Public Service Announcement for brides from a wedding party member:
Paying for your 'maids hair & make up is NOT a gift to them. it is a gift to YOU. it puts them out and benefits only you, therefore doo not refer to it as a gift to them, it will only annoy them.
If your wedding is at 4:00 pm, your wedding party is not obligated to be anywhere, etc before 2:00 pm earliest. Anything earlier you need to say please & thank you and be grateful for inconveniencing them.
Splitting up couples is rude. Splitting up married couples is hateful. In order to properly belss your own marriege, you should bless hte concept of marriage. karma will come back & bite you.
If fyou want to do a bouqet toss/garder toss fine. but if you call out your friends after they discreetly & politely decline, you are not a good friend. Hunilation is NOT a bridesmaid requirement! (and yes, many people find it humilating, just cause you don't doesn't mean you get to choose their values)
If you gave a crappy cheap gift to your friends last year, don't complain if you get the same $$ amount back. it doesn't matter that your wedding cost more - daa if you can afford more you NEED less.
smara
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Can someone PLEASE tell me who you are (the bride that is that supposedly saw this thread) I am just curious..
Maybe she doesnt know who she is... there is only one 6/06 bride who replied and she didnt say anything bad so maybe its not in 2 weeks.
Im too excited to work because of my BP and now I am all in the mix and being nosey.. damn PR -
Im also hooking up my MySpace --- im sure no one cares.. but im illustrating my point that I am doing everything but working.
BJandDan
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I really hope this thread isn't deleted by the time I get home from college..... it's providing much entertainment.
SeptBride70
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Posted by JennandPhil827
Posted by STBMrsDaniRella
Posted by BellaEyes
Can someone PLEASE tell me who you are (the bride that is that supposedly saw this thread) I am just curious..
you have FM, just call me sherlock holmes
Hey I figured it out and told you!! Credit please- I am not 100 percent sure either
JENNANDPHIL: she figured it out!!!
CREDIT CREDIT CREDIT!!! that's my smart older sister--
**IT SHOULD BE STATED THAT WE ARE NOT 100% SURE**
RadioLau
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I definately believe there are two sides to every story. I make no judgment on that bride without knowing her side.
smara
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Posted by BellaEyes
Can someone PLEASE tell me who you are (the bride that is that supposedly saw this thread) I am just curious..
you have FM, just call me sherlock holmes
Hey what about me.. it was my idea...
SeptBride70
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Posted by RadioLau
I definately believe there are two sides to every story. I make no judgment on that bride without knowing her side.
Maybe we could have a debate here. The bride in one corner and the disgruntled bridesmaid in the other corner. An LIW showdown!!
ellebelle1
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Posted by wp2006
whatever, it's costing me over $1,000 to be in this wedding party - bride INSISTED on a resturant shower with 50+ guests. INSISTED on a weekend away bachelorette. INSISTED on expensive dress and particular shoes and particular hair pieces. And you know what, ok I will show up at 8 am for your 4:00 pm wedding and I will endure getting driven 3 counties away to teh reception and then BEING STRANDED because hte couple is only providing transporttion THERE, not back. And I will have a stranger do my ahir & make up.
But I want a 'thank you' not a 'don't you date be late!' and I don't think I was a snob to ask about lunch, since I'll be tied up doing gosh knows what for 8 hours before dinner is served.
It's only a wedding, get over yourselves. the wedding is icing, it's nothing. it's a perk. The important thing is the marriage, so brides need to get over themselves with the 'perfect wedding' idea.
I guess you are NOT a real friend, then. Too bad. It's true, your real friends shine through during the time of your wedding
SeptBride70
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omg girls!!! i am out of breathe from laughing and it's just about quitting time so i need to get outta here!!!-- this made the day go by SO fast-- love all of my LIW girls SO much!!!
signing off now, too bad-- no more entertainment!! i'll be in touch...
HAVE FUN!!!!!!!!!!! you girls are the BEST
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Posted by RadioLau
Maybe we could have a debate here. The bride in one corner and the disgruntled bridesmaid in the other corner. An LIW showdown!!
My money is on bridzilla!!!!
lilqtpie2181
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Posted by ellebelle1
Posted by wp2006
whatever, it's costing me over $1,000 to be in this wedding party - bride INSISTED on a resturant shower with 50+ guests. INSISTED on a weekend away bachelorette. INSISTED on expensive dress and particular shoes and particular hair pieces. And you know what, ok I will show up at 8 am for your 4:00 pm wedding and I will endure getting driven 3 counties away to teh reception and then BEING STRANDED because hte couple is only providing transporttion THERE, not back. And I will have a stranger do my ahir & make up.
But I want a 'thank you' not a 'don't you date be late!' and I don't think I was a snob to ask about lunch, since I'll be tied up doing gosh knows what for 8 hours before dinner is served.
It's only a wedding, get over yourselves. the wedding is icing, it's nothing. it's a perk. The important thing is the marriage, so brides need to get over themselves with the 'perfect wedding' idea.
I guess you are NOT a real friend, then. Too bad. It's true, your real friends shine through during the time of your wedding
I agree... either that or she has no intention of ever getting marrried.. that is on bitter chickie right there!!!
Boston&NY2006
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Posted by RadioLau
Maybe we could have a debate here. The bride in one corner and the disgruntled bridesmaid in the other corner. An LIW showdown!!
My money is on bridzilla!!!!
Me too...You don't mess with a bride two weeks before her wedding!
MrsWmson2be
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2 months ago I told her (nicely) that no under no circumstances would I show up at 6 am to have my hair & make up done & get ready. She said fine. She only *just* told us, now it's 8:00. I explained the situation, she agreed. She thinks she made a HUGE concession to push it to 8. (oh and she is providing breakfast, but no lunch as she doesn't want our breath to smell for her ceremony. Dinner won't be until about 7:30/8 pm)
I did make a point about the cost of the shower and bachelorette parties at the time. She pulled a fit about the guys were going away so she shoudl get to. She said her mother was insisting on the huge shower invite list. She has lots of excuses.
I did discuss the stranding us at the reception, months ago. She shrugged, said she'd come up with asolution, and then DIDN'T.
I'm complaining now, because as it gets closer, she is increasingly putting the pressure on us.
I'm sorry, but she's refusing you lunch because she doesn't want your breath to smell for her ceremony? That's one of the funniest things I ever heard. She's the one that needs to say her vows; it's not like the bridal party has to say anything. If I was you, I'd be peeved over that also. This coming from someone who just got married herself 3 weeks ago. I would never justify starving my BM's for fear that their breath would smell. LOL.
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Own up to what you said be a true friend and do this face to face not on this site and not in an email either if you ever had respect for this relationship then do this in person. Not like a coward on here!!!!!!!!!!!
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Edit: Okay...I just went back and read some of your responses. You are obviously taking out anger by a bride who treated you unfairly. Maybe you should step out of the party if you are this unhappy.
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So, it is better to complain about your so-called 'friend' in a public forum that you know she reads, than confront her face to face as an adult?
Sounds like there is a lack of maturity on both sides.
smara
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Maybe we could have a debate here. The bride in one corner and the disgruntled bridesmaid in the other corner. An LIW showdown!!
