opinion on strip clubs - YOU VOTE!

RobbsWifey Posted: Aug 03, 2006 11:01 PM

opinion on strip clubs - YOU VOTE!

How do you feel about your FH going to a strip club, whether it's for his bachelor party or one of his friends bachelor party?

I am very insecure about that whole issue and hate them.

afrodyt2000 Posted: Aug 03, 2006 11:07 PM

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don't really care. I mean I know he's with me for a reason. If he was going to cheat, he won't need a strip club to do it.

mrsh2b Posted: Aug 03, 2006 11:12 PM

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Posted by afrodyt2000

don't really care. I mean I know he's with me for a reason. If he was going to cheat, he won't need a strip club to do it.

I fully agree with you.

daniebc16 Posted: Aug 03, 2006 11:12 PM

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Well, I don't want him going, those places are sleezy and I think that is a tradition that needs to be stopped. Why should a man who has committed to be with someone be so blantely looking at other women. I trust my FH completely and if his groomsmen want to take him there I am not going to throw a hissy, but I still don't agree with it.

D's Girl Posted: Aug 03, 2006 11:18 PM

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Does not bother me at all.

DNicholes Posted: Aug 03, 2006 11:22 PM

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Posted by afrodyt2000

don't really care. I mean I know he's with me for a reason. If he was going to cheat, he won't need a strip club to do it.

Agreed....

Athee07 Posted: Aug 03, 2006 11:26 PM

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Posted by daniebc16

Well, I don't want him going, those places are sleezy and I think that is a tradition that needs to be stopped. Why should a man who has committed to be with someone be so blantely looking at other women. I trust my FH completely and if his groomsmen want to take him there I am not going to throw a hissy, but I still don't agree with it.

I agree- im not into them at all

after reading a bunch of responses i wanted to add -im not exactly sure how this led to trust being an issue however-

i cant speak for everyone on this site but for myself, trust is not an issue, MY thing was that I just dont see the big deal of a strip joint- I dont like them and cant imagine spending the cash that some do ,on some chick OR guy getting half naked.... thats all

lilqtpie2181 Posted: Aug 03, 2006 11:26 PM

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Posted by DNicholes

Posted by afrodyt2000

don't really care. I mean I know he's with me for a reason. If he was going to cheat, he won't need a strip club to do it.

Agreed....

my thoughts exactly... i have even been t a stip club with FH.. believe me it is not what u see on TV. 95% of the night all the guys sat around watching sports.
Even when I wasn't there they did the same thing ( very close sources have given me feedback, early on in the relationship)
Ladies, trust ur men...they are withyou for a reason!!!
Now tell me they were getting stippers in a hotel and I would put my foot down. Those w*ores go a little too far and rub up against anything that breathes.

kam0813 Posted: Aug 03, 2006 11:29 PM

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i honestly don't care..the girls don't want our men...they want our men's money...plus FH is with me and he thinks strippers are gross...he wouldn't go anyway...

but i don't think there's any reason to get upset over it..you have to trust your FH...i'm sure he would do the same for you if your girls decided to take you out to see male strippers for your bachelorette party

afrodyt2000 Posted: Aug 03, 2006 11:29 PM

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I agree, something about private strippers is skeevy and gross. Most strip clubs have real rules about touching the girls and stuff like that, private ones seem much closer to prostitution to me.

iBCraZ131 Posted: Aug 03, 2006 11:31 PM

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I don't really care either way - I trust him 100%. He doesn't even really like strip clubs, but if he went I wouldn't have a problem with it

cherilicious16 Posted: Aug 03, 2006 11:41 PM

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I have mixed feelings about this. On one hand, i do agree that the strippers want the money$$$ not out guys. I have gone to a strip club with a group of guy friends and seen what goes on in the shared ladies bathroom:
The strippers talk only about money and drugs....no joke. AS I was going into a stall a stripper actually asked me if I was a 'chick with a badge' b4 she proceeded to dole out lines of coke to the rest of them. With this I am assured that I have nothing to worry about.

On the other hand, I am a very small, flat-chested girl , and am sometimes quite intimidated by the sexy, vuluptuous bodies that the strippers have. There are times that I worry that those figures are more attractive to my FH and get jealous that he might want them more than he wants me.

In all honesty, I guess my feelings and reaction depend on how I am feeling that day about myself.

Soon2BeMrsD Posted: Aug 03, 2006 11:48 PM

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i dont really care if he goes and throw some dollars, but i would have a porblem with some crazy lap dances and such

betani Posted: Aug 04, 2006 12:05 AM

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my fiance hates them. he said he would be very angry to say the least if he had a stripper at his bachelor party (which his 14 year old brother who's his BM doesn't get at all). hah, he wants video games at the BP.

Ser29 Posted: Aug 04, 2006 07:10 AM

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this is a very touchy topic for me because well I really hate the whole things. FH says why bother going to a strip club and pay for what I can see at home for free which is wonderful but he has gone to some bachelor parties and left because I felt it was getting out of hand. Some strip clubs are easy going with rules.. the one he went to the husband to be was allowed to go up on stage and rub hot oil all over two girls mud wrestling, then there was a private room for like 75 dollars a person where a private stripper stripped down to nothing and gave the guys especially the groom a huge lap dance and i heard sometimes even more .. that to me is just not my idea of what a guy should be doing before he gets married.. I told FH if he wants to go to a strip club i'll take him and even buy him and myself a lap dance..

PaddysGirl15 Posted: Aug 04, 2006 07:46 AM

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im not really keen on the idea but i dont mind if he goes to one for his bach party.. as long as thats where the line is drawn!!

Mooshyboo Posted: Aug 04, 2006 08:18 AM

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It does not bother me that he goes but if he gets a lap dance (all his friends land up buying each one) I can't stand that ~ that makes me sick to my stomach. If he never had that done than I would be fine with it!

SeptBride70 Posted: Aug 04, 2006 08:28 AM

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Hmm, well the question in the poll is 'How do I feel if FH goes'? but I don't really know how I feel because FH has never gone and says he will never go... he says he is not 'into them' and that he feels the whole scene is not what he is about at all... if he wants to go out with his friends (his words) he would rather just go to a bar, concert, show, dinner, etc... why is this? my only guess is that my FH is EXTREMELY traditional and all about values so his opinion on them definitely reflects his personality, that's for sure! He only gets more adamant about it when it's in regards to me and our relationship-- he said he would feel the way he does even if he was single-- but b/c he is engaged only makes his feelings stronger... And I have to say: if I did need to have an opinion on it (I guess I don't really need to have one since it is not something he wants to do) but if I did, I would agree with him-- we are very similar people, a lot of values, morals and we are VERY traditional (pretty religious too)... So I guess that's why... And us being in our relationship only makes me feel more that way also. Awww, I love him!! Now I feel mushy!!!! Since when does a stripper thread do that to you?!

*Just wanted to make it clear that just b/c FH and I feel this way doesn't mean that if you don't feel this way you are wrong. FH and I have strong opinions but more than anything we feel that everyone has a right to feel HOWEVER they want and that it doesn't make you 'wrong' if you do differently than we do... that's what makes the world go around!!! ::::everyone hold hands::::*

melbalalala Posted: Aug 04, 2006 08:34 AM

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Posted by RobbsWifey

How do you feel about your FH going to a strip club, whether it's for his bachelor party or one of his friends bachelor party?

I am very insecure about that whole issue and hate them.

I agree with you 100%