we are getting married in 4 days and i can't stop thinking about what my fh did on his batchlore party:
i left to go out of town for mine while he said he was going to be staying home and probably doing his batchlore party sometime later--going to the local bar or a frineds house and getting drunk is what he told me. well, when i got back i asked him if he had his, because being a girl i suspected he did. he told me no, but after talking to him for awhie he finally told me he did. knowing how i feel about strippers he told me that his friends got '1'. so i was mad but got over it. the following morning i had work, i opened my email and someone sent me a email telling me: you future husband got head from one of the strippers and practically f&^cked her in front of everyone. and that they were an cowerd and couldn't tell me their name. :( the next day i got a phone call from of course a blocked number telling me that he took a shower w/ the strippers too. sooooooo. i am really having a hard time right now!! oh, when i spoke to him about this, he of course got extremly mad and said none of it is true!! he said he did take a shower and the stripper did too but not at the same time!! oh, and i guess his friends ripped off all of his clothes and he was walking around naked all night, not to say getting lap dances and who else knows what. he also did not invite eiother of my brothers whom are both in the wedding he is very trust worthy, othter that lying about never getting a stripper and we have been together for 5 years now. i don't think he would ever do something like this but why would someone send me a email and call me?? are there people out there that are that evil to make up something like this. i feel really bad, but extremely mad at the same time. i try to put myself in his shoes and see how mad i would be if all this was 'made up'... i don't really know. please tell me your opinions!!
mohajeriny
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OK you need to really talk to him because even if it isn't true- people are calling you who knew he had strippers there and you need to find out who was there that night and talk to them too because who else beside the people who were there knew about the strippers? also- i would def. ask him more questions and try to get to the bottom of this even if it does make him angry because you have the right to know every detail even if it may be nothing to him. You deserve that reassurance and answers.
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Okay so first off, there are people out there who would make up this story BUT that doesn't mean this story is made up. No one is going to be able to tell you if its true (unless more people come foward to tell you and you really need to know who is saying what so you can know whether or not you trust them). That being said, I have 2 questions. 1, why did your fh take a shower and why did the stripper? I am a bit confused because I've never heard of this and it doesn't make sense that she would be showering at the house (unless there was something messy involved). I just don't think that makes sense so I think he needs to explain himself a bit more on that one. #2, why weren't your brothers invited? Are they too young? Is there another reason that wouldn't make it seem weird. Honestly, reading this whole story I hate to say that I think it is true but I do. But, I just don't think you should totally make that conclusion before you really rule everything out. After all, I don't know your fh. i am really sorry all of this is happening to you. I can only imagine how you feel. You totally have my sympathy and I hope everything ends up alright. All I can tell you is find out as much as you can and then go with your gut. Ps. if it was me, I could deal with the lap dance. Wouldn't love it but could deal with it. The head thing would be a major deal breaker though as would the shower. Just sharing what would/ would not bother me to put stuff into perspective for you.
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Go with your gut...I would somehow get to the bottom of this. Ask around, there has to be someone that was there that you can confide in. also...rememer who he is. If you do trust him, perhaps there are people out there who really are evil.
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omg men are disgusting sometimes..im sorry u are going through this...
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WELL HE SAID THAT SHE WAS PUTTING WHIP CREAM ON HIS CHEST AND A COUPLE OF OTHER GUYS TOO. SO HE SAID HE WAS ALL STICKY. NOW, HOW IT GOT ALL OVER HER IS A GOOD QUESTION. MY BROTHERS WERE NOT INVITED OR TOLD BECAUSE THE BEST MAN JUST DID WORD OF MOUTH AND FORGOT TO TELL THEM. SO EITHER THEY DIDN'T WANT THEM THERE FOR A REASON OR THEY FORGOT. AND NO ONE IS SAYING ANYTHING DIFFERNET THAT WHAT HE IS TELLING ME.
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i can't even say how bad i feel for you, i want to cry for you.. i honestly don't know what to say. i can't imagine why people would lie to you to be mean to you and your fiance, why would they make it up? something went horribly wrong with the bachelor party and if i were you i'd focus on finding out exactly what happened before you walk down the aisle. good luck, i hope it all works out
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That is horrible- you need to find out who this girl is that called you and told you that stuff. Does she have a reason to lie about it?
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Posted by rachelle209
WELL HE SAID THAT SHE WAS PUTTING WHIP CREAM ON HIS CHEST AND A COUPLE OF OTHER GUYS TOO. SO HE SAID HE WAS ALL STICKY. NOW, HOW IT GOT ALL OVER HER IS A GOOD QUESTION. MY BROTHERS WERE NOT INVITED OR TOLD BECAUSE THE BEST MAN JUST DID WORD OF MOUTH AND FORGOT TO TELL THEM. SO EITHER THEY DIDN'T WANT THEM THERE FOR A REASON OR THEY FORGOT. AND NO ONE IS SAYING ANYTHING DIFFERNET THAT WHAT HE IS TELLING ME.
I'm sorry, I'm just not buying this.... And whoever is emailing/calling you knows something about the night's antics, could it be the gf/wife of one of the guys who attended???
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Here's my issue, why did he lie in the first place about having the bachelor party?! I don't want to mislead you, but that should set off some major alarms.
I am sorry that you are going thru this, but you need to find out the truth before you marry this man.
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i am totally stunned by this whole thing and have no words of advice, i'm sorry. I hope you get to the bottom of it.
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this is tough one. if someone were to call me saying these things i think i would believe them because i can't imagine someone lieing about this stuff. who would have any motive to lie? you're been together 5 yrs so i doubt its a jealous ex girlfriend at this point. i don't know, but i hope that you find out the truth and hope that THIS isn't it.
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wow i'm so sorry to hear about this... but on the other hand, IF it really did happen -- its better to know what kinda person he is before you guys sign the papers...
but i will definitely find out what on earth happened! good luck!
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Wow... I really don't know what I would do in this situation. I don't get why he would lie to you in the first place.. right there just doesn't make sence. I would ask him about that. If he keeps getting mad all the time you bring it up then I would definatly think that he's in defesive mode...and that would scare me. Don't get upset or sarcastic when you talk to him... stay ultra calm and collected...that way he can't rub it in your face that you're really accussing him of anything. Maybe you can also find out who else was there...ask them what happened..? Are you friends with his friends..?? They should def. tell you the truth...
krislee316
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if your getting married in 4 days why does ur profile say october fishy fishy
stinenandy2010
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Why is this very similar to the other problem posted b4 on all the boards??????
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My first thought is why did he first lie to you about having one? To me it sounds like he has something to hide but then decided he could get away with it and thats why he ended up admitting he had one. Hope everything works out for you.
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if your getting married in 4 days why does ur profile say october fishy fishy
She has a point there
If this is real (I assume it is) then you have a big problem on your hands
1. He initially lied when you asked him about it -- very suspicious.
2. You get an email that details him getting oral and whatever -- sounds like the gf or wife of someone in attendance decided to give you a heads up. I don't see a guy writing this and it has to be someone you know.
3. Your brothers were not invited -- no witnesses from your family. Total BS -- why all the secrecy?
4. The stripper took a shower?????? WHY????? Seriously suspicious
Like my mom says, 'Where there's smoke, there's fire' Sorry you're going through this!!!!
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Posted by stinenandy2010
Why is this very similar to the other problem posted b4 on all the boards??????
