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I'm sorry, and I don't mean to be nasty, but how could you possibly use your dead mother's wedding gown as a pillow ?!?! Wow--

I think that would be a very sweet and touching way of incorporating something of your mothers into your wedding. Maybe try bringing it to a local dry cleaner, they can work wonders!! Good Luck and sorry about your loss!!!

i think it's a great idea! it is a very nice way to honor your mother.

I also think it is a great idea. You canmake a garter also

I would say try the cleaners and if that does not work than maybe you can get it colored...or maybe it doesnt matter especially since it was your mother's

i think that is so special

try the cleaners. But, even if they can't lighten it, I don't think it would look bad. Actually, I think it would be more obvious that it belonged to your mom- the color would show that it has aged.

Great idea!

Thats so wonderful!!!! I am wearing my mom's engagement ring on my pinky in tribute to my father who passed away. But the pillow is so special. I like the boquet idea also. Good luck with the dress I think it depends mostly on what it is made of.

I think you have a great idea incorporating your mom into your wedding that way. Sorry for your loss, Ic annot imagine how hard it must be to celebrate tyour wedding without your mom.

First of all, I think that it is beautiful for you to incorporate your mom into your wedding ceremony. I agree with all the ladies who suggest a dry cleaner, but honestly, would a little yellow really bother you or anyone if they cannot get it out? Even the memories that its slight fading bring with some yellowed aging is a testament to how you have held on to it and the memories associated with it and still strikes me as beautiful. If you can, I might even make mention of it in the program so that your guests understand just how special it is.
As for the comment made by the second person to post here, Laur 22, and I really really am not one to stir controversy and I think everyone is entitled to their opinion, I think your comment was wildly inappropriate. Grief and remembering/paying tribute to someone is personal and not something that should be judged or devalued. Since your comment did not really add any helpful suggestions, perhaps you might have held the thought rather than question someone you do not know; why belittle it if it makes someone else happy? Perhaps the storage of a dress is not practical or is not able to be used as a complete object. Maybe the memories of her mother are strong enough not to need to hang on to a dress as a reminder. I don't know, but then again, neither do you. I have had many friends have their dresses turned into baptismal clothing for their children; is this really so different?
Anyway, I guess what I am trying to say is that if you have nothing nice to say, maybe the best thing is to say nothing.

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Posted by DebMaher
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As for the comment made by the second person to post here, Laur 22, and I really really am not one to stir controversy and I think everyone is entitled to their opinion, I think your comment was wildly inappropriate. Grief and remembering/paying tribute to someone is personal and not something that should be judged or devalued. Since your comment did not really add any helpful suggestions, perhaps you might have held the thought rather than question someone you do not know; why belittle it if it makes someone else happy. Perhaps the storage of a dress is not practical or is not able to be used as a complete object. Maybe the memories of her mother are strong enough not to need to hang on to a dress as a reminder. I don't know, but then again, neither do you. I have had many friends have their dresses turned into baptismal clothing for their children; is this really so different?
Anyway, I guess what I am trying to say is that if you do not have anything nice to say, maybe the best thing is to say nothing.

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Thank you for stating what I felt I could not in appropriate words.

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Posted by 121502

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Posted by DebMaher
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As for the comment made by the second person to post here, Laur 22, and I really really am not one to stir controversy and I think everyone is entitled to their opinion, I think your comment was wildly inappropriate. Grief and remembering/paying tribute to someone is personal and not something that should be judged or devalued. Since your comment did not really add any helpful suggestions, perhaps you might have held the thought rather than question someone you do not know; why belittle it if it makes someone else happy. Perhaps the storage of a dress is not practical or is not able to be used as a complete object. Maybe the memories of her mother are strong enough not to need to hang on to a dress as a reminder. I don't know, but then again, neither do you. I have had many friends have their dresses turned into baptismal clothing for their children; is this really so different?
Anyway, I guess what I am trying to say is that if you do not have anything nice to say, maybe the best thing is to say nothing.

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Thank you for stating what I felt I could not in appropriate words.

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Well put. I also did not have the right words for this. You are so right that sometimes the dress on a whole can not be used but you want to. I know someone who wore her mom's dress and it started to unravel at the reception!

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Posted by ravens_bride

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Posted by 121502

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Posted by DebMaher
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As for the comment made by the second person to post here, Laur 22, and I really really am not one to stir controversy and I think everyone is entitled to their opinion, I think your comment was wildly inappropriate. Grief and remembering/paying tribute to someone is personal and not something that should be judged or devalued. Since your comment did not really add any helpful suggestions, perhaps you might have held the thought rather than question someone you do not know; why belittle it if it makes someone else happy. Perhaps the storage of a dress is not practical or is not able to be used as a complete object. Maybe the memories of her mother are strong enough not to need to hang on to a dress as a reminder. I don't know, but then again, neither do you. I have had many friends have their dresses turned into baptismal clothing for their children; is this really so different?
Anyway, I guess what I am trying to say is that if you do not have anything nice to say, maybe the best thing is to say nothing.

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Thank you for stating what I felt I could not in appropriate words.

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Well put. I also did not have the right words for this. You are so right that sometimes the dress on a whole can not be used but you want to. I know someone who wore her mom's dress and it started to unravel at the reception!

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Thank god you found nice way to put it b/c the way I would have worded it would have caused some problems,

I think its a great way to incorporate your mother please don't let the comments of the ignorant prevent your plans, the cleaners I'm sure can fix the yellowing and if not than I'd use it anyhow, it will look antique and its a beautiful gesture.

Princess 99 -- what a beautiful tribute to your mom.

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Posted by mia72098

My mother passed away 2 years ago and I wanted to use her wedding dress to make my ring bearer pillow. The dress however is a little yellow. Does any one know how or where this can be fixed?

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Good for you!!!! My mom has been dead for 13 years, and I have nothing of hers to incorperate into my wedding. So we will remember her during the wedding, and make a donation in her name to the American Cancer Society. Good Luck, and there is nothing wrong with that idea. Some people can be insensitive at times without thinking whose feelings they are hurting.