rudest thing someone said about your wedding planning ( taken from 05 boards)

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by ant n tilde

ha ha probably my mom saying i am going to have the most boring wedding ever.

or the countless people asking why i would plan a wedding when there could be a blizzard

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why is she saying that? I am sure it will be a great and fun wedding

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thanks - i hope so!
but i told my mom i dont want to do some of the traditional things, which i know LOTS of girls on here are NOT doing either but for my mom it is a big deal- like i dont want to do the bo-k and garter thing, no organized dances stuff like that, i think all pretty common things to leave out now . . . but to her it is like the biggest deal ever! she even tells people who are invited that they should expect a boring wedding!

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No not true at all, sometimes when theres too much going on such as gotta keep sitting for dinner, then toasts and all these other things it takes away time from the guests enjoying themselves.

The rudest has definitely come from my mom (big surprise there)

We're not worried about you right now. Mary's getting married first.

(Mary is my sister)

and my favorite

I'm the one to blame for her not being able to enjoy either of the weddings because I'm getting married too soon after my sister and she doesn't have enough of time in between them. It's too expensive for her and I have no consideration.

(there's almost 6 months between the weddings and FH and I are paying for EVERYTHING on our own except for my attire for the day which my parents are picking up the cost of. So far we aren't expecting his parents to pick up anything either as they haven't said anything about it.)


Oh and P.S. on top of paying for practically an entire wedding on our own, I'M throwing my sister her bridal shower and paying for it!

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Posted by BubbasBride

There have been several but my two favorite are:

'March? Stinks that it will probably snow and a lot of people won't come'

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'I heard you are not inviting children. Just so you know, my son is home crying right now and I just hope he doesn't wind up hating you'

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someone really said that about their kid...Yeah just say hey fine ill invite your kid wanna pay the extra money for him or hire a sitter for the wedding to watch all the kids, people are so annoying...First of all this is not even an event for children

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someone really said that about their kid...Yeah just say hey fine ill invite your kid wanna pay the extra money for him or hire a sitter for the wedding to watch all the kids, people are so annoying...First of all this is not even an event for children

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she told me since the # of kids we would have to invite is about a table and a half, I should call all the parents and ask them to give us money toward their plates.

I told her the decision has already been made and that's it. ugh.

i just thought of another one

a lot of people ( almost everyone at first) said it wasnt offical because i didnt have a ring

but we couldnt afford 2,000 on some small thing he got on his knee and gave me a pretzel and said we'll get me a nice ring when the time is right

All I can say is WOW

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by BellaLaz

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Posted by Espo22

For me its people making comments about how big my bridal party is, how many guests we are having, and its not close friends or anything like that, its more acquaintances that aren't even invited to the wedding.

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That's cause they're jealous they're not IN or INVITED to your wedding! lol

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very few people who made comments are invited but very few. Eh whatever let them say what they want ya know.

The one comment i hate the most is 'oh it must be so nice to have your parents helping out' and then they go on about how they'll have no help...Its not like my parents are paying for the WHOLE wedding...I am paying a decent amount, in fact its more like my parents and i are paying half and half, but his parents are also going to contribute now so actually i will split my parents costs and his parents so it will be less for my parents so overall i am paying the most which yes is how it should be...at first i told my parents that FH and I will pay for the wedding and if they want to help they can pick something or things they would like to pay for such as the cake or the dress....My dad got mad and offered to do more

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ohmigosh i understand this - i told FILs that my parents are paying for certain items ( like my dress) and they go on and on saying that they hope i know how lucky i am and they dont have to do that and they cant believe my parents are doing that ( meanwhile, like you, my parents are not paying for EVERYTHING - just what they can afford to and i AM so thankful for that!)

so i guess that means FILs are not helping at all since they are making such a big deal - even though i just found out that they did not pay a DIME for their own wedding their parents split it ( yes i know it was different and more affordable back then but still!)

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Yeah so next time say yeah i know its so great that my parents are being so helpful...Let them talk, i think this also has to do alot with feeling upstaged and stuff like that. People always have something to say.

Yeah even if it was cheaper it doesn't matter, people didn't make as much as they do now and during that time weddings were expensive for them too

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Posted by Espo22

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Posted by BubbasBride

There have been several but my two favorite are:

'March? Stinks that it will probably snow and a lot of people won't come'

and

'I heard you are not inviting children. Just so you know, my son is home crying right now and I just hope he doesn't wind up hating you'

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someone really said that about their kid...Yeah just say hey fine ill invite your kid wanna pay the extra money for him or hire a sitter for the wedding to watch all the kids, people are so annoying...First of all this is not even an event for children

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ohmigosh i cant believe someone said that - that is terrible. . .i hear so many horror stories about parents with little kids!

the funny thing is that i AM inviting kids and so far all the parents i have talked to have said 'no way i am leaving them home i want to have a good time!' lol people are just never happy!

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Posted by BubbasBride

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someone really said that about their kid...Yeah just say hey fine ill invite your kid wanna pay the extra money for him or hire a sitter for the wedding to watch all the kids, people are so annoying...First of all this is not even an event for children

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she told me since the # of kids we would have to invite is about a table and a half, I should call all the parents and ask them to give us money toward their plates.

I told her the decision has already been made and that's it. ugh.

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yeah but an extra table means an extra centerpiece so more money right there too, people dont think seriously

Mine was my aunt who said if I do it on Long Island no one will come, and she doesn't understand why I just don't get married in the court and throw a cocktail party at a nyc restaurant.
It's like yeah, thanks for the kind words and supporting my dream of having a special day..., I'm already worried enough about people not coming because family mostly in chicago, and pennsylvania... It is getting stressful and hard

i have been pretty lucky so far, the only comments i have gotten are...'oh, you are suppoesed to be the one whos all excited about the wedding' (regarding me be only a little stressed about planning)...it's not like i'm not excited, of course i am! But planning a wedding is hard sometimes. people are so rude sometimes though, i cant believe half the things you guys are saying! Hugs to all of you

I'm sure I could write a book!

I called my uncle and told him the news. I'm not going to go through the whole conversation but a few quotes.

'You're engaged? Why would you want to do that?'

'I didn't even know you were dating someone... oh that guy?'

'I guess congratulations.'

After this phone call I told my father he was in charge of telling people!

OH and my father said

'Don't expect my family to come!'

You can't get married then, that's the Belmont weekend (my family races horses )

Why so long?

Oh so your not buying another e-ring, why You have enough money

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Posted by jds593

not rude, but morbid-
from the grandparents...

Why 2008? I'm afraid I'llbe dead by then... can you push it to 2007?

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OH MY GOODNESS,,, that is funny

The oddest / rudest ones that I have gotten so far:

was questioning of WHY i picked so and so for MY bp by someone who i dont plan on asking... and them saying they dont know her, so i should rethink that....

and secondly, a friend (who would never be asked in to my bp, because we are not close at all) told someone that i plan on having in my bp that she didnt want to be in it due to money contraints so that they should pass it on to me! Thanks for the notice

from fh's family

we got..

'you can't have a Friday night wedding.. no one will come..' to which i responded.. I can't afford a Saturday and they said have sunday and I said I don't want Sunday and they said ' You don't matter.. don't be so selfish.. think about everyone else'

ALSO

' Oh no that bridesmaid dress is no good for my daughter you have to pick a different one or she will just come in a totally different dress' to which I replied.. if she comes in a diff dress she isn't walking down my aisle!