please cheer me up-with update

everything is i think fine now, he actually talked to his parents and theyre upset that this happened not just at me but everyone involved, but then after FH spoke to them and then i did speak to his mom after that because he told me his mom did feel bad bout yesterday i didnt apologize for what happened but we did talk everything out and she told me shes sorry it happened that way yesterday but she loves me and i'm one of her kids now and when that happened she was heated.

i dont know what will happen money wise though now, but i'll keep u updated. thanks for asking i really appreciate it.

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Posted by Soon2BeMrs2006

everything is i think fine now, he actually talked to his parents and theyre upset that this happened not just at me but everyone involved, but then after FH spoke to them and then i did speak to his mom after that because he told me his mom did feel bad bout yesterday i didnt apologize for what happened but we did talk everything out and she told me shes sorry it happened that way yesterday but she loves me and i'm one of her kids now and when that happened she was heated.

i dont know what will happen money wise though now, but i'll keep u updated. thanks for asking i really appreciate it.

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Posted by Soon2BeMrs2006

everything is i think fine now, he actually talked to his parents and theyre upset that this happened not just at me but everyone involved, but then after FH spoke to them and then i did speak to his mom after that because he told me his mom did feel bad bout yesterday i didnt apologize for what happened but we did talk everything out and she told me shes sorry it happened that way yesterday but she loves me and i'm one of her kids now and when that happened she was heated.

i dont know what will happen money wise though now, but i'll keep u updated. thanks for asking i really appreciate it.

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I'm happy everything worked out for you.
But please keep your eyes and ears open to everything that's going on around you, she make flip out again
Let's hope not.

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Posted by Soon2BeMrs2006

Thanks, I will. Its still not completely done yet, as now we dont know what will happen with the hall, and the next payment is due next week.

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Is there anyway you and your FH can make the payments yourself?

See everything worked out!

Very glad it all worked out so far! Dont stress over the pmt. if she's truly sorry she'll take care of it. I hope your feeling better.

Michelle, I'm sorry this happened, but I'm glad things are starting to work out. As for cancelling your contract, whos name is on it? If its your names then she cant cancel it right? She chose to give you all that money for your wedding. If the checks were cashed they cant get their money back unless the contract is cancelled right?

I hope things are even better now. If youre late on a payment they will not cancel you, just communicate with your hall and everything will be alright.

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Posted by Soon2BeMrs2006

Thanks, I will. Its still not completely done yet, as now we dont know what will happen with the hall, and the next payment is due next week.

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Is there anyway you and your FH can make the payments yourself?

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heres how payments were being habndled, my dad really cant afford to pay for my guests, my mom hasnt been working now and he cant afford it at the moment but he was all set to take out loans. i told him i would pay for my guests, and he would split vendor costs with FH, and since FH has so many guests his parents were paying for his side, which we were so thankful for. So as of right now i still paying for mine, my dad still paying for half venfors, but theres no way FH can pay for half vendors and rest of payments for hall

Hi.. Im glad everything worked out with your in-laws, but I have to tell you.. I'd keep my guard up because you know how this woman is capable of acting-and treating you. She may freak out on you again. As for her paying for some of the wedding... not for nothing.. being the way she is, she may throw it up in you & your FH's face in the future. It seems like shes the tyoe of person that would do that. Listen... Im only wishing for the best for you and your FH, but right now, I dont even think taking out loans to pay for a wedding is the best thing for you to do. I know it may be hard, but why not try to pay for everything yourselves, even if it means having a smaller reception. Im telling you sweetie.. I have crazy FIL myself. Knowing this my FH & I opted to pay for everything ourselves.. even if it meant having a longer engagement. We know that in the end when all is said and dont.. nothing will be thrown back at us.

I dont know what started the argument in the first place, but all I know is that people who make such a specticle has the tendancy to do it again. You dont deserve to be treated this way. YOU ARE AN ADULT and you are going to be your FH's wife. She should have shown you a little more respect. I hope everything works out for you. I wish you only the best of luck with all of your wedding planning. Please keep us all updated.

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Posted by Soon2BeMrs2006

Thanks, I will. Its still not completely done yet, as now we dont know what will happen with the hall, and the next payment is due next week.

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Is there anyway you and your FH can make the payments yourself?

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heres how payments were being habndled, my dad really cant afford to pay for my guests, my mom hasnt been working now and he cant afford it at the moment but he was all set to take out loans. i told him i would pay for my guests, and he would split vendor costs with FH, and since FH has so many guests his parents were paying for his side, which we were so thankful for. So as of right now i still paying for mine, my dad still paying for half venfors, but theres no way FH can pay for half vendors and rest of payments for hall

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so - why can't FH cut out guests on his side?? keep it immediate family - or people who are really important. if kept my list to people who were really important - i could write a check tomorrow and pay for the whole thing! i'm sure this attitude would have his parents changing their tune.

but seriously - i am glad you stood up to FH - too many people are running your life right now - and money isn't everything. i would be more apt to tell my FIL's to take a walk before they held my wedding reception over my head!!

good luck to you........best wishes......

I am glad things are looking up for you, but like Janie said, someone who acts like that and makes such a big thing of it is very capable of doing it again. I hope everything works out.

honey, this seems like it has nothing to do with you... i do not kn ow what was exaclty said , but mayeb fmil does not like you for some stupid reason.

try and stop crying, i know it is hard though. us girls are here for you. i hope he calls you. maybe this has nothing to do with you. maybe it is a money issue. you never know. the littlest things can make people upset.

try and cheer up, if your fh loves you enough, he will not listen to his mom and marry you even if it is against fmil's wishes

many many hugs

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Posted by Soon2BeMrs2006

i told FH i would be fine just getting married and not even having reception i could care less bout it, i dunno what will happen. basically its just matter of them saying they dont want to pay if we'll have fight and divorce say year later whih is valid point to make but not in our circumstance i dont believe in divorce and have been with FH for so long already, i'm even saving myself for marriage give me a break why would i divorce him if all i want is to spend rest of my life with him

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No offense - I know I'm coming in on this thread late but I've read (almost) all the posts here and it seems to me like your FILs are looking for a way to get out of paying their half of this wedding. 'What if you get into a fight and get a divorce in a year'??? Come on, give me a break.

I would just point blank ask them... Is paying for half of the reception hall too big of a financial burden??? See what they say. Sounds very fishy to me...

Good Luck.

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Posted by Soon2BeMrs2006

i told FH i would be fine just getting married and not even having reception i could care less bout it, i dunno what will happen. basically its just matter of them saying they dont want to pay if we'll have fight and divorce say year later whih is valid point to make but not in our circumstance i dont believe in divorce and have been with FH for so long already, i'm even saving myself for marriage give me a break why would i divorce him if all i want is to spend rest of my life with him

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No offense - I know I'm coming in on this thread late but I've read (almost) all the posts here and it seems to me like your FILs are looking for a way to get out of paying their half of this wedding. 'What if you get into a fight and get a divorce in a year'??? Come on, give me a break.

I would just point blank ask them... Is paying for half of the reception hall too big of a financial burden??? See what they say. Sounds very fishy to me...

Good Luck.

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maybe..who knows. but i mean they already put 4000 down.
i offered FH to talk to them myself but he says he doesnt want them knowing that they said that hoping it was just in anger so hes going to try talking to them first.

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Posted by Soon2BeMrs2006

basically its just matter of them saying they dont want to pay if we'll have fight and divorce say year later whih is valid point to

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Sorry honey, but I don't think it is a valid point at all. You have faith in your relationship, FH has faith in your relationship, and one fight (a year or twenty from now) is not going to break it in two. Besides, I didn't hear FH saying he wanted to break it off, I heard FMIL telling him to break it off b/c FBIL was a jerk. (which in and of itself makes no sense)

It sounds to me like there is more going on here, like some financial issue with FIL that they didn't anticipate in the beginning. If that is the case, and they are paying for their guests, then they will just have to reduce the numbers to something they can handle.