I hear you on this! My plan to do 'no ring no bring'. Meaning I'm going to give people who are married/engaged a plus one and the bridal party a plus one. I feel like a definitive cut off is important if everyone isn't going to get a plus one so there's no confusion as to why someone got a plus one and someone didn't. I'd love for everyone to be able to bring somebody, but it's just way too expensive! I talked to my friends who have bfs but aren't engaged and they said they understand and wouldn't be offended. At the end of the day, people know how expensive weddings are and know that it's simply about the cost.
This!!! I also included those that had significant other in their lives for yrs as well. It is what it is. Weddings get expensive!!!
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Because I am keeping my wedding guests to only people that are pretty close with me, I will be doing plus ones for just about everyone, but just for some food-for-thought-- my sister and her friends just got invited to a wedding and all are married, so they got plus ones. However, all of the girls decided to leave the hubbies home to save on gifts and to have a ladies night out, so if any of you are feeling guilty for not giving a plus one, just remember you are saving them money in the long run! No guilt there!
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Posted by cconaty94
Because I am keeping my wedding guests to only people that are pretty close with me, I will be doing plus ones for just about everyone, but just for some food-for-thought-- my sister and her friends just got invited to a wedding and all are married, so they got plus ones. However, all of the girls decided to leave the hubbies home to save on gifts and to have a ladies night out, so if any of you are feeling guilty for not giving a plus one, just remember you are saving them money in the long run! No guilt there!
So true!! Some of our guests realized this, and decided not to bring plus ones.
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FH was invited to a wedding solo when we were together 6 months. He was 28 at the time and was super pissed about it and hasn't let it go yet. EVERYONE is a plus 1 (except his 2 cousins who are late teens). We will let our guests make that decision on their own and many of them will probably choose NOT to bring a date if it's not serious
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thanks ladies... i am liking the 'no ring no bring'.. we may need to implement that!
Just realize that this may offend a lot of people that are in serious relationships but not engaged. I was with my FI for 3 1/2 years before we got engaged and if either of us were invited to a wedding without the other I would have been pissed and maybe not gone to the wedding. Just because someone doesn't have a ring doesn't mean their relationship is any less valuable, especially if an engagement will be on their plate in the future. I think the long term relationships and a date if you don't know anyone will be our plus ones.
I agree, I have a few friends and family members that have been in the same relationship for several years but may never get married just because they don't want marriage.. or a few same sex couples that may not live in a state where they can get married... so I don't think I would feel right not inviting their significant others.. I'm going to go with the serious relationship rule too. Single friends are not getting a plus one. Luckily I don't think we have anyone who doesn't know anyone else so we won't have to worry about that end of it.
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We invited all of our adult guests with a plus one. I didn't want to offend anyone, and I know I wouldn't want to be invited solo to a party as well. Especially if I had been in a relationship. I know the cost can run up and your space, but actually mostly all of our single guests rsvp'd solo so it worked out.
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The people that will be single are actually all friends so I am inviting them with a plus one but Im thinking they will probably just all come together as a group.
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a friend of mine got married last yr and only put down 1 for me while i was in a long term relationship.. at first i was kind of offended, but now i'm planning i kind of understand.. we're doing the same thing too if they're not engaged then they cannot bring a date.. it really adds up.. unless i know the significant other personally then ill invite.
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I don't think it's rude at all. I don't think it's necessary for you to pay for people to just bring a friend or someone they met last week on jdate. I was originally going to go the route you are planning, but I realized i really didn't know the relationship status of many guests, so i decided to just invite everyone with a plus 1 to cover my bases and make my guests comfortable. Luckily, no one brought a random +1. it was just the people I would have invited with plus ones anyway.
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I agree. When someone is in a long term or serious relationship, it is very rude not to invite their significant other. Some couples may never marry or get engaged, that doesn't make their relationship less important.
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I have this problem too! I want to make sure I tell the guests in advance that are expecting a plus one, but I am really bad with words How do I phrase on a phone call that I unforunately can't invite plus ones? Like exact wording that won't offend someone?
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If you're doing this for financial reasons, there's nothing wrong with simply citing that as a reason. I know some people on here have said it's rude, but it's hard to pay for a lot of extra people, especially when it's people you have no relationship with whatsoever!
