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Seeing FH before ceremony

JmJBride Posted:

Seeing FH before ceremony

If you saw the groom before the ceremony, or plan to, how are you doing it? In private, in front of your bridal party, with your parents?

newnybride2be Posted:

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My wedding is soooo far away, but we plan on seeing each ohter before the ceremony. We are taking pics before that way we can enjoy the cocktail hour.

Goldi1021 Posted:

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It is customary in Judaism for the bride and groom to see each other at least twice. Once is to sign the ketubah (marriage license) and the other is at the bedeken. The custom of bedeken recalls the predicament of Jacob, who thought he was marrying Rachel only to discover, after the ceremony, that he had married her sister Leah. The tradition now is that a bride and groom see each other before the ceremony to make sure everyone is who they need to be. Leah was the older sister of Rachel and acording to their father needed to be married first. She was heavily veiled and Jacob was not able to see her face when they got married. He eventually married Rachel as well.

So yes, I will be seeing FH before the ceremony. Truth be told it is actually very nice to have pictures of the customs. FH will NOT see the dress however. Some things need to be a secret.
pattyp Posted:

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We plan on seeing each other before the ceremony. Not sure exactly how it will work, but it will be a moment just for the 2 of us. We are arriving at the Westbury Manor before our parents, so we can have our moment. Our photographer (Patken) says they will definitely help make it a special time and capture it.

wc0143 Posted:

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We got ready together in our house with the bridal party. I mean, I put the dress on behind closed doors & made an entrance but otherwise he was around when hair & makeup came, etc ... it was very nice & relaxed.

JenNeen Posted:

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We're doing pictures before the ceremony. We won't see eachother until I'm all done up and at the restaurant - I want him to see me for the first time in front of the photographer (hopefully to catch a picture) and the bridal party.

SFP0214 Posted:

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I am not seeing FH.. But if I was I would arrange a private meeting somewhere special. Maybe give him a nice card or poem or something.

eogara Posted:

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We're doing pics before the ceremony. The photographer will set the 'moment' up. Likely, the BP and parents will be sort of in the background and they'll give us about 10 minutes to be 'alone' together.

Hallowedding Posted:

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We live together, so we are going to wake up together that morning, but get ready separately. I want that moment when he first sees me in my dress, with my hair and makeup and veil to be caught on camera and video. I don't know if I'll wait until the ceremony for him to see me though, he probably won't react as dramatically because he'll be intimidated by all of the attention on him/us.

buckles Posted:

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We are staying in 2 separate rooms the night before the wedding. So that morning we will travel separately to the hall and then the videographer and photographer will orchestrate it where they capture the fist time we see eachother. MY dad wants it the same way too. Very cute.

Sweetness Posted:

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we did it immediately after i got out the limo since we got married at the same place as the reception hall. Doug from Patken took frank over the side and then I walked to him from behind. Everything was captured on film and video. I loved every minute of it and wouldn't change a thing

Bunnymonkey Posted:

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I'm hoping Duet will orchestrate something nice when he arrives at the house for pictures.

Paula1210 Posted:

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we are also taking pics before the ceremony bc the cocktail hour starts immediately after and we dont want to miss a thing!

LMFitz Posted:

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We're doing our pictures (before the ceremony) at the Planting Fields in Oyster Bay. I plan on having a quiet moment somewhat staged, where he can see me by himself and we can have a few minutes alone to speak to each other. Also, I plan to ride alone with him to the church, so we can have a few final quiet minutes before the craziness of the wedding experience begins.

littlebookworm4 Posted:

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We're going to Vanderbilt Museum before hand for pics so we'll get to see each other first in front of the bridal party

David'sbride Posted:

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Yes we are. The setting will be staged in the bridal suite. Just us and the photographer. MOH is going to blindfold FH and lead him into the room.

We are doing all pics before hand.
randella Posted:

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We did not put much thought into it- thought we'd do it in the bridal suite at the hotel that we are both getting ready at.. But then one of the coordinators suggested we do it at the Carltun- so this is what we are going to do- he will go over a head of time- I will travel with the rest of the wedding party on our 'Limo-Bus'- then we will stage something there to do the first glimpse of each other.

palebride Posted:

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Posted by eogara

We're doing pics before the ceremony. The photographer will set the 'moment' up. Likely, the BP and parents will be sort of in the background and they'll give us about 10 minutes to be 'alone' together.



that's exactly how we did it also
becks23 Posted:

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We're taking pics beforehand and our photographer is going to set up a 'moment' for us to first see each other..documenting it all on film and video!

danielleb Posted:

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We live together, but he is staying in a hotel the night before the wedding. The first time he will see me is when I walk down the isle. All my friends and my sister had their pics before the wedding and I don't think they would change a thing-so its really a matter of opinion.

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