FH is driving me crazy! He doesn't clean anything, not a thing! We tried to solve this problem by hiring a cleaning lady, which has been great until recently. We canceled the cleaning lady in order to save the $200/month. I begged and pleaded for new bedroom furniture...FH said in order to get the new furniture we had to cancel the cleaning lady- wedding and brand new living room and bedroom- it just wasn't financially savvy to have both
anyway, im home all day cleaning -- thanks to my brilliant idea to take the cleaning ladys position lol, I hate cleaning!!!
FH thinks every woman out there keeps their home in tip top sparkly clean shape, all on their own with no help from the man...
So now for the question...
Does YOUR FH clean?
p.s. sorry for the long rant!
MrsC2010
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we both do the cleaning equally
AdriandSteve
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we don't live together but FH does clean.
He cleans his pots and pans while he's still cooking. When he goes away he HAS to unpack the second he gets home. Folds laundry right away. makes his bed every morning.
He's better then me sometimes.
halfbaked
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Only if I ask... or demand rather.
FutureMrsLMS
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most men hate cleaning...whether its their room, the bathroom, or even their own cars.
FH helps with cleaning though, I get on his case a lot. We each alternate with bathroom cleaning. For ex: I will do it 1 weekend, and next weekend he's in charge of the tub or the toilet (FWIW, I HATE cleaning the toilet!). But in general, I do a LOT more cleaning around the house than he does.
elisa112101
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umm FH is kinda a lazy azz But, if i nag enough he will do dishes and take out trash and random chores Somtimes!!
cateydee
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the only thing he does without me asking is take out the garbage. thats his 'job' cuz that is his dads job too.
but he has this annoynig thing that if he's cleaning, i have to clean too. everything has to be divided equally. i told him its not going to work if we r keeping score. so we both clean saturday or sunday mornings. and we switch off cooking and doing the dishes on weeknights. if he cooks i clean and vice versa.
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My situation isn't an option up there...right now FH actually does most of the cleaning. I am a full-time grad student, along with working almost 30 hours a week and being the primary caregiver to FSD...its a lot without taking cleaning/laundry into account. When I am in school FH does the cleaning and the laundry, I try to keep the things I do neat and I fold all the laundry...when I am not in school we split it 50/50...he does the kitchen/bathroom/dishes and I do the living/dining room (one L shaped room) and the laundry.
Lisalana
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I do most of the cleaning, but that's because I'm OCD about it, and want things rediculously spic and span.
He's always on toilet duty though - that one I will NOT do.
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We both share the cleaning equally. However, I do usually have to tell him what I need him to do. Something about male vision - they don't see dirt, or crumbs, or dust, or anything. SO, I have to give explicit instructions and we clean together. Definitely get this ironed out - it took some time and it was definitely hard in the beginning. It was a major point of contention when he first moved in. He had lived home his whole life and didn't understand that cleaning doesn't happen on its own.
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Posted by AdriandSteve
we don't live together but FH does clean.
He cleans his pots and pans while he's still cooking. When he goes away he HAS to unpack the second he gets home. Folds laundry right away. makes his bed every morning.
He's better then me sometimes.
Can Steve come over and teach Mike?????? The one time Mike folded laundry was when he had MY MOM do it!!!!!
Ok seriously though......my FH is pretty good about cleaning, when I ask him to. He does the dishes almost all of the time, because it was made clear when we moved in that if I did the cooking, he would do the dishes. But as far as cleaning the house, he'll vacuum and/or dust, straighten up etc., but usually only if I ask and that's because he knows I'm busy. But he never does it as good as me anyway
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FH helps, but I have to remind him or ask him. He always does the bathroom - that's his job. He helps with me the dishes when I ask. I pretty much do the dusting, cleaning the floors, and straightening up. He does laundry.
If I didn't ask or say ' ok today we have to clean,' he wouldn't notice/care and the house would just get messier and messier.
AngnShaun
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He actually likes cleaning the bathroom... go figure...
He will sweep and mop... he likes using the floor shiner...
He cleans... i love it... and hes starting to cook now too... the only problem i have with him is saving money and booze
ETA: He will clean anything... but i definitely clean more often than he does... I'd say 60 - 40 me...
AwaitingAugust
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i def clean more than he does, but he does help. i'd say i do 65% of the cleaning.
01ELLIE
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FH 'tries' his best to help me out with the cleaning but the only he really helps me out with is the dishes!!
he sweeps and mops but doesnt do a good job at all....he never cleans the bathroom, never does laundry (not sure if i trust him with it anyway)...the list can go on and on. LOL He is good and making the apt look tidy but as for getting down and doing some real cleaning NOPE that's for me to do
Rosalind_75
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i do the cleaning the only time he will pitch in is when we have company come over.
he cooks i clean i cook i clean.
christine2010
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the only bit of cleaning FH does is, clean the shower. i have a bad back & can physically not do it on my own. & twice a year FH helps me clean the windows.
other then that i clean every other inch of the apartment. including our clothes. i also have major OCD & there is no way FH will clean the way i like.
this works for us because FH does all the cooking.
jackieee
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Posted by AdriandSteve
we don't live together but FH does clean.
He cleans his pots and pans while he's still cooking. When he goes away he HAS to unpack the second he gets home. Folds laundry right away. makes his bed every morning.
He's better then me sometimes.
That's MUCH better than me! hahah I always tell FH, I wish one of us was a neat freak because sometimes we just let it get too messy, especially our bedroom.
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My FH is pretty clean..I do the 'regular cleaning' around the house but he never leaves his stuff around and will put all his clothes away and do his dishes. I can't complain about him cleaning!
However, I am a little old school and believe it is a wifes job to keep the house up...that's just me though!
DaniandKen2010
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I would refuse to clean if he did not split it with me. We both work full time there is NO reason why I have to clean more than he does. The only time I try and pick up the slack is when he is working FT and going to school at night.
