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We have been living together since 3/04 and didn't get engaged until 11/04. Our parents weren't thrilled but luckily they didn't give us grief and have come to accept it. Moving in together was the right decision for us. I love waking up to him each morning and going to sleep with him next to me. Moving in together solidified to both of us that we were meant to be together. It's your decision... everyone else has to deal!![]()
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I wish we were living together but both our parents are old-school and it just wouldn't sit well with them. It wouldn't help our financial situation right now either (we both are in school and only work part-time).
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We have ben living tofehter for about 2 years now(been together 7)....I think it was the best decision - we got all of the financial problems that newlweds often have out of the way...I also think that you really don't know someone till you live with them and IMO I would rather live together and know that we 'will make it' then have a wedding (that we'd pay) and be getting a divorce in a year...JMO...
How come almost ever post by T&DMaloney has been erased??
How come almost ever post by T&DMaloney has been erased??
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Posted by jaclyncalderon
How come almost ever post by T&DMaloney has been erased??
i was wondering that too
We lived together for 2 1/2 years in the condo we bought together...
IMO it was best decision
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FH & I dated for 4 1/2 years and then moved in together. We had a great opportunity to get a house. I am happy I did, although there was some concern from both my parents and myself that if I did, he would never marry me. Well that was almost a year and 1/2 ago and we got engaged in February - so it all worked out. Now I have no regrets cause like some of the other girls said, we were able to work out some of the kinks in our relationship that come along with living together. Good luck.
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I wouldn't live with FH until a ring was on my finger. I am not as young as many of the brides here and may be a little more established and set in her ways. It wasn't a question of morality or getting someone's approval. I mean I spent 4 years away in college and I am sure my parents didn't think I was 'sin free'. However, I was not about to uproot my entire life for someone who 'might want to marry me some day' - not at my age - too much to lose. IMO as you get older you know not so much what you want in a man, but what you don't want. I've seen enough, and dated enough to know that FH was the one.
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We shared our 1st apt for about 6 months...then we bought our house in Oct. 04
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At first I was opposed to it, but I think it was the best decision we have made! This is a personal choice!
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I wouldn't live with FH until a ring was on my finger. I am not as young as many of the brides here and may be a little more established and set in her ways. It wasn't a question of morality or getting someone's approval. I mean I spent 4 years away in college and I am sure my parents didn't think I was 'sin free'. However, I was not about to uproot my entire life for someone who 'might want to marry me some day' - not at my age - too much to lose. IMO as you get older you know not so much what you want in a man, but what you don't want. I've seen enough, and dated enough to know that FH was the one.
Yes me too. I am in my mid 30's and was the primary caretaker of my Dad. There was no way I was moving in with someone before we were engaged. There were no advantages for me at all in that situation if we were not getting married. I've tripled my commute and had to hire help to take care of Dad.
As one of my co-workers said years ago... 'No ticky, no shirty' when she wouldn't move in with her DH until they got engaged.
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Impossible to live together and pay for a wedding ourselves.
We have been togther for 6.5 years and we are 22/23. Rent is wayyyyy too expensive and we rather put it towards the wedding, since we are paying for it ourselves!!!
We have been togther for 6.5 years and we are 22/23. Rent is wayyyyy too expensive and we rather put it towards the wedding, since we are paying for it ourselves!!!
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We have been together for nine years and don't live together.
The funny thing is we bought a house last September and he is there by himself... of course i stay here and there on the weekends but i'll make the big move on august 8th!
The funny thing is we bought a house last September and he is there by himself... of course i stay here and there on the weekends but i'll make the big move on august 8th!
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Posted by Goldi1021
I wouldn't live with FH until a ring was on my finger. I am not as young as many of the brides here and may be a little more established and set in her ways. It wasn't a question of morality or getting someone's approval. I mean I spent 4 years away in college and I am sure my parents didn't think I was 'sin free'. However, I was not about to uproot my entire life for someone who 'might want to marry me some day' - not at my age - too much to lose. IMO as you get older you know not so much what you want in a man, but what you don't want. I've seen enough, and dated enough to know that FH was the one.
Same here!!!
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we live together and it was the best decision we ever made, we love it!!! we got to know each other on a different level, and we know that we love living together. you can lvoe someone and know everything there is to know about them, but living with them you can learn all these different things about them(its hard to explain). and i dont believe it 'spoils' anything. i would reccommend it anyone!!!![]()
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We are not living together....personally I didn't want to live with my FI until we were married. Its also helping us to save money for the wedding. I think that everyone has to do what is right for them.
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FH and I are have been living together for the last year and a half. We have been together for 3 years in July and we got engaged this past August - 4 1/2 months after and we had our son. We pretty much consider ourselves 'married' already.
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We won't be living together until after the wedding. We wanted to this past year, but my parents are VERY conservative, and it wasn't worth starting world war III with them...
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I'm very much looking forward to moving in with my honey...once we get married. I'm old school, as are both of our parents, and really, he is too...so we're both excited for the move!
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We have been living together for 3 years already. We moved in together after 6 months!
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I also agree with Goldi even though I am the average age of most of the brides on here. DH and I chose not to live together before the wedding even though we purchased our home before even getting engaged. For us it was the right decision for many reasons - we wanted to save alot of those special moments of the first year of living together for the first year of marriage -- the way we felt it should be. We wanted our wedding to be a real beginning to the joining together of our lives, not just coming back home to the same old thing. We didn't feel we needed to 'test drive' each other's living habits before getting married and our first year has not been difficult or a 'big adjustment' at all. It's been blissful, and I wouldn't have done it any other way.
Also DH lived with his ex-GF for 5 yrs and I am kind of old fashioned. Though he did want me to move in after we got engaged, he came around and agreed with me that it would be so much better to wait. The other day, he actually thanked me and said that our HM and our first few months of marriage have been so much more special because of it.![]()
Also DH lived with his ex-GF for 5 yrs and I am kind of old fashioned. Though he did want me to move in after we got engaged, he came around and agreed with me that it would be so much better to wait. The other day, he actually thanked me and said that our HM and our first few months of marriage have been so much more special because of it.
