We are not doing 'plus ones' for most people. However, I don't consider it a plus one if they are in a relationship (regardless of the length of it-I don't feel it's up to me to gauge the seriousness of someone else's relationship). Everyone in a relationship at the time invitations go out will have their significant other invited by name, and the only people being given random plus ones are those that don't know anyone else, would be the only one in their group without someone, etc.
In all honesty, I think it's awful to be invited to a wedding without your boyfriend just because you're not engaged or married yet. It happened to me several times before FH and I were engaged and I found it really rude.
Thankfully in all the time I've been with him (nearly 5 years now), I've always been invited with him. However, twice I got put as 'Jonathan ______ & guest' By people who know we were super serious then. I get it now....wedding etiquette. But I thought I at least deserved a name! It made me think they thought he might bring someone else, lol.
I find that annoying too! We got a STD from an old college roommate of FH last year that listed me as 'Guest' and it drove me nuts. He knows me...his now wife knows me since I was already around by the time they started dating...were you really not sure who he would bring lol?
guitarstikibars
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We're doing serious relationships only. Some people are going to be a little miffed, but whatever. They'll understand when it's their turn to pay for a wedding! Lol.
pretty much this for us. i'm bending a little by giving guests to some single friends if i feel like they won't know a few other people at the wedding. i don't want people to not come because they fear they won't have anyone to hang out with.
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I think each situation is different. In the perfect world I would love for everyone to be able to bring someone but unfortunately its not. Since we are only inviting a few friends (as we dont even have the room for many of them) those who are in relationships get +1.
Most of my family is already married or too young to be in significant relationship no ones getting a plus one unless already married.
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All of our friends who are in relationships we're equal friends with their spouses/others so they're invited regardless, and I don't really consider them a real plus one. We do have 2 single girl friends who we gave a plus one to since they will literally be the ONLY single people there. But they're adults, we are not giving our young (16-20) cousins or Nieces/Nephews a plus one, although if one of them was in a long serious relationship we may have.
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Our guest list is 300 people, so we did a plus one for anyone we know w/ a bf or people coming from out of town or won't know anyone. I used to be upset when I wasn't invited w/ a plus one, but now that I see the costs and the stress of planning a wedding I will never be offended again-even if they invite me w/o my fh lol. I just have a feeling people would bring random dates or their mother or their sister, etc.
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We gave it to everyone. But we are also having a small wedding. And don't have a ton of single friends.
Angie2014
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We gave it to everyone. But we are also having a small wedding. And don't have a ton of single friends.
