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RP from LIF very long..I am just so hurt.

Jen2999 Posted:

RP from LIF very long..I am just so hurt.

I posted there in my FIT before, but i need some hugs from my LIW girls.

So Ive been out of the house a month. My brother has been out for years. My room and my bros room are in the basement and my sisters room is upstairs next to my parents room.

Anyway, I still have a ton of stuff in my room that needs to be gone through and stuff that I need to find places for. I told them that Id get to it asap but I needed to get the school year started and I have been swamped with grad work and school work.

PS..My little bratty 16 year old sister starts complaining that she wants my room and that I need to get my sh it out. I told her the world does not revolve around her and that I need time to do it blahblah. My parents agreed. NOT to mention...my brothers room has been totally empty for years and we use it for storage.

ANyway I was just talking to my dad on the phone and he tells me he and my sister picked out paint for HER new room and that he PACKED up my stuff and put it out in the basement (we have a large room outside our rooms) for me to go through when I get a chance.

I AM SOOOOOO MAD!!!! First of all, he could have frekkin asked! and second of all, she always gets exactly what she wants cause she yells and complains about it until my parents just give in. If she wanted to go downstairs so bad she could have taken my brothers room!

ARGH...I am so upset and I feel that packing up the rest of that room is something I kinda 'needed' to do, ya know? I guess it sounds dumb, but I spent 20 years of my life there!!

Thanks for listening guys...Im gonna go over there to check out the damage.

Update one:
Ok I just got home from a hysterical crying fight with my sister and father.

My sister is just the most selfish person on the planet...

25 years of my life just gone...they even PAINTED the room.

And they didnt 'box' everything up more like threw everything in bags ... My antique jewelry box from my gram that is like my most prized possession was on the floor with my jewelry like thrown on the top of it...DIAMOND jewelry.

My mom apparently had no clue they did this and is LIVID...she is out with my aunt and has been all day.

My dad just called to apologize....and I get it..he is a man and wouldnt understand why this would be so important for me, but Im just so hurt. I havent cried like this is such a long time. The thought of my sister and father going through all my stuff makes me want to puke.

Update two
The thing that kills me my brother sh it is still exactly how he left it. His cologne bottles still on the shelf, pajamas in the drawers, movies on his tv stand...

and he has seriously not lived home in 4 or 5 years!!!

I was going over there tues, wed and thurs this week cause DH will be away and my plan was to go through more stuff which they KNEW.

My mom is playing all innocent and trying to play me against my dad even more which is lovely.

Its like my entire life just thrown in piles on the floor...so hard to see. My sister is just the most selfish person I have ever met...she KNEW I would be upset and had the nerve to call my mom screaming at her on 'why she told me' ummm like I never was going home?

*****UPDATE
So my dad called and apologized last night and he came over today and apologized to me and DH separetely. He feels REALLY bad and I feel bad for making him feel that way BUT he knows it was wrong and he should have just called me. As for my bratty selfish sister.....she still refuses to even speak to me.
ssdbk Posted:

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Oh, I can sympathize. I think that your sister wanted your room because it was yours. Not so much to piss you off but because maybe she also has good memories there. But I think that you should have been given more time, especially because it sounds like they did not NEED the room right now. My childhood scrapbook that went up until my prom is missing b/c no one could find it after my mom packed up stuff of mine.

snydl40 Posted:

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You are absolutely right to be upset and I am sorry you are. They had no right to do that-especially since you were going there this week.
Meaghan729 Posted:

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i wouldnt be too upset. as a 'little sister', when my sister moved out, the car wasnt even down the block when I started to take over her room. her room was bigger, i was in the little room for 20 years.

at least everything is in boxes for you already!!
LandsEnd06 Posted:

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Oh my gosh that is horrible! I can totally understand why you are so upset. It is like she 'jumped in your grave' so fast. She didn't even let you finish cleaning it out. It is infuriating that your brother's room is just the way he left it 4-5 years ago. Hang in there and I totally understand. Your sister is being a typical teenager and wants it her way NOW!
klingklang77 Posted:

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Posted by Meaghan729

i wouldnt be too upset. as a 'little sister', when my sister moved out, the car wasnt even down the block when I started to take over her room. her room was bigger, i was in the little room for 20 years.




i did the same thing. the morning after her wedding i put what was left of hers (she packed everything that she needed into her new apartment before) out on the curb. i had never had my own room and was looking forward to having it for the first time in my life.

ETA: we shared a room.
nickipa Posted:

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cjb88 Posted:

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my little brother gets EVERYTHING he asks for because he whines and complains about it when he dosnt get it... when im told no i just accept it... it *****!

shellibean Posted:

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I am so sorry you are upset. I think I would be too! It's just that you needed to go through YOUR things in order to get adjusted to the fact that you are on your own, a wife and a homeowner. I hope that your family realizes how upset this has made you and your sister should also apologize to you, IMO!
patticakes Posted:

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I'm so sorry Jen. That's terrible. Of course it would have been therapeutic for you to move the rest of your stuff, I can completely understand that. Don't even tackle it right now because it will just make you more angry and resentful. Give it a while, let yourself come to terms and then do it little by little. Leaving all those bags directly outside her door couldn't hurt either
dbleplay17 Posted:

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i totally understand. My mom put all my stuff in garbage bags and put it in the garage when I told her i was coming after things settle down with the school year also.

She always does stuff like that to me. I remember when my room was crazy messy....she went in with a garbage bag and threw my clothes in it and said o well now it is neater!

I was in tears also. But room wasnt going to be used right away...my grandma was going to move into it but my mom acted like she was moving in the day i was moving out.


SweetCin704 Posted:

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Oh Jen, I'm soo sorry. I'd be really hurt and upset
MrsStefan Posted:

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Oh Jen!!! That is very frustrating! I agree, you 'needed' to clean out your room and go through your own things. I would imagine it would feel so violating to have someone else pack up all of your worldly possessions. I don't know if there is much I can say to make you feel better so here are some
kathrynlinton Posted:

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I am so sorry...it is hard being the older sibling. I had some of my stuff in my parents storage space b/c DH and I were living in a TINY apartment. As soon as we moved into our house, my parents were like 'great, drive out here and get your stuff', so we did.

Turns out my sister still has stuff there, and she lives in a HUGE apartment by herself. But just because she bitches and moans, they are paying for a storage space just for her stuff. Oh and she lives 5 minutes away.

Poor you. I am so sorry.
Tria1110 Posted:

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I'm sorry you didn't get the chance to go through your things yourself. Completely being devil's advocate here - but It is over two months since your wedding - life is busy - maybe they thought you would always have a reason (even legitimite) not to get to it.

Jen2999 Posted:

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Posted by Tria1110

I'm sorry you didn't get the chance to go through your things yourself. Completely being devil's advocate here - but It is over two months since your wedding - life is busy - maybe they thought you would always have a reason (even legitimite) not to get to it.



True...but I didnt move out right away. I was still living home until august-ish.

Im just upset that it was done the way it was thats all.

KellyBride Posted:

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kissy27 Posted:

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You have EVERY right to be upset Jenn! It's is amazing that your sister is so eager to move on into your room after only 1 month! Why didn't she pick your brother's room which has been empty longer!

Also, I think that your dad should have let you been the one to go through your stuff & sort through it but not at this very moment! I am so sorry Jen!!!
Jen2999 Posted:

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beautyq115 Posted:

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Awwww Jen

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