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Ugh...I know nobody is up this late but I needed to vent and knowing that someone at some point will read this and sympathize makes me feel better.

So I'm having a conversation with a friend who I haven't talked to in a while...and he asks how my boyfriend is...so I tell him 'Fiance now ' and he's like 'Wow really??? How long have you two been together again??' So I tell him it'll be a year in May...and he just goes 'wow....congrats....' So of course I was like 'Whats with the elipses?' and he says 'Its just kinda soon, that's all'


I'm sorry you are sad and alone and have never had a real girlfriend...but is that any reason to sh!t on my relationship?? If we know its right (which we do) why do we need to wait years and years??? Ugggggggh he should just be happy for me, fer real. This is the first of this I've heard...I'm now waiting for people to start raining this down on me, along with 'But you're so YOUNG' which I haven't heard yet either....I hope this is an isolated case....

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I am up!! haha, I have insomnia due to school stress.

DON'T let anyone upset you with a stupid comment like that, everyone has a freakin opinion about everything and how everyone lives their lives these days and it's ridiculous. Even if someone thinks that they should have more class than to say it. You and your fiance know what's best for you, this is like, the most exciting time in your life and you deserve to enjoy that. Don't pay that 'friend' any mind, I'm sure his comment comes from a negative place in his own life. Getting married after a shorter courtship is very romantic and if you're comfortable with that then that's all that matters.

Now cheer up and try to get some sleep!!

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It's a 100% unnecessary comment on his part. Someone will ALWAYS have a comment about someone else's marriage, whether its 'too soon.' 'ABOUT TIME- you've been together for 14 years', 'you're having kids before marriage!?' 'you're not having kids at all!?' 'You're marrying HIM/HER!?' etc etc etc. And you just want to roll your eyes at them, because they have no idea what they're talking about...

Everyone's relationship is completely different. Because of that, everyone will get a different yet equally annoying comment. But in the end, its all just complete crap. You know the reasons you're getting married and you know they are the right ones. Forget about everyone else. They probably have enough of their own problems to deal with.

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Ugh People will always have something to say. I am very sensitive, so even if they say something to me that I know is not true, it still really bothers me. Just try to forget about it! Some people just can't be genuinely happy for you and that *****.

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OMG.. i hate when people an so over opinionated. i knew people when we first got engaged who said, 'its about time.' i no longer talk to these people because i can't have such negative energy around me. i went crazy when someone would say that to me. i also feel the same way if you have been dating for a short amount of time.

really whats the difference if you are engaged after 1 year or after 9 years? there is no difference. we have been committed to each other for 9 years. everyone gets married at a time that is best for the two people involved.

just ignore people like that

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Sorry that some people are total tools.

Just smile and say 'when you meet your soul mate, you just know! It doesn't matter how old you are or how long you've bee together'.

Don't get defensive, just say that and make them feel really uncomfortable about giving you a hard time.

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people get jealous over other peoples happiness and ALWAYS need to make a comment about something...they never know when to keep there mouth shut...when u know hes the one you know it and there is no age restrictions on marriage and there def is not a certain amount of time that you two need to be together b4 you get married! I get it all the time....everyone says how im to young and i should wait and blah blah...FH and I have been together for almost for years and i know hes the one i am going to spend the rest of my life with so why do i have to wait another 5 years..you cant make everyone happy and it sounds selfish but honestly you gotta just worry bout you and FH bc you two are the start of your own family and your own life and you dnt need others to bring you down!

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people have a comment about everything..tell them to shut it

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ugh some people can be so rude!

i agree with you that when you find the person that is right for you than you just know....my sister was only dating her now husband for 6 mths before they got engaged. Our family was a little skeptical in the beginning but now i know they are extremely happy so i really do believe that it doesnt always matter how long you have been dating.

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honestly, i dont think it was a horrible thing that he said that. He didn't say it right away and it was just his honest opinion but wasn't saying anything technically negative about you, ur FH or the wedding itself.

If a friend of mine got engaged in a short amount of time i'd say something like imo it's kinda soon.

He did say congrats too.

this is just my opinion.

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Don't let that get to you. Like you said you know it's right and that's all that matters.

That's nothing, FH and I have been together for almost 9 years and his aunts tells my FMIL, 'oh so soon' when she found out we FINALLY got engaged. And then his uncle was like 'oh I wish we had a family discussion about this,' ***.

People just say stupid things because they're upset they're not getting married or if it's not their kids getting married.

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Posted by SummerBride10

It's a 100% unnecessary comment on his part. Someone will ALWAYS have a comment about someone else's marriage, whether its 'too soon.' 'ABOUT TIME- you've been together for 14 years', 'you're having kids before marriage!?' 'you're not having kids at all!?' 'You're marrying HIM/HER!?' etc etc etc. And you just want to roll your eyes at them, because they have no idea what they're talking about...

Everyone's relationship is completely different. Because of that, everyone will get a different yet equally annoying comment. But in the end, its all just complete crap. You know the reasons you're getting married and you know they are the right ones. Forget about everyone else. They probably have enough of their own problems to deal with.

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Me and my fh have been together for only a little over a year. There's people that are with each other for 10 years and end up divorced after a year or people who get married after a month and are married 30+ years.My grandparents have been married for 55+ years and dated only a few months. When you know, you know. Of course if you are extremely young then maybe I would think it over but I think a year is more then enough time. He's probably jealous. I had someone say that to me at work saying oh it's a quick engagement. It didn't bother me at all. Meanwhile he's been married only 5 months and his wife is 5 months pregant lol. I never thought of turning around and saying 'wow u wasted no time getting her pregnant'.

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Posted by Iluvpoodles
I never thought of turning around and saying 'wow u wasted no time getting her pregnant'.

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You should have

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Posted by MikesBride2B

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Posted by Iluvpoodles
I never thought of turning around and saying 'wow u wasted no time getting her pregnant'.

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You should have

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I attempt to be nice..well sometimes lol

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ill beat him up for u ilana.....

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you just have to be strong .. this wedding has made me grow a seperate backbone .. ive heard it all from ur too young , to how do u know hes the one .. and my personal fav ... so ur converting right ???


lmao , ull get used to it just brush them and keep planning ur day ... becausse its UR DAY not theirs

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Posted by 20mrsc10

people have a comment about everything..tell them to shut it

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I agree...people do have a comment about everything and you just gotta ignore it sometimes or tell them to shut it or whatever lol

but maybe they also didn't mean it that way and it was just their ignorant, stupid opinion. there's always gonna be people like that in the world

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Posted by SummerBride10

It's a 100% unnecessary comment on his part. Someone will ALWAYS have a comment about someone else's marriage, whether its 'too soon.' 'ABOUT TIME- you've been together for 14 years', 'you're having kids before marriage!?' 'you're not having kids at all!?' 'You're marrying HIM/HER!?' etc etc etc. And you just want to roll your eyes at them, because they have no idea what they're talking about...

Everyone's relationship is completely different. Because of that, everyone will get a different yet equally annoying comment. But in the end, its all just complete crap. You know the reasons you're getting married and you know they are the right ones. Forget about everyone else. They probably have enough of their own problems to deal with.

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I couldn't agree more with this. Someone at work asked me why I was having such a long engagement - when my engagement will be 1 year and five months. I don't see that as a long engagement...

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people will always have a comment to say about something. u and fh r the only ones that knows if its right and if u wanna get engaged at 1 month or a year. so tell hi to shut up.