POLL: When giving monetary gifts at a wedding...

ChrissynRicky Posted: Jan 11, 2006 03:30 PM

POLL: When giving monetary gifts at a wedding...

Do you give cash or a check?

I've always given cash and a co-worker told me that it was impolite...

I told her that I'd rather receive cash from a guest than a check b/c it could bounce!!!!

Mrs. Powell Posted: Jan 11, 2006 03:31 PM

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I give checks.

Mrs. dleeny Posted: Jan 11, 2006 03:31 PM

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why is it impolite to give cash?

99% of our gifts at the wedding were checks. and that's what I prefer. I felt safer with checks.

MissingTheBGene Posted: Jan 11, 2006 03:31 PM

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I do both, it depends on how close I am with the couple.

FallBride05 Posted: Jan 11, 2006 03:33 PM

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I don't understand why it's impolite either. Like Dina - I was more comfortable with the checks.

JessicaM. Posted: Jan 11, 2006 03:34 PM

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I like to give cash, b/c you run into the issue of who to write the check out to.

I know in our case, until my name is officially changed at the bank (by bringing in my marriage license) they cannot deposit checks written out to Mr. & Mrs. F,,,,,,., or worse, Jessica F. when I will still be Jessica M to the bank.

ChrissynRicky Posted: Jan 11, 2006 03:34 PM

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Posted by dleeny

why is it impolite to give cash?

99% of our gifts at the wedding were checks. and that's what I prefer. I felt safer with checks.

No clue - that's what my co-worker said...

I've just heard (many) stories where a couple's received a check and it's bounced!

chikita315 Posted: Jan 11, 2006 03:34 PM

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I give checks just in case a card gets misplaced.

It's happened to me

JCam695 Posted: Jan 11, 2006 03:36 PM

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Sadly, if a card goes missing, the Bride and Groom will think you never gave them anything.

With a check you can cancel it and send another.

xcalystax Posted: Jan 11, 2006 03:36 PM

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I give cash, a friend of mine had 5 checks bounce that were given to her as a wedding gift!

cindyandkevin Posted: Jan 11, 2006 03:37 PM

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Check. I would be afraid of something happening to the card if it had cash in it. Plus I don't usually carry that much cash on me to stick in a card, it's easier to just write a check.

itslaurie. Posted: Jan 11, 2006 03:38 PM

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Posted by JessicaM.

I like to give cash, b/c you run into the issue of who to write the check out to.

I know in our case, until my name is officially changed at the bank (by bringing in my marriage license) they cannot deposit checks written out to Mr. & Mrs. F,,,,,,., or worse, Jessica F. when I will still be Jessica M to the bank.

I always write a check made out to the name of the person who invited me. (what ever their name is at the time of invite)

My name is on my check, so I feel more comfortable giving that rather than cash. With all the envelopes and cards being opened (in a flurry as I imagine it ) I wouldn't want my cash to get mixed with someone else's. This way they know I indeed gave a gift, and how much.

Beth1210 Posted: Jan 11, 2006 03:43 PM

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Posted by JessicaM.

I like to give cash, b/c you run into the issue of who to write the check out to.

I know in our case, until my name is officially changed at the bank (by bringing in my marriage license) they cannot deposit checks written out to Mr. & Mrs. F,,,,,,., or worse, Jessica F. when I will still be Jessica M to the bank.

exactly what I was going to say- Jake and I had to go to the bank together b/c we got so many Mr and Mrs Jake's last name- which is NOT my last name- so I am not changing my bank account and that's where we put the money

Citi bank did depsit the check with Jake standing there- but I also explained the situation to the bank Manager- she loves me

Jen2999 Posted: Jan 11, 2006 03:45 PM

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Ive done both.. and really it just depended on if I had a chance to go to the bank to get 'crisp' bills or not.

103005FallBride Posted: Jan 11, 2006 03:48 PM

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Check always....

We rec'd lots of checks and lots of envelopes with cash. We of course preferred to receive the cash... but give checks.

Mayflower Posted: Jan 11, 2006 03:54 PM

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Most definitely checks. Cards are often misplaced or lost in the flurry of packing things up after a wedding, plus I imagine the bride and groom to be opening lots of cards at a given time, i wouldn't want my gift to be mixed in with another, or worse, have them assume i didn't give one.

Soon2BeMrs2006 Posted: Jan 11, 2006 03:56 PM

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either one. depends if i remember to take cash out beforehand.

jilmadison Posted: Jan 11, 2006 03:57 PM

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I never knew that giving cash was impolite. I always used to give checks, but DH likes to give cash.

whenever we discuss it, he says 'Cash is King' or 'every one wants cash'

carlsbride Posted: Jan 11, 2006 03:57 PM

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I wouldn't think it was impolite if someone gave me cash.
I give checks because I had an incident where I gave cash-never got a thank you-so I had no idea if the B&G lost my card.

M&S Sept12006 Posted: Jan 11, 2006 03:58 PM

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Christine-definitely give a check...I've heard some horror stories of people's cards disappearing at the reception etc...I always prefer to give a check.