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Sweeteey51 Posted: Apr 07, 2009 10:02 PM+

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Posted: Apr 07, 2009 10:02 PM

Re: personal story and need strangers help hehe

TELL HER YOU WILL LET HIM WALK YOU DOWN THE AISLE. THEN A MONTH BEFORE THE WEDDING SAY YOU CHANGED YOUR MIND....that way you wont lose your tent money. ITs not right to blackmail you into having your father walk you down when he from what you said wasnt a part of your life like that.

Oh i didnt read the post ahead of mine lol.. we said the same thing lol. i think you should do it.

leeserd Posted: Apr 07, 2009 10:13 PM+

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Posted: Apr 07, 2009 10:13 PM

Re: personal story and need strangers help hehe

Without getting into details, this sounds like my life. I don't know if this sounds really bad but if your mom would put you through this then in my opinion it is perfectly ok to lie to her and tell her that dad will walk you down the aisle and then after the party 'change your mind'. It is fairly obvious that she did all of this on purpose to try to force the issue with you and get her way. So you play her game. Good Luck!

dutchessev Posted: Apr 08, 2009 08:11 AM+

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Posted: Apr 08, 2009 08:11 AM

Re: personal story and need strangers help hehe

Posted by NYMETBRIDE

This might sound dishonest, but maybe just appease her for now and after the party tell her you've thought about it and changed your mind. Its not about the gift, just the fact that you've already spent money and sent the invitations. If they choose to not be apart of the day later, thats their choice but at least you'll know well enough in advance!

I secomd this.

Kimbalina Posted: Apr 08, 2009 08:38 AM+

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Posted: Apr 08, 2009 08:38 AM

Re: personal story and need strangers help hehe

Your wedding is over a year away,,, it is a while to think about it. You don't have to know the absolute answer right now for your self. I would appease your mom for the time being. If you relationship is what it is then let it be and agree..
However there are other options.. you walking down alone (say that you are a GROWN woman and walking with someone doesnt suit you) but you want

your Dad to give you away and meet you at the end of the aisle.

I had similar issues and the day of .... none of it mattered.

RPMG26599 Posted: Apr 08, 2009 08:51 AM+

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Posted: Apr 08, 2009 08:51 AM

Re: personal story and need strangers help hehe

Posted by Kimbalina

Your wedding is over a year away,,, it is a while to think about it. You don't have to know the absolute answer right now for your self. I would appease your mom for the time being. If you relationship is what it is then let it be and agree..
However there are other options.. you walking down alone (say that you are a GROWN woman and walking with someone doesnt suit you) but you want your Dad to give you away and meet you at the end of the aisle.

I had similar issues and the day of .... none of it mattered.

I agree with this Lis......You could walk down by yourself and then just have him give you a peck at the end of the isle (I know you wouldnt even want that but its better than him doing the actual walking with you down the isle.....).

Liv123 Posted: Apr 08, 2009 01:31 PM+

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Posted: Apr 08, 2009 01:31 PM

Re: personal story and need strangers help hehe

I don't really like being dishonest, but sometimes desperate times call for desperate measures.

Try talking to your mom first and letting her know 1). WHY it is so important to you that your dad NOT walk you down the aisle - what repercussions it could have (ie. pics coming out with you looking miserable).
2). how you feel about her making these threats to you

and seeing if that helps you out.

If not, I agree - you should just 'change your mind' later. You are just playing the same game she played when she offered up her house before she asked you about who was walking down the aisle.

Third Option would be to call her bluff which can result in either a) nothing - you still have the party there, b) she cancels the party at her house, gives you no gift - but then how would you feel ??

Would the 'change your mind' tactic ruin your relationship any more than her calling off the party ? If not, thats what I would do.

Soon2bMrsH Posted: Apr 09, 2009 09:57 AM+

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Posted: Apr 09, 2009 09:57 AM

Re: personal story and need strangers help hehe

Posted by RPMG26599

Posted by Kimbalina

Your wedding is over a year away,,, it is a while to think about it. You don't have to know the absolute answer right now for your self. I would appease your mom for the time being. If you relationship is what it is then let it be and agree..
However there are other options.. you walking down alone (say that you are a GROWN woman and walking with someone doesnt suit you) but you want your Dad to give you away and meet you at the end of the aisle.

I had similar issues and the day of .... none of it mattered.

I agree with this Lis......You could walk down by yourself and then just have him give you a peck at the end of the isle (I know you wouldnt even want that but its better than him doing the actual walking with you down the isle.....).

Actually, maybe i could work with this idea, have my brother walk me down, and then my brother can lift my veil and then right before i step on teh alter my father could be standing there and give a peck (gross). its a thought! thanks girls!