PLEASE HELP- BATCHLORE PARTY HELL STORY!

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Posted by wifetobe

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Posted by autumnbride10

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Posted by wifetobe

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Posted by Jenn04

Can he explain why his friends are calling and emailing you?? Thats just bizarre. If I were in a situation like this...I would turn to my guy friends for help and advice. Even still...I would prob be flipped out because of 1) the lie 2) the friends calling 3) the wedding is so close.

OK - I am really trying to put myself in your shoes here. I know you love your FH but you have to question why his friends are calling and telling you these things and the whole shower thing is just sketchy.

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She's not sure who it was from though..they've been secretive and won't give their name.. so she's not sure who is calling and emailing her..

I feel so bad..I don't really know what I would do except postpone until I knew the truth..

did he get head or not..did he practically F her or not did he shower with her all not!! Crazy allegations!!!

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What I'm still trying to understand is how an e-mail can be anonymous. Doesn't every e-mail have a name attached?

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Not if they made up a name though.

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Posted by autumnbride10
But can't you e-mail yahoo or gmail, and say it's spam and then find out who sent it?

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Posted by MrsHtobe

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Posted by autumnbride10
But can't you e-mail yahoo or gmail, and say it's spam and then find out who sent it?

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I could make up an email address and tell yahoo my name is Joe Smith.

I don't think you can trace it

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Posted by wifetobe

Has the op been on since she posted this!??? Where'd she go??? I hope she gives an update!!!

ugggg...I'd be having a breakdown if I were her!!

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Posted by dazey

i can't even say how bad i feel for you, i want to cry for you.. i honestly don't know what to say. i can't imagine why people would lie to you to be mean to you and your fiance, why would they make it up? something went horribly wrong with the bachelor party and if i were you i'd focus on finding out exactly what happened before you walk down the aisle. good luck, i hope it all works out

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Posted by rachelle209

ok here's the story!

we are getting married in 4 days and i can't stop thinking about what my fh did on his batchlore party:

i left to go out of town for mine while he said he was going to be staying home and probably doing his batchlore party sometime later--going to the local bar or a frineds house and getting drunk is what he told me. well, when i got back i asked him if he had his, because being a girl i suspected he did. he told me no, but after talking to him for awhie he finally told me he did. knowing how i feel about strippers he told me that his friends got '1'. so i was mad but got over it.
the following morning i had work, i opened my email and someone sent me a email telling me: you future husband got head from one of the strippers and practically f&^cked her in front of everyone. and that they were an cowerd and couldn't tell me their name. :(
the next day i got a phone call from of course a blocked number telling me that he took a shower w/ the strippers too.
sooooooo. i am really having a hard time right now!!
oh, when i spoke to him about this, he of course got extremly mad and said none of it is true!!
he said he did take a shower and the stripper did too but not at the same time!! oh, and i guess his friends ripped off all of his clothes and he was walking around naked all night, not to say getting lap dances and who else knows what.
he also did not invite eiother of my brothers whom are both in the wedding
he is very trust worthy, othter that lying about never getting a stripper and we have been together for 5 years now. i don't think he would ever do something like this but why would someone send me a email and call me?? are there people out there that are that evil to make up something like this.
i feel really bad, but extremely mad at the same time. i try to put myself in his shoes and see how mad i would be if all this was 'made up'... i don't really know.
please tell me your opinions!!

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Posted by FutureMrsCarrieri

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Posted by KPetekie


You should ask yourself a few questions before you start getting all riled up. 1) Are any of his friends in love with you (they could have sent you the message in hopes of you running to them)?

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This is what my FH said too!!!!!

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Posted by dazey

well i hope she found out the TRUTH no matter how bad and made the right decision.

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Posted by KPetekie

Hello,

My name is James. i am a future husband getting married next year and my fiance read your post to me so i figured i would stick my two sense in, even though this could get me crucified by my comrades in the male gender. It all pretty much boils down to a saying that my grandfather told me when i was just a boy. 'If you have nothing to hide, don't hide it...' or was it 'Strippers only should take showers in your house if they were sprayed down with condiments.' It was a long time ago so i don't really remember the exact wording. Now lets just let that sit for a second...now take a deep breathe. Ok let's break down the events...so he had a stripper, denied it at first most likely because he knew your reaction. But he ended up confessing which is most likely because that little angel on his shoulder that was placed there by his mother when he was 5 years old. I would know, i got my little annoying angel at about 4 1/2 years. To this day, i still can't tell a lie, THANKS MOM.

I am going to play both sides of the gender plate here though and say, we get mad to try to cover up the fact we did something wrong. We can deny and deny in the hopes that you will let it go, forget it (which we know will never happen, my fiance brings up crap from my past that she wasn't even around for), or try to avoid the topic all together.
You should ask yourself a few questions before you start getting all riled up. 1) Are any of his friends in love with you (they could have sent you the message in hopes of you running to them)? 2) are any of his friends dating one of your good friends (they could have sent that message trying to protect you)? 3) As he ever gotten mad like this in the past and the conclusion ended up being he was telling the truth (maybe he isn't lieing)? 4) Why the hell was a stripped showering at the house? doesn't she have her own shower (unless they used honey or something sticky, she could have just left)?

I think you should get a little more sherlock homesy and little less worried. I doubt he cheated on you though. i would hope that the person you were dating for the past 5 years had a shred of decency in him to not shower with strippers 4 days before your wedding. I don't think you should let your love be tainted by a another naked women though, unless he slept with her. I guess the big question is, DO YOU TRUST HIM??? That is what it all boils down too.

And remember girls, a good back scrubbing by a naked stripper isn't cheating.

OK OK, you probably all hate me now. i am just kidding, you should grill that SOB and find out the truth. That sh*t is important and you need to find out before you make get married in 4 days.

The saying really was ' if you have nothing to hide, then don't hide hide it'

Love,

James

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First thing guys don't normally cheat after 5 years with a stripper. Cheaters usually do shady things long before that. I don't know his track record.

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Posted by gemmifer

This whole thing is way bazzar

What is going on , on LIW

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