Ok...If this is true then I would not be able to marry him until I had the absolute truth. I would (in the most calm and collected manner) tell him that you could not go through with the wedding until he was absol. honest with you. Try to explain to him that you know what goes on with strippers and your not stupid. Tell him to put himself in your shoes! HTH
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If this is true, I am so sorry. I would call off the wedding. Way too many red flags here. I agree w/the other posters, why would anyone out of the blue send you these emails just to mess w/you? And why was the stripper showering? And he lied to you about having the BP in the first place. I just couldn't walk down the aisle w/all those red flags.
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if your getting married in 4 days why does ur profile say october fishy fishy
I would stab his a@@ and then pick up a dictionary to learn how to spell 'batchlore' the correct way!! I think it's bs but very entertaining!!
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OK you need to really talk to him because even if it isn't true- people are calling you who knew he had strippers there and you need to find out who was there that night and talk to them too because who else beside the people who were there knew about the strippers? also- i would def. ask him more questions and try to get to the bottom of this even if it does make him angry because you have the right to know every detail even if it may be nothing to him. You deserve that reassurance and answers.
yeah thats a little suspicious. People can lie and make up stories, so that part is definitely true but at the same time they are giving facts so its somebody that knows what happened. They obviously knew about the strippers and that he even took a shower during his bachelor party. If you had received an email saying that your fh did something wrong but didnt give a timeframe or too much info and there were no facts to back it up then it'd be different. This on the other hand seems like it does have facts to back it up. They told you there were strippers and obviously in a house not that they went to a strip club so not like it was just a situation where maybe he went to a strip club and somebody who knew you was there. Plus they mentioned the shower thing and your fh admitted he took a shower, and that a stripper took a shower just not at the same time.
So, the only people it could be is one of the guys at the bachelor party OR its very possible that one of the guys told their gf/fiancee/wife the details of what happened, sometimes couples confide in eachother like that and talk about these things. And maybe one of the gf's got mad about what happened and is trying to tell you about it without anybody knowing its her.
You definitely need to talk to him, i would be upset if i asked him if he had his bachelor party, him saying no but then later on saying that yes he did. Makes me wonder why he would lie about it in the first place.
Like i said, if it was a random email with no real facts then it would be possible than an ex or someone who doesnt like you was trying to break you up. But who would know this much details about his bachelor party, just for the fact that they knew he had one and when shows its somebody that knows you both very well.
I pray for you that nothing bad did happen, but you two definitely need to sit down and talk because obviously you weren't satisfied with his answers or else you wouldnt be questioning it now.
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Posted by krislee316
if your getting married in 4 days why does ur profile say october fishy fishy
I would stab his a@@ and then pick up a dictionary to learn how to spell 'batchlore' the correct way!! I think it's bs but very entertaining!!
ITA on ALLL parts....i just cant take it anymore
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I'm not really the one to jump to conclusions but you say you're getting married in 4 days and you're wedding date say October?
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There are shady areas of the story. He took a shower but not at the same time. Why were the strippers anywhere near him while showering. You need to find out who sent the email or find out exactly what happen, because you dont know if he is telling the truth. If you feel you cant trust him don't marry him. Trust me it may hurt now but in the end it may be better for you. Good Luck.
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uh oh girls, watch out, the LIW policy are going to come and tell you all to stop being super sleuths
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I don't get why someone would lie about something like this? why would you want negative energy toward you and your FH? if you look at her last 10 posts, she states she's getting married in august in other ones too- idk- i am so confused... this is all too weird.
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if your getting married in 4 days why does ur profile say october fishy fishy
Yeah I was thinking the same thing, funny how this seems to be the trend of the earlier posts today....
anyway if this story is true...lots of luck !!!
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i'm still confused why the stripper showered there
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and it is 'bachelor'....sorry that was bothering me
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First thing guys don't normally cheat after 5 years with a stripper. Cheaters usually do shady things long before that. I don't know his track record.
I have heard that strippers who do house calls are extra slutty and will do anything-pretty much. They don't normally take showers but maybe she was a clean stripper or off to break up another marriage after yours.
The guys at the party are not going to tell you, they have a 'man code' I would butter up one of their spouses and try to find out.
If somebody sent me that e-mail I would 100% laugh it up because I tust my FH with my life and I know he wouldn't lie about anything ever. You don't seem as sure. His grandmother could tell me she saw him getting head from a stripper and I would call her a liar to her face.
I would call off the wedding honestly. This is not the way to start the rest of your life. Who knows what diseases that stripper had.
If this is a made up story then I hope your life gets better anyway.
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sorry i cahnges all the info because i didn't want anyone i know to read this and know i was telling/ asking people was they thought. plus i didn't want his friends or him to find out either
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Ok I do feel horrible for you and that was smart. If you marry that man NEVER tell anybody you know personally about this. People will have nothing nice to say.
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First of all he lied about having the party so right off the bat he's guilty. Second, use your common sense!! Why would a stripper use your shower!! Not a good way to start off a marriage!! Run like hell!! And yes for the record, I would still stab his a@@!!!!!!
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I really hope this is a joke bc if it isnt I feel really bad for the OP. This would devastate anyone.
I think I would definitely stab him! and then watch him bleed
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If this is true, I am so sorry. I would call off the wedding. Way too many red flags here. I agree w/the other posters, why would anyone out of the blue send you these emails just to mess w/you? And why was the stripper showering? And he lied to you about having the BP in the first place. I just couldn't walk down the aisle w/all those red flags.
ITA I would postpone the wedding until you know you can have a truthful marriage. This is a bad start if he is already lying to you. Good luck with whatever you decide.
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Hello,
My name is James. i am a future husband getting married next year and my fiance read your post to me so i figured i would stick my two sense in, even though this could get me crucified by my comrades in the male gender. It all pretty much boils down to a saying that my grandfather told me when i was just a boy. 'If you have nothing to hide, don't hide it...' or was it 'Strippers only should take showers in your house if they were sprayed down with condiments.' It was a long time ago so i don't really remember the exact wording. Now lets just let that sit for a second...now take a deep breathe. Ok let's break down the events...so he had a stripper, denied it at first most likely because he knew your reaction. But he ended up confessing which is most likely because that little angel on his shoulder that was placed there by his mother when he was 5 years old. I would know, i got my little annoying angel at about 4 1/2 years. To this day, i still can't tell a lie, THANKS MOM.
I am going to play both sides of the gender plate here though and say, we get mad to try to cover up the fact we did something wrong. We can deny and deny in the hopes that you will let it go, forget it (which we know will never happen, my fiance brings up crap from my past that she wasn't even around for), or try to avoid the topic all together. You should ask yourself a few questions before you start getting all riled up. 1) Are any of his friends in love with you (they could have sent you the message in hopes of you running to them)? 2) are any of his friends dating one of your good friends (they could have sent that message trying to protect you)? 3) As he ever gotten mad like this in the past and the conclusion ended up being he was telling the truth (maybe he isn't lieing)? 4) Why the hell was a stripped showering at the house? doesn't she have her own shower (unless they used honey or something sticky, she could have just left)?
I think you should get a little more sherlock homesy and little less worried. I doubt he cheated on you though. i would hope that the person you were dating for the past 5 years had a shred of decency in him to not shower with strippers 4 days before your wedding. I don't think you should let your love be tainted by a another naked women though, unless he slept with her. I guess the big question is, DO YOU TRUST HIM??? That is what it all boils down too.
And remember girls, a good back scrubbing by a naked stripper isn't cheating.
OK OK, you probably all hate me now. i am just kidding, you should grill that SOB and find out the truth. That sh*t is important and you need to find out before you make get married in 4 days.
The saying really was ' if you have nothing to hide, then don't hide hide it'
Love,
James
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why not talk to the other guys that were there? i would go to them and ask around ... of course i would talk to FH first and talk to him seriously and telll him how you feel and tell him that you do not want to get married until this is all worked out!
