. maybe she looking for an out. Ask her again? and then lay out hte ground rules. Its ****s but unfortunately people have no manners.

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I came straight out & asked her very nicely if she wanted out and she doesn't. I know her well. She is the type who would say if she did.
It's not that, although sometimes I wish it was!
I won't stress it, like Shamma said, there won't be too many pictures and let her look however, I don't care anymore.

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my girls all did their own makeup (as I have done when I've been in BPs) the only thing that bugged me was one girl showed up with her hair totally down, and it just didn't look right, she wound up putting it up, but it was down by the time the reception started. As long as you specify, colors and hair up or down it should be fine. - you will be the star, not them!!

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Are you paying for their hair and makeup to be done? If not, I can't see forcing them to all get it done.

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Yes I offered but they all said they didn't want me to pay. There's no excuse for her, she gives me grief about everything, even her dress.
I am used to it.
PS-Valenia, I don't 'force' anyone to get anything done!

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I had two BMs who didn't want their hair or make-up done either. They then decided last minute to have their hair done but when they saw how nice everyone looked with the professional make-up, they decided to do that too.
Are the hair/make-up people coming to your house? If so, they might be more flexible in adding a girl last minute if she so decides.
Good luck!

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This is such an iffy issue. You don't want to be a Hilter-bride, but sometimes you can't trust people to use common sense

Most of my girls have already said they'll take appointments with the hair salon that I normally go to. It's local to everybody - plus I enticed them with planning a little brunch at the salon. Nothing crazy, just coffee and some bagels and muffins. You spend about 3+ hours there anyway, might as well eat!! Haven't spoken to my FSIL - but I'm sure she'll go where my FMIL goes.

Good Luck!!!

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I am actually having this issue with my future MIL. She said she will not have her makeup down professionally. I told her everyone else was and that I wanted her included in all that we are doing that day but she refused. At Thanksgiving she said it again and I turned around and told her that this was a very importnat day for me and her son and it would mean alot if she just dealt and went with the flow. I thnk she was a little shocked that I got firm with her but she said she would consider it. At least it is a step. We don't want to be hitler brides but I think as the bride you want things a certain way and your BM's and others should respect that. I know that with all the weddings I have been in I go along with the bride - its her day.

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I had one bm do her own makeup but they all had their hair done, as everyone else has said - it's your day and you're the star of the show! No one will notice if she doesnt have her makeup done - its her loss. I had the makeup artist come to the house, and at the last minute my mom decided to get her makeup done and all along she had planned not to. So, you may get alot of people change their minds once they see how good the makeup person is -- plus ya know - who wants to be left out!

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From a low maintenance girl perspective: some people aren't into the whole heavy makeup scene. I personally am doing my own makeup for my wedding. I have gone for trials at makeup counters and I leave feeling like it is just not me...WAY too much makeup. So Jenn, don't sweat about hair and makeup on your girls. Everyone will look great! Two of my girls are not getting their hair done and it doesn't bother me in the least. Everyone's style is different and I totally understand the need for everything to be perfect...but with or without hair and makeup done professionally...it WILL be perfect! Don't sweat it...use that energy to make things that you can control even better!

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AWWW Thank you nrvbrd!!!
And everyone else as well.

Bridesmaids getting ready?

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I don't know how capable your BM is but for my brother's wedding I was the only BM that did my own hair and everyone raved about it. Some people like myself are never happy unless we do our our hair.